Overreacting?

am I really overreacting? Or is it just 8 month pregnancy horomones getting the best of me?

So, this weekend is the 4th of July weekend, and this being my fiance and I's first 4th of July together I really wanted to spend it with him. We have so many plans with there being two families, and most of these plans seem to be happening on the same day. It doesn't help any that he wants to go to the comic shop to hang out with his friends.

Today I got a text from his step mom telling me that they're having a cookout at their house... which I found was just lovely, because theirs is at 3 and the one at my moms is around 4. I was trying to figure out what to do so we could make it to both of them to see both families. Well... on his way home from work Cory calls me, and tells me that he's going to go out to his parents (by himself) and I can go to my moms. Then he's going to pick up his friend after he leaves his parents house and go to the comic shop. Remind you he wants to be at the comic shop at 4 and will be there till 11.

Being me, and all that I've already stated.. it really pissed me off, and he asked what I thought about it (he knows I'm pissed but I just said whatever) because he'll most likely do it anyways. When he gets home he keeps trying to hug on me and asking me if I'm ok, and all this stuff, and I just want to push him away and tell him to leave me alone right now.

Finally he asked me if I want to go out to his dads with him (so now I'm thinking wow... I have an opinion..wow I'm shocked) At this point I'm still mad so I tell him no I don't want to go out to his parents with him, and he asks if I want him to go to my moms and again I told him no. I'm to the point that I don't even want to go out with him to his aunt and uncles for their cookout Saturday.

I kinda feel like he just pushed aside the fact that I had feelings and maybe wanted to go with him or spend time with him on the 4th of July.. then once he realized that he upset me he tries to figure something out thats going to work... once you have me upset... talking to me is no good.

I know this is long and I'm ranting, but I want to know if I'm overreacting or if anyone else would feel the same way in this case?

Quoting Lissa & Baby Daykota:“ am I really overreacting? Or is it just 8 month pregnancy horomones getting the best of me? So, this ... [snip!] ... this is long and I'm ranting, but I want to know if I'm overreacting or if anyone else would feel the same way in this case?”

nah I'm the same way pregnant or not! lol

i would probably act the same way since i am stubborn like that...

but from the outside looking in - he's just being a typical guy... and it took him a while to figure out he kinda fucked up... but at least he changed his mind and offered to do the things you wanted - beforehand! and so i think you should cut him some slack for that... a lot of guys would have just said.. well i already fucked up so might as well do what i want. but he offered to do what u wanted and then u rejected that idea too and now he must not know what the hell it is you want. guys are quite simple minded and im sure you've got him all confused on what to do now thats he's to the point of thinking - man nothing i do will be right now!

also.. if you dont cut him the slack and do what u wanna do just because he didnt think of it until later... then in the long run you will be upset more because you chose not to do those things!

at least thats how i see it... i know i would totally have acted the same way as you did coz thats just how i am.. but i'd think about it later and regret it... so do something while you still can!

hope this helps.

See, thats why I posted this, to figure something out because I know I'm not thinking clear... and blah.

UGH.
I swear this is never going to end.

He just checked his credit report, and he has a freakin house morgage on it...
And he doesn't even have a house!
So.. this would be all his mothers doing, so we have to figure out something to get his credit figured out.... ugh.

Hi, Lissa! I'm the same way - it takes me a while to get me out of a blue funk, especially if I got irritated by something hubby did and he should have consulted me first. After a few moments he'll be all sweet and cuddly with me but I'm not interested.. He'll do it because I usually give him the silent treatment if he does something I don't like... (that's the problem with me too - I expect him to be a mind reader... Though he sometimes is, with me and my moods!)

I don't think you're overreacting though.. It's the way you feel - and with us ladies, there's always sentiment involved in the firsts - this IS your first fourth of July together after all   And I agree with Jynefir, we do have to give him credit for turning around and asking how you feel in the end (though it may be too late!)  

Hopefully you feel less irritated with him and still be able to enjoy the 4th of JUly with him  

We kinda figured things out, but I feel super bad now, becasuse he isnt going to spend any time with his friends, just because I want to spent our first 4th of July together...so I'll have to work out soething sometime that way his friends can come over and they can all hang out... its hard to get them all together, especailly with him only having every 3rd weekend off... that blows

Thank you all tons for your words and advice!

you have every right to be pissed   it's not really overreacting!!
what's he gonna do for 7hrs at the comic shop anyway?! n why can't he do it another day?! being that both families have plans n he too, is expected to be there, the both of you TOGETHER, not separate..

i do think tho, as much as you don't wanna, you have to sit down n talk with him rationally... tell him just what's on your mind...
that you're going thru a rough time emotionally as well as a lotta stuff becuz of the hormones n you really need him to support you thru it... you wanted this one day together n he can't even do that for you... like why can't he do the whole comic shop thing 2morrow on the 3rd?! if it's sucha huge deal for him... or whatever...i dunno...
but he really needs to step up n be a man if he's gonna be a daddy...

oops sorry... i'm too late anyway...
i was busy napping when you posted that   n i'm just now checking my email to read about my week 34...which got me to finally look at my baby-gaga stuff...

i'm always late   SORRY

Quoting --Sienna's Mommy--:“ oops sorry... i'm too late anyway... i was busy napping when you posted that   n i'm just now checking ... [snip!] ... checking my email to read about my week 34...which got me to finally look at my baby-gaga stuff... i'm always late   SORRY”

Ah, its fine that you're late!! I still read it!

And what he would do at the comic shop is play Magic the Gathering, they have 2 tournaments on friday, and like 1 or 2 on sat. and thats the only day they do them, and this is his first friday off in like 2 months or so, so he hasn't been able to go play magic with his friends.