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So me and my so are getting a place together in the very near future. in August to be exact..Thing is neither one of us has ever lived with someone other than our parents. I'm worried we may drive eachother crazy do any of you have any advice to make the transition easier on each other. I want to not strangle him lol.. plus we have a wedding in the works for next summer July 22nd! All input would be much appreciated!

Lay down house rules and expectations from the beginning. One of the problems me and DH had was that we were raised VERY differently and had WAY different ideas about how to clean and stuff. We each said what we thought about cleaning and what was considered "clean" and what wasn't and then came to a compromise. Cleaning was our biggest problem. Oh and discuss your pet peeves too. Like he hates when I put my purse on the floor when I get home and I hate that he leaves his shoes by the front door. Stuff like that. Congrats BTW!

give each other plenty of space. Just because you live together doesnt mean you need to be together 24/7. Just like when you lived seperate you need time alone and your own space.
I find that as long as my fiance and i have at least a little time to still enjoy what we enjoy we are much more likely to compromise on other things!

Divide up the chores.  If you cook, he should clean up.  Always clean up after your own messes.  If you disagree on what to watch - be sure to have two TVs!

yeah we are the saem when it comes to cleaning lol we are both very messy and we both love playing vid games.. he just has some friends i really don't care much for.. thank god he ahs already out grown them.. they are losers without jobs ewww.. and i'm not saying a person without a job is a loser.. but a person who has no intention of getting one and living off his mom at 24 def is!

Quoting Sherry & Winnie in love..:“ yeah we are the saem when it comes to cleaning lol we are both very messy and we both love playing vid ... [snip!] ... a person without a job is a loser.. but a person who has no intention of getting one and living off his mom at 24 def is!”

His friends sound like my hubby's family members! His bros and sisters and cousins are all around that age or OLDER and live off his grandparents and have FOREVER with no intention of trying to get out on there own. Some of them DO have jobs, but they still mooch and ask for money and stuff while they WASTE the money they earned on tattoos and clothes. Annoying!

Quoting ~Expecting #2~:“ His friends sound like my hubby's family members! His bros and sisters and cousins are all around that ... [snip!] ... jobs, but they still mooch and ask for money and stuff while they WASTE the money they earned on tattoos and clothes. Annoying!”

yeah he HAD friends like that til i pointed out that he cannot progress in life carrying around there dead weight so he has def cut them out for the most part. Plus both of them had like really creepy crushes on me so he was already put off when they told him about that.. stupid right lol.

Quoting Sherry & Winnie in love..:“ yeah he HAD friends like that til i pointed out that he cannot progress in life carrying around there ... [snip!] ... both of them had like really creepy crushes on me so he was already put off when they told him about that.. stupid right lol.”

Yeah definitely! Good thing he got rid of those guys. Too bad we can't "get rid" of DH's family...*sigh*

Quoting ~Expecting #2~:“ Yeah definitely! Good thing he got rid of those guys. Too bad we can't "get rid" of DH's family...*sigh*”

yeah you can pick ur friends to bad we can't pick our families.. sitting in heaven as babies.. going through catalogs.. hmm i like this one nice house set away a college fund good neighboorhood.. no history of laziness or alcoholism.. i think i choose this one! lol we would def get our babies sooner...

Quoting Sherry & Winnie in love..:“ yeah you can pick ur friends to bad we can't pick our families.. sitting in heaven as babies.. going ... [snip!] ... neighboorhood.. no history of laziness or alcoholism.. i think i choose this one! lol we would def get our babies sooner...”

Exactly. LoL

Quoting ~Expecting #2~:“ Exactly. LoL”

btw gratz on the pregnancy! Sticky dust to ya!

Thanks. I've been a little worried since I got prego again so soon...I hope that doesn't have any effect.

I've read your recent threads. I'm sorry for your loss.

**Baby Dust**

Quoting ~Expecting #2~:“ Thanks. I've been a little worried since I got prego again so soon...I hope that doesn't have any effect. I've read your recent threads. I'm sorry for your loss. **Baby Dust**”

I am ok I have come to the realization that when i stress bad things happen so we have adopted an if it happens it happens attitude and have decided not to try but to obviously bd alot and not prevent!.. We need to be able to enjoy it while handling the whole moving in together thing to take some of the edge off!

Just make sure you make time to be apart. My fiance and I just moved in together about 2 months ago and we're just now getting used to it. I never thought it would be that hard! We constantly were bickering. Just remember that you're both still your own people with some of the same interests, but also some different ones. Make time to hang out with your friends too, not just him. Good luck though!

Quoting Sherry & Winnie in love..:“ I am ok I have come to the realization that when i stress bad things happen so we have adopted an if ... [snip!] ... not prevent!.. We need to be able to enjoy it while handling the whole moving in together thing to take some of the edge off!”

That sounds good   That was the general concept that DH and I used both times and everything's going great. Good luck to you sweetie!