re: just my imagination??

Like a week ago.. after i had 1st posted this.. i had got off work and i was driving to his house.. it was in the morning.. and i called him and said i was coming over there.. we had been arguing too so i wanted to go talk to him.. and he freaked out saying i better not go there cause he hadnt taken a shower yet.. and i was like well im almost there.. so i hear him getting in his car and hes like "Well i just left so and ill tell my mom not to let you in so you just need to go home and ill pick u up after i take a shower.." i mean.. why does he care all the sudden? i've been around him before when he hasnt showered.. unless like someone had snuck in his house the night before or something.. or maybe he just didnt really wanna talk to me.

& things between us are better now. so we were talkin on the phone this morning and he was telling me he went over his minutes by 500 minutes.. and i was like.. how did u go over when we havent even been talkin on the phone.. and u dont talk to anyone else really.. and hes like "i dont even know how i went over.."

i mean..ive told him that i thought he was cheating on me.. and he said hed never cheat on me.. what guy would be like "yeah sorry i am.."

ugh this sucks.

Okay, that is some WEIRD behavior.... 

Most guys won't admit it, but if I were you I'd definetly try to find out what's been going on with him because that sounds like VERY suspicious behavior. 

Sorry you're dealing with this crap. Hope it gets better.  

Quoting ~Ashley Nicole & a girl!~:“ Okay, that is some WEIRD behavior.... Most guys won't admit it, but if I were you I'd definetly try ... [snip!] ... on with him because that sounds like VERY suspicious behavior. Sorry you're dealing with this crap. Hope it gets better.  ”

i really dont know how to find anything out. i dont wanna be a stalker.. and its not like i can just get him to admit anything..

The only thing I can say is he distancing himself is sort of a sign but you also need to remember hes probably overwhelmed with emotions just as you are. Were you guys together a long time before you got pregnant? Was it planned? I think you should just try and talk to him in a calm manner, dont get an attitude or start yelling or anything. If hes defensive then it may be a sign, but just try not to stress because its not good for you or the baby. Also, I am married and I always have my phone on silent because I just dont feel like hearing it ring off the hook. So I dont think you should worry about that. But goodluck I really hope everything works out .

Do you get the phone bill or does he ?

Yeah, we have been together for about a year and 2 months.. and it wasnt planned.. haha he is 17 and im 18.. we both still live at home so his mom gets his phone bill.

but ya.. i was just talking to him on the phone about an hour ago and i asked about it again.. and why he left his house just cause i was going there.. and he told me that he did that cause we were arguing and he was mad at me.. and i wouldnt listen to him when he told me not to come... so i guess he didnt want me to have my way... and he said he really doesnt know how his phone bill went over.. he told me the people he had called or the people that called him.. he named his guy friends.. and i guess hes been talkin to them more since we have been fighting a lot. should i just believe what hes saying? is it believable??

Quoting Mommy2Be1209:“ Well,I just had a feeling, because I was hearing from people, and he was constantly over at girls houses, ... [snip!] ... maybe...it worked, and he never even suspected it was me...really sad I had to go that far, but I didn't know what else to do!!”

No. Don't feel bad. This was real smart of you to do. I like it. Because the cheaters always think they are the smart one.

From my past experience is that they ALWAYS accuse you of cheating when you havent! That is #1 sign that they are. My bf acts like that too but he cheats on me with porn. He better pray to god he doesnt cheat because I will come down on him with the wrath of god.

Quoting courtann10:“ Yeah, we have been together for about a year and 2 months.. and it wasnt planned.. haha he is 17 and ... [snip!] ... guess hes been talkin to them more since we have been fighting a lot. should i just believe what hes saying? is it believable??”

That's a tough situation to be in. I've had some iffy moments about my guy recently but I'll approach him respectfully about situations, he'll give me an explanation, and I choose to believe him because I love him and the time we spend together is amazing. He used to distance himself alot from me but I guess it's because he got tired of all the arguing and suspicions. Since I've learned to have more respect for him, he's been treating me alot better too. 

If you love this guy and you trust him and you want to make it work, maybe you could give him the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes for awhile. If any other fishy behavior comes up, I'd address it. It's all what you're willing to deal with. Best of luck with everything. =]

Quoting courtann10:“ Like a week ago.. after i had 1st posted this.. i had got off work and i was driving to his house.. it ... [snip!] ... he was cheating on me.. and he said hed never cheat on me.. what guy would be like "yeah sorry i am.." ugh this sucks.”

& ur preg right now????

Quoting noemy:“ & ur preg right now????”

yeah

Quoting courtann10:“ yeah”

& when r u due????

thats bad u shouldnt get stresed out because of it... it can be bad for ur baby

if u really wanna know what i think..ur pregnant..
he is a man...and ur pregnant.
1st kid..
they boy is scared out of his mind.
give him some time.
shit im married and dont live with my hubby.
he NEVER calls me on time..and somedays when i want to come over he says he just wants to play his xbox 360 all day.
it doesnt mean he is cheating on u.
and if u think he is..why r u still with him?
relationships with NO trust NEVER work.
and right now..ur pretty much saying ur not trusting what he is doing when ur not around.