David has informed me that he has NOT told his parents or family that he has a son. He doesn't intend to be a part of Reagan's life and doesn't think his parents should know.

I don't know his parents names....but with a last name like Blue, they shouldn't be too hard to find. I figured I would start with the first Blue in the phone book and go from there.

What do you all think? Do his parents have a right to know? Should I tell them or just let it drop? I think his parents should be able to make the decision on whether or not they are a part of Reagan's life....not David.

What do you think?

i think they should know. even tho he doesn't want anything to do with his son, they would probably be devastated if they found out someday down the road they had a grandson who's life they weren't a part of

Quoting Sodypop Girl:“ David has informed me that he has NOT told his parents or family that he has a son. He doesn't intend ... [snip!] ... should be able to make the decision on whether or not they are a part of Reagan's life....not David. What do you think?”

They have a right to know, but it would be better for it to come out of his mouth. Upfront "introduction" is an insult... I've seen it happen too many times before. Hopefully he can be a man and tell him. But if he keeps refusing, do a different approach. Send them a picture or something or just make a phone call. It must be progressive. Hope everything works out.

Quoting *alyssa*:“ i think they should know. even tho he doesn't want anything to do with his son, they would probably be ... [snip!] ... they would probably be devastated if they found out someday down the road they had a grandson who's life they weren't a part of”

I agree. I have been contemplating this for weeks and am afraid of coming off as weird to these people by dropping a little boy on their laps. But my mom is the one who said that she would be devastated if my brother fathered a child and she never had the opportunity to know.

I have seen a situation similar to this. My brother and one of his girlfriends had a little girl together, he didnt tell us about her. The mother called my parents when my niece was around 4 months old, and she brought her over to see us. My parents now have custody of the little girl because of some bad circumstances with the mother, but if she hadnt brought her to meet us then the state wouldnt have known about us and how to get ahold of my parents and she would have been put into the states custody. I'm grateful that i met my niece and that she is in my life. I think that if you want them to be in your sons life that you should tell them, but let them know that David does not know you are contacting them.

Watching - Dion hasnt told his family he has a child either (he doesnt even know that she is a girl - since he hasnt asked me).

I'm afraid that if I start calling people out of the phone book with the last name Blue....then word will get to David and he will be upset.....but why should I care? Im upset with him for the way that he is treating my son.

Im so glad that you got to meet your neice.....I hope things continue to work out for her and your parents  

Quoting Sodypop Girl:“ David has informed me that he has NOT told his parents or family that he has a son. He doesn't intend ... [snip!] ... should be able to make the decision on whether or not they are a part of Reagan's life....not David. What do you think?”

I think that you should tell them... Obviously he's not going to... but his parents might want to know and see their grandson... My grandparents didn't know about me until I was 17.... I'm 24 now and still haven't met them because they live in another state, but I do talk to them..... I'm just sorry that I didn't know them growing up. But if I were you, I would tell them.

Quoting Kailyn's Mama:“ Watching - Dion hasnt told his family he has a child either (he doesnt even know that she is a girl - since he hasnt asked me).”

Nice. What is wrong with these men? When I called David after Reagan was born, he said "Thanks for letting me know".....didnt ask any questions about gender, weight, etc.....broke my heart.

She's a darling little girl.....hopefully he'll come to his senses before its too late.

I think you should call 'em up! They should have the chance to meet him if they want to.

Do it!

I'll probably be in the minority, but I don't think it's any of your business that they know. In a blue sky world should they? Probably. But in a blue sky world, a father would want to be inhis child's life. I think you'd be overstepping a huge boundary by contacting them. Calling them because you're upset with him and hoping that it throws a bit of shit on him in the process isn't the best motivation for it. Better to appeal to the father's nature and hope that he sees that his son deserves all the love and support he can get in life than to jump up the totem pole and cause drama with his entire family.

Quoting ♥B♥:“ I think that you should tell them... Obviously he's not going to... but his parents might want to know ... [snip!] ... state, but I do talk to them..... I'm just sorry that I didn't know them growing up. But if I were you, I would tell them.”

Thank you. Are you close to your grandparents now? Or has it been a struggle meeting them so late in your childhood?

Quoting jnazmom:“ I'll probably be in the minority, but I don't think it's any of your business that they know. In a blue ... [snip!] ... son deserves all the love and support he can get in life than to jump up the totem pole and cause drama with his entire family.”

I see where you are coming from. It's not my intent to cause drama and Im certainly not doing it out of spite. I really could care less about David. I do care that he is in Reagan's life, but I dont care at all about him.

Thanks for your opinion.....I need different views so I can make a better decision on what I should do.

Quoting I ♥ Gavin Lennox:“ I think you should call 'em up! They should have the chance to meet him if they want to. Do it!”

I always know I can count on your support!  

if i were in your situation i would be on the phone finding mark's parents so they could know they have a grandchild. just because he does not want to see his child why should his parents miss out on that little one.