I trust him, But I'm not sureee..

Okay. So I love my husband. I truley truly do. But before we were married we had an open relationship, and even after he had told me he loved me, when he went home on leave he slept with three girls
yeah I know
It frustrated me so bad but he wasnt sure
obviously we worked it out
Well.. yeah.
Okay so Hes in the Navy and deployed right now> Hes on a surface ship now, so its males/females. He just came from a sub, which means only males

Well, he told me he was trying not to masturbate while he was gone (5 mo) I knew it wouldnt happen, but he told me one time that he ahd slipped and in the same convo he was telling me about how he had been talking to his co workers about me and how i was bi, and how SOMEITMES it got interesting (different story) anyways.. well i guess some chick, he said she was cute, and said something else i was like "uh huh uh huh" said "oh really, well it could get interesting" well he said she was cute so im like.. wahtever. anyways. he said he did some "research" and found out she was like a ship slut. soooo.. Im thinking. .hmm. I know my husband. why would he even bring that up?
and I know hes been spending a gawd awful amout of money that he doesnt need ot spend.. HELLO BOAT WITH EVERYTHIGN YOU NEED ON IT.. why the hell did he spend oalmost 600 in less than 2 months? ehhhh??? anyways.
And he only calls me like 1/2 times amonth.. when I KNOW He has money, and I KNOW he has a phone card righ tnow
and he keeps telling me he wants me to renew his debit card so he can buy mre stuff instead of just stuff on the boat, like flowers for me or something
why do you tell me that??
gahhh
I dunno
maybe im just. thinking too much

Maybe it's late and that's why I'm having trouble understanding, but are you thinking that he's cheating on you with this other chick?

Quoting msplainjane:“ Maybe it's late and that's why I'm having trouble understanding, but are you thinking that he's cheating on you with this other chick?”

because I know my husband and its a gut feeling. why would he bring up how cute she was and how I might like her if she wasnt the "slut" and tell me he broke his vow to himslf in the same convo less than 5 minutes apart from eachother

i might be wrong
and I'll never really know
but

Is it cheating if you have an open relationship? Im not being rude. I just dont know how it works.

so many red flags in that post i know you want to trust him but dont be blind
you got to respectyour self and tell himthat you dont like what your seeing

Quoting nnnicole:“ Is it cheating if you have an open relationship? Im not being rude. I just dont know how it works.”

we're married now
we HAD an open relationship in the beginning of our relationship

Quoting RikkiTikki:“ we're married now we HAD an open relationship in the beginning of our relationship”

Ah.

i dont think its open any more

Oh so he was trying not to masterbate the whole time he's gone? I"m going to be honest it does sound fishy. Did you just come right out and ask him or tell him how you felt? Will you be hurt if in fact he did something bad?

Quoting msplainjane:“ Oh so he was trying not to masterbate the whole time he's gone? I"m going to be honest it does sound ... [snip!] ... fishy. Did you just come right out and ask him or tell him how you felt? Will you be hurt if in fact he did something bad?”

He was trying not to.. i knew it wouldnt happen
But like.. when he told me he broke.. was when he told me about the convo with his friends and this "cute chick that i would probably like"

no i didnt tell him ebcause it didnt really .. come into my mind until later
and i havent heard from him since
so I dunno

so is he acting differently that other time he been deployed

Quoting antonette:“ so is he acting differently that other time he been deployed”

when he was deployed before he was on teh Carter, thats the Top secret one. They dont tell you when there going to be back, no emails no phone calls.. but also no females.

i would ask about the money4 sure

Quoting antonette:“ i would ask about the money4 sure”

  

Quoting antonette:“ i would ask about the money4 sure”

i have because once he ike took about 100 out of the account and left me with80 bucks for a month
afte bills
im like youdont understand
we have bill s now. you dont live with your mom or have the navy take care of everything anymore
and now you have a kid on the way
but when i went to the bank i found out HOW he was taking out money
and i found out when i told him he could take out 20 for a phon card he took out like 60
im going to find out how to block it
i think
so he has to call me and ask me for money