One of those "what if" questions

So earlier today I saw a car crash. Nobody looked like they had been hurt badly but I started thinking about it later on and my morbid little mind started playing out different situations.

I always wonder what will happen to my children if I pass away but what about my unborn child. If I am dead obviously the child will die with me but what if I am only brain dead with a functioning body. Would my husband choose to keep me alive for the sake of the baby or choose to let us both go. I'm only 5 weeks and the pregnancy doesn't seem real to either of us. What do you think your SO would choose to do in a situation like that? What if you had to choose for a relative, say your sister or even your daughter? Could you watch them lay there, essentially dead for months? Do you think it would make it harder for you to say goodbye in the end or easier?

i told my husband before when i was pregnant that if i was dead i would want them to keep my body alive as long as possible to keep the baby safe if possible. i thought about it after seeing some story about it on the tv. it was fictional but it got me thinking.

Totally depends on how far along you are. At 5w, I'd let you both die. At 33w I'd hold on to you for 2 more weeks.

If I had to make the choice from someone else I'd keep them alive. I'm the kind of person that no matter how bad a situation is I always think it'll get better. If it was me, I'd definately want my SO to keep my body alive, that way he'll have something more permanent to remember me by.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Totally depends on how far along you are. At 5w, I'd let you both die. At 33w I'd hold on to you for 2 more weeks.”

That's pretty much how I saw it too. I haven't asked my husband because he hates those kinds of questions but I think he'd let me and the baby pass. It would just be too hard for me to watch someone I love barely alive for months on end.

Quoting J&LsMommy:“ So earlier today I saw a car crash. Nobody looked like they had been hurt badly but I started thinking ... [snip!] ... them lay there, essentially dead for months? Do you think it would make it harder for you to say goodbye in the end or easier?”

If I were a TTC woman and finally became pregnant, I would want my SO to keep me alive but if I could concieve on a daily and was pregnant at 5 weeks, away we go...33 weeks on the other hand, I would want to stay alive long enough for the sake of the baby,,,,

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ Totally depends on how far along you are. At 5w, I'd let you both die. At 33w I'd hold on to you for 2 more weeks.”

I think my husband would do the same thing if it were me.

Quoting J&LsMommy:“ So earlier today I saw a car crash. Nobody looked like they had been hurt badly but I started thinking ... [snip!] ... them lay there, essentially dead for months? Do you think it would make it harder for you to say goodbye in the end or easier?”

I dont know what my husband would do. I really dont. If I was almost full term I think he would keep me "alive" and save the baby, but if I was really early on I dont think he would. I really wouldnt care either way in that situation, being dead and all lol I will let him make whatever decision works best for him.

Quoting mama3:“ I think my husband would do the same thing if it were me.”

I just told DH my response and he said he agrees...this is how he'd handle it too.

I honestly dont know...I am half and half.......I would want to be kept alive or even keep someone else a live just for that if factor of a miracle that happens....but then again I am like well if you need life support to keep you alive then your basically dead already and thats Gods choice not mine. I would be so confused on what to do.

I told my husband if anything happned to me I would expect him to keep me on life support long enough for the baby to be born.


I don't know about making the choice for a family member. It would honestly depend on who it was and how far along they were.

Honestly? If the child were viable, I'd want to be kept alive. If there was no possible way that the child was viable outside of the womb...I would say just let us both go. I know it would be difficult for Rae (she had a real tough time reading my advance directives), but that is the way I would want it.