I want to give the baby everything

Everybody has been praising me over my decision to give the baby up for adoption. I know that I would not be a good mother. Yeah, I want the baby, but no, I don't want the responsibility.

This family has a house, good income, a great neighborhood, cute dogs, and just so many opportunities. The woman is quitting her job to spend time with the baby. I know I'll always be out at school and I couldn't love it to the best of my ability.

Earlier on in my pregnancy I was so in love with this family. Everything seemed right. Well my boyfriend has been needing his space from my clinginess so I've been left surfing the internet. I stumbled upon this one article about how this man shot his wife and nine month old baby while they were snuggling in bed.

Even in the beginning, the man always had something strange about him. It was obvious that he was sucking up. The woman is an absolute angel and I'm not worried at all. But there has always been something sinister in that man's eyes. I noticed it our first meeting ever. But I was just four months then and I didn't care. Better them deal with it then me, right?

Well my mentality has changed, and at our last meeting the man even hit on ME. The couple has been married for four years and I can see they don't agree on some subjects such as spankings. He's for, She's against. He wants her to work, she wants to be there full time for the baby.

I'm scared, I'm only sixteen and I can't take care of the baby, I don't want to. The baby deserves to have everything, especially a stable household. Is it just my hormones in full swing telling me something isn't safe about this man? I want to do the best thing for this baby, but I don't want to put her in any danger.

What should I do?

find a different family... its not too late to change your mind, right?

I'd go with your gut instinct.

I would go with you gut instinct.

yea i suggest maybe trying to find a different family!
... if you like her but arent trusting him then why would you put the baby in a situation when your not trusting someone right!?

and yes go with your GUT!
good luck hope it all works out for you! 

Go with your instincts, because if something were to happen you'll regret it for the rest of your life. I suggest seeing if there are other options out there other families wanting to adopt your child.

FIND ANOTHER FAMILY AND TAKE YOUR TIME PICK SOMEONE WHO GIVES OFF BETTER VIBES. IMPRESSIONS ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT ON PICKING A FAMILY AND ASK FOR REFRENCES IF THEY REALLY WANT YOUR BABY THEY CAN PROVIDE REFRENCES AND ASK THEM HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THE FAMILY.

If your not 100% then you'll always wonder. I say go with your gut.

Search for another loving family. Tell them why you changed your mind. Go with your gut hun. Its hard but there are wonderful people out there needing and wanting a baby in there lifes. Good Luck on the search

Find a different family. You have to feel comfortable and know in you're heart that they are right for you and your child. I gave my baby girl up. I am here if you ever need to talk, I just went through everything you are going through, feel free to message me anytime.
Good luck.

agreed find a different family.
I mean I kind of praise you for atleast being honest saying you dont want the baby.
Try & talk to them also, i know that sounds werid but express to them how you are feeling.

wow thats a tough situation i think you should talk with the family maybe about your concerns

either talk to them about it or search for another family. You have the right to change your mind.

You need to find a different family. If you aren't comfortable now, you'll never be comfortable.

i have so much respect for someone that can do what you are doing.

but deep down you still have a 'mothers instinct' and you need to go with your feelings.
at the end of the day its your babies happiness that is important but also yours. you are going to go through a difficult situation and it will be even harder if you just dont feel right about the family.

best of luck x