single 18 year old mom to be.

i honestly am going to post this mainly to rant, but to get a point across to some girls as well. I'm 18, gonna be 19 in september. & i'm 5 months pregnant with a boy (& very happy). i just hate the fact that i have to do this alone. the father is long gone, he doesn't want anything to do with this at all.. & i just hate the fact how common this is among us younger moms to be. its ridiculous how a guy can make the adult move of having sex, but when the more serious consequences come of it, they back out. i'm just warning you girls, please be careful.. a boy can talk to you & make plenty of empty promises & then in a split second leave. which is why i'm glad i found this website. there is a lot of support you can get, & just because you are pregnant & it wasn't planned doesn't mean you have to abort, either. its all your decision. & trust me, he said if i didn't get the abortion he'd leave.. & he wasn't kidding.
i just want a little support right now, ladies. anything will help, cause i know most of you know how emotional you get while your pregnant, & i'm having that right now times a million.  
thanks a lot.

Quoting brittibabyy:“ i honestly am going to post this mainly to rant, but to get a point across to some girls as well. I'm ... [snip!] ... most of you know how emotional you get while your pregnant, & i'm having that right now times a million.   thanks a lot.”

Hey girlie. I'm 20, I'll be 21 in Feb. I kinda feel you... I was with this guy for 4 1.2 years.. he is being there for the kid but a pregnancy is so emotional. You need someone beside you for all of it. The thing we gotta remember is there si difference between alone, and lonley. Any thing is possible. We just need to keep moving and do what;s right for our babies. If you ever need a friend, PM me... I know I sure as hell need one.   Congrats on your pregnancy. From the sounds of it, you will make a good mom. You already took the first step in being a mom.. you kept going.

Best of luck to you!  It sounds like your up for the challenge of being a single mom!  I hope you have a strong support system!  Hang in there - you can sleep at night knowing you made a good decision.

It sucks that you are having to go through this alone, but it will SO be worth it in the end! It will be hard, but it will also be rewarding! And, chances are, that once your little buddy is here, his daddy will see what he is missing out on, and then feel like shit (which he deserves) My friends boyfriend left her until their son was almost 2. He even told everyone that Jake was not his. But he finally came around, and they are now happily married, with 2 kids. I am not saying that it will happen in your situation (and you might not even want it too) I am just saying that YOU will be happy either way! Your son will be a guarenteed smile, every single day! No matter how bad the day is. So, just keep your head up! All of the hard times will be paid back ten fold with happy times with your little boy! Best of luck to you!  

im going through the same problem but im 21 and the father was a little younger than i was. im 3 months and i havent spoke to the baby father for that whole 3 months. The thing is he lied to everybody saying that he is not the father but clearly he is . ive been depressed for most of my pregnancy and i can never open up to another guy. Everyday i say to myself , "you going to be okay" and " you have alot of family and friends that are there for you " . It keeps me going everyday to have someone by yourside, good luck girl.

Quoting brittibabyy:“ i honestly am going to post this mainly to rant, but to get a point across to some girls as well. I'm ... [snip!] ... most of you know how emotional you get while your pregnant, & i'm having that right now times a million.   thanks a lot.”

sorry about your situation
i dont know what your going through becuase my boyfriend is a "REAL MAN" and stepped up to the plate with me.

good lukc and congrats!

You know what if he isnt man enough to step up then it is his loss and it really is cause there is nothing more amazing than being a parent. Just focus on your pregnancy and doing whats best for you and your baby and you can do it. I have been there and in the end it will only make you stronger.

Good luck sweetie and you sound like you are going to be a great mama.

Well, I am a bit older than you, and luckily I have a husband who is supportive. But a few years or even months ago, I could have been in the same situation as you. It occured to me the other day that even though I *know* my husband isn't that kind of guy, he could just walk away and ultimately, it would be ME who is responsible for this baby. And that scares the crap out of me. I've have a lot of friends whowere / are young single mothers. Although I don't know exactly how it feels, I can take a guess at how overwhelming it is.If you ever need someone to talk to, or vent to, feel free to talk to me. Keep your head up. You can do this.

thank you thank you all so much, i've just been really down the past couple weeks & reading all of this has a huge smile on my face. i started crying when i read all of these.. you guys have no idea how much it helps.. thank you so much guys  

Quoting brittibabyy:“ thank you thank you all so much, i've just been really down the past couple weeks & reading all of ... [snip!] ... on my face. i started crying when i read all of these.. you guys have no idea how much it helps.. thank you so much guys  ”

Trust me, I know what you mean. It's all so difficult to take in, and when you feel all alone it makes it that much worse. I don't know if you have a good support system behind you but I hope you do. Cause girl I am ALLL alone.. my family don't support this, the BD left me for another woman, his family talking trash about how I am a hoe & "did this on purpose", and most of my friends too. But you don't need anyone. You need to know that on BG there are women who can offer words of wisdom cause they been through it or been through worse, and you need yourself to support the little life inside of you. I know my son isn't here yet but one day he will be and he;ll thank me for all the shit I did and put up with just for him to be ok.

Quoting brittibabyy:“ i honestly am going to post this mainly to rant, but to get a point across to some girls as well. I'm ... [snip!] ... most of you know how emotional you get while your pregnant, & i'm having that right now times a million.   thanks a lot.”

i know somewhat of how you feel. my bf didnt leave he stayed a while and fucked with me head an made me think he was gonna be there but then he just finally left and i hope its for good. he would tell me he was gonna be there but then not call me for a week or 2 at a time, then come back with the same empty promises and do it all over again. this time i havent heard from him for 2 weeks. i am 19 weeks pregnant and im trying to learn how to do this all on my own. it is gonna be harder than anything i have ever done before. but if ive got people to support me (it doesnt have to be the father) ill be ok. and with support, you will be ok too. if you ever need anything, you can talk to me. myspace is www.myspace.com/slitxmyxwristsx i know the url name is a bit out there but yeah. you can always reach me on myspace. take care and good luck!!

ok well hows this to make you feel better me and my baby dad were together off and on for 5 years then we tryed to get pregnant well not like TRYED but we stopped taking BC and said if it happend we would be happy well it did the first time with nothing lol two months later he left me and hasnt ben back sence and his son is now 4 months old and has never seen him once but the best part is one month after he left he gotanother girl pregnant and is now living with the two of them taking care of his daughter every day!

Quoting kamerons mommy:“ ok well hows this to make you feel better me and my baby dad were together off and on for 5 years then ... [snip!] ... month after he left he gotanother girl pregnant and is now living with the two of them taking care of his daughter every day!”

Wow, what a complete jerk! You're way better off without him. He'll do the same thing to her eventually. That's just awful.