Custody Battle??? ( Vent)

I have to say I agree with everyone that men shouldn't get to walk away without having any responsiblity. I get told all the time I am so luckily cause I get weeekends to myself. To be prefectly honest I completely hate when my boys are gone. I feel just staying in bed till they come home. The other thing is how my oldest son dad doesn't NOTHING I mean NOTHING. He send his 60 year old mom to pick up his son. Doesn't do any doc, therapy, autism, teacher appts. but yet I can't make him do anything I don't know if he evens see his son. My oldest never never talk about him to me. In six years they have took me to court Three times. Hisdad ask me for a abortion when i told himI was pregnant.I told him no.Well now his mom want custody and they suing for full custody of my oldest son. They are doing just to be mean and hateful. Just cause they know he would hurt me and my other son greatly. I am not prefect. I don't try to be. but I do the best I can. I work with my sons everyday. They are close. I am so afraid about what this will do them be split up like that. I don't think the judge will do it. but I know them. if they dont' get what they want they will take me back to court again, again, again.....All i want is grandma to step back and Dad to do what he is supposed to or get out of my way. Just so ya'll know I have never took him to court. His Mom has POA on him. She keep taken me back on his behalf.......Sorry. I honestly wish he would take his money and go away. My son doesn't even want to see him everytime he has to go. he cry to stay with me. He doesn't like going..........Sorry just bugging me need to vent.

That must be hard on you!! I would be so upset if someone tried to take my child!!

Why does she have Power of Attorney? That right there proves that he can't take care of himself, much less an autisctic child! His mom has to prove you an unfit mother, don't give her any reason to and there's no way in hell he'll get your son!

I already hads my oldest son when I married the first time.He left me took off to PA with his new girlfriend. .......I am married right now but dad has disappear on me. I have a feeling he is cheating....when he was here he would always go outside to talk on the phone if i ask who had called. I got my butt chewed out about how that was none of my business. I need to shut up.....Once he find out i was preggy he left and disappear.

Quoting AutieMomma05:“ I already hads my oldest son when I married the first time.He left me took off to PA with his new girlfriend. ... [snip!] ... chewed out about how that was none of my business. I need to shut up.....Once he find out i was preggy he left and disappear.”

Some men are such arseholes!! Youhaven't had much luck at all!

Quoting CynthiaRenee:“ Why does she have Power of Attorney? That right there proves that he can't take care of himself, much ... [snip!] ... child! His mom has to prove you an unfit mother, don't give her any reason to and there's no way in hell he'll get your son!”

Supposely, They have that on him cause he works so much. She can take care of his stuff for him Not to mention he is 32

I can totally relate to your situation. I am in the middle of something similar, except that my kids' BF (biological father) hasn't taken visitation in over 2 years by his own choice. When I went to DSS to get child support (which since he doesn't work, is only $50.00/month that he doesn't even pay!) he took me to court for going against our original custody agreement. So here I am preggo, and having to fight him in court..I took all our savings and paid a lawyer trying to get "supervised visitation". BF has been involved in a shooting and domestic violence towards his new wife during these past two years, not to mention an ongoing drug problem.

Good luck with your situation. It sounds like you have a strong case against him. Just hold your head up and don't give into those people. I am blessed in that ex MIL sees her sons behaviour as unacceptable and stands behind me in the battle.

Quoting AutieMomma05:“ I have to say I agree with everyone that men shouldn't get to walk away without having any responsiblity. ... [snip!] ... to see him everytime he has to go. he cry to stay with me. He doesn't like going..........Sorry just bugging me need to vent.”

I'm sorry for all you're going through.

I will say, though, that I'm in the minority in my belief on paternity responsibility. My daughter's BF (biological father) decided two months before she was born that he wanted nothing to do with me or her (he didn't want to pay child support), and I haven't talked to him since then. He has never seen her, and he knows nothing about her...and he hasn't tried to contact me since he told me to f*** off back in November.

All my friends told me that I should take him to court for child support. However, I didn't take him to court, and I don't ever plan to. Quite frankly, she and I are both MUCH better off without him, and while I know him paying child support does not mean he automatically gets visitation or partial custody, I knowthe jackasswould take me to court if I took him for child support. So, I live on a VERY tight budget and am living with my parents until I can get a better paying job and get back on my feet, but the struggle is all worth it if it means he's not in our lives.

Also, I just have to throw this out there...a woman has the choice to have an abortion if she doesn't want to have a baby, and most people wouldn't look at her any differently, so why is it that when a man decides he doesn't want the responsibility of a child, he's considered a deadbeat?

Food for thought.