OK...I'm a little hurt by this...(Vent)

OK...so my husband and I will be celebrating our sixth year anniversary this Saturday, July 5th. I'm excited about it, of course. I mean, who wouldn't be or why should I not be, right?

Well I guess by my "friends" way of thinking, not so much. Just a little background on her...
Last May, her husband just up and decided the life they had together was not what he wanted. They have a 3 y/o daughter and have been married since...I want to say around 2004? They had been together since we got out of hugh school at age 18 though and they eloped so I can't really quite remember what year they were married in but I think it was 2004. Anyway...so he left and then she started finding out that she never really knew him at all. Because all while she was being the best girlfriend and then wife she could, he was messing around on her at every turn and she didn't know it. He told her he had never been faithful to her their entire relationship. Bummer, I know...I mean because why get married and have a kid then? But some guys are just assholes, so what are you going to do?

So ever since she's been broken up with him, he's not really been doing what he is supposed to and I have been helping her out financially when she needed help. He made much more money then she does and now he doesn't give her anything because he's paying his girlfriends bills.Just here recently, I went with her to find a decent apartment but she could afford the rent but not the security deposit. So even thoughshe still owes me money from last July for paying her rent on her old apartment to keep her from getting evicted, I just paid her security deposit on her new apartment for her so I know she has some place nice to live with her daughter. I mean she's been my friend since we were 15 years old.

So yesterday, we were talking and I was asking how the new apartment was and had she met any of her neighbors and such. And she was telling me about a couple across the hall who is having a baby and they are going to be celebrating their second year anniversary the same day as my husband and I. And I was like oh how nice or whatever. And then she goes on to say, "Yeah the girl was telling me that her and her hubby met on the net and all that, and it sounds just like you and Chad." (My husband and I met over the web...just a chance encounter that neither of us dreamed would turn into much but it did, of course). And I was like you know wow...whatever...and then she says, "Honestly, I'm surprised yall are still together because those kinds of relationshipsNEVER work, or the guy just ends up not being any good anyway. I am so shocked you and Chad have been together as long as you have. I wouldn't be surprised if yall were divorced before you make 7 years even though I thought you'd be divorced way before even making it this far. JMO."

Now...is that NOT a SHITTY thing to say to someone, especially someone who is your friend? I wanted to counter back with "ummm...you were with a guy you didn't meet on the web for YEARS and he cheated on you from beginning to end and is now living with his mistress. Married men don't usually leave their WIVES for the mistresses but I guess in your case, it happened." Or something mean, but I didn't. I basically just told her that was really messed up of her to say.

I dunno...should I be as hurt as I am or is it pregnancy hormones taking over my emotions?

Sorry so long, but thanks if you took the time to read it...

I think she is probably just jealous that you are having your anniversary and you and your hubby are doing so well...

People can say some dumb shit to people...

I would be pissed. It was a very inconsiderate thing to say. You have more gumption than I do tho bc I would have for sure said something mean back. So thats on your part...

I think that it was a little harsh, but It's probably not really her saying that. She may just be a tad jealous of what you have.....

I think you should tell her how it made you feel...

Its supposed to say "Thats good on your part" lol

It is not her place to tell you that your relationship isnt going to work out because you met over the web. That's ridiculous! Honestly, I know a lot of people who met over the web, and have a deeper relationship than most couples who meet the conventional way.
Besides after everything you've done for her, if I was her, I'd keep my opinions to myself and thank god that I had as good a friend as you!

I would have told her something!

I met my bf on the web also, and now we have beeen together almost three years. Living together for almost a year & our baby boy is 8-months-old.


He has been the best boyfriend ever, way betetr than the assholes I met in RL.

She's probably just jealous, ignore the comment & enjoy your life with your husband. Whom you are obviously very happy & inlove with.  

yeah i think she is just hurting inside and she doesnt realize that she wants to make you hurt in a way. tell her and im sure she will feel bad about it and apologize.

You have better control of ur emotions than me because I would have whooped her ass right there pregnant or not. She's just jealouse cuz ugot a good man and she didn't..

Quoting Marissa Marie:“ yeah i think she is just hurting inside and she doesnt realize that she wants to make you hurt in a way. tell her and im sure she will feel bad about it and apologize.”

I think so too!!
She probably doesnt even realize what she said.

Yea you should be hurt by what she said that was her being a friend to you that was her being a BITCH cuz her man left her and told her the truth about there relationship. I understand thast she is your friend but i would ask her why she even thought that you and your hubby wouldn't last to begin with?

Quoting ~*~Amanda~*~:“ Its supposed to say "Thats good on your part" lol”

I understood what you meant, lol. And I think part of the reason I didn't say anything hurtful back to her is, well, first because I know she's going through a lot. She's been through hell this past year and I really do feel for her. I know how hurt I was when my ex cheated on me while I was pregnant with my son and got the other girl pregnant too! And going through a divorce while pregnant is no fun at all. So I just told her, "You know that was really shitty of you to say and I am going to hang up before I say something that totally ends our friendship evern though clearly, you don;t care about it as much as I do." But I did ball my eyes out to my husband for a good 10 minutes...

You are very right - guys are guys no matter how you meet them!
Somehow, people can mask who they are entirely... I don't know...
It really sucks that she's going through that... Is she going for child support?

And yea, she probably feels like, since you're her friend, she's entitled to say anything she wants... so she said that. But I honestly think that she is just trying to justify why her relationship didn't work out, that it wasn't *her... and it makes her feel better to say that no one else is going to last in their relationship. I bet she doesn't realize it, but she's jealous, she wants you to hurt like she does... It's probably hard for her to see you in such a successful relationship when she thought she had such a good one.

Don't let it get to you, you're being a good friend. Just don't let her get too used to taking your money... Over time, people can forget that they aren't entitled to the help, and be demanding or even pushy.

I don't mean to sound like I'm speaking badly of your friend... at all! I really feel for her & hope for the best!

Quoting Brenda-♥ the Bewbz:“ I would have told her something! I met my bf on the web also, and now we have beeen together almost ... [snip!] ... jealous, ignore the comment & enjoy your life with your husband. Whom you are obviously very happy & inlove with.  ”

Yes, thank you. We are very much in love. I was just thinking how on our first year anniversary, we went to Chicago for the weekend, andwe got dressed up on our anniversary and went to the Palms for dinner.I had to use the restroom when we were leaving and he waited for me by the bar. Well the restroom was up a spiral straircase and whenI was coming back down, he was watching me and the way he was looking at me, smiling this big ol' goofy smile...lol...it was classic! It's amazing that he still looks at me the same exact way today.

Quoting Zack & Zari's Mommy:“ OK...so my husband and I will be celebrating our sixth year anniversary this Saturday, July 5th. I'm ... [snip!] ... as I am or is it pregnancy hormones taking over my emotions? Sorry so long, but thanks if you took the time to read it...”

I'm guessing that you're not just feeling that way because of hormones... That is seriously messed up for her to say. Not only because it was mean and harsh, but because she had been keeping it in for however long obviously.

I wouldn't have held my tongue if I were you. I would have let her have it. Why would she think you'd be divorced by 7 years if you've made it to 5?! By the way CONGRATULATIONS on making it to 5 years.

Uggh. I'd definitely let her know she was out of line, wait til she paid me back the money she owed (if I thought she was going to) and then I wouldn't be her friend any more. I know you have been friends for a long time, but seriously true friends don't say things like that. At least not unless there is cause, which from what I know there isn't.