so rude

okay so yesterday i was at my sisters house. We were both pregnant with girls only i had my duaghter in december insted of april. Yesterday she hands my neice to my mom and goes here you go your frist granddaughter. I seriously wanted to slap her. she knows how sensitive i was about going over because of that fact. She was like im glad your having a boy cuz now i have the only girl. I think its way heartless im sure she doesnt mean it in a bad way. I dont know how to talk to her about it.

Your sis was completely out of line! It sucks that you have to deal with her insensitivity!

Yea but i'm sure she's probably kicking herself...and she'll apologize. If not shes a heartless bitch!

Quoting BABY BOY ON BOARD!:“ okay so yesterday i was at my sisters house. We were both pregnant with girls only i had my duaghter ... [snip!] ... have the only girl. I think its way heartless im sure she doesnt mean it in a bad way. I dont know how to talk to her about it.”

I would have layed that bitch out!!!! The first granddaughter is now an angel. She existed. If even for a moment she was still here and she existed.

I would tell your sister this...........
"I have a daughter. Sheis the first granddaughter. She was here for only a moment but that doesn't make her life less significant because she is gone. She is very much loved and very much apart of this family.Just in a different way now. For you to say such ignorant things hurts me and should you continue it will damage our relationship as sisters."

This way you have made it obviousthat she hurt you and you remind her that shehas a niece that has gone on to heaven. It also will serve as a wake up call for her. maybe she will get the hint that such trash is not appropriate to talk.

I am sorry for your loss and congrats on the little boy!!!

Quoting Gio's Mommy!:“ Yea but i'm sure she's probably kicking herself...and she'll apologize. If not shes a heartless bitch!”

well sometimes it seems she is heartless. she turened 18 in sep. my older sister is 23 and had a 28yr old bf. my older sister went on vaction for 2wks and came back and her and her boyfriend were trying to work on there relationship. Turns out my little sister who made the rude comment was hooking up with him got pregnant and everyone is supposed to be happy. Her boyfriend who my older sister kicked to the curb were together for a year and a half. its super odd cuz i am really close to my older sister and everyone is acting like things are normal.

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ I would have layed that bitch out!!!! The first granddaughter is now an angel. She existed. If even ... [snip!] ... she will get the hint that such trash is not appropriate to talk. I am sorry for your loss and congrats on the little boy!!!”

Its not the first time she has said it. my neice is 4wks old now and when she was like 2wks old she was like i have the first girl in the family. I was like actually she is the second. she was like yeah i know but you know what i mean. she thinks im to sensitive about it and i should be happy cuz im having another baby anyway.

Sounds like your little sister is a low class tramp and your family is allowing her to get away with way too much. Your family needs to hold her accountable for her actions.

So what if you are having another baby. You still had to bury your daughter. That pain will always be in your heart. Of course you should cherish your son but never forget your daughter and don't stop loving her.

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ Sounds like your little sister is a low class tramp and your family is allowing her to get away with way too much. ... [snip!] ... Of course you should cherish your son but never forget your daughter and don't stop loving her.”

i agree completely..
im actually upset for the OP, her sister is being an inconsiderate whore >.< i want to slap the sister

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ Sounds like your little sister is a low class tramp and your family is allowing her to get away with ... [snip!] ... will always be in your heart. Of course you should cherish your son but never forget your daughter and don't stop loving her.”

at first everyone was upset about it. my brother still cant stand her bf and my older sister doesnt want them in her house. my mom says no matter what we swhould let that ruin our relationship with her. She already ruined the relationship when she crossed that boudry she was 17 and a runaway turns out he was keeping her at his house. Hes a huge perv in my eyes.
It is a way sensitive thinking about my daughter still. In a way i was a bit relieved when i found out i was having a boy. I thought it was selfish for a bit cuz i felt if i had a girl i wouldnt be able to deal with her as well as i would a boy. I love my daughter so much and i know it wouldnt be replacing her but the thought of having another girl was making me an emotional wreck. I am way thankful that my little one is healty and doing my best to stay stress free. I dont want to seem like an outcast but i think i need to have a break from my sister for the next 11wks.

Quoting BABY BOY ON BOARD!:“ well sometimes it seems she is heartless. she turened 18 in sep. my older sister is 23 and had a 28yr ... [snip!] ... for a year and a half. its super odd cuz i am really close to my older sister and everyone is acting like things are normal.”

Thats horrible!
She's probably the type who loves getting attention, at anyone expense.

Quoting BABY BOY ON BOARD!:“ at first everyone was upset about it. my brother still cant stand her bf and my older sister doesnt want ... [snip!] ... to stay stress free. I dont want to seem like an outcast but i think i need to have a break from my sister for the next 11wks.”

It is time she took responsibility for her own actions. I would force her to be held accountable and say what I told you. At the very least, you have said what you needed and she had to hear you.

Good luck!!!

I know if someone said something like that to me (especially a relitive) I would be upset! I agree that it would be better for you to keep away from her for your pregnancy to reduce the stress!

Oh, I just wanted to add that we have a lot in common. I daughter was stillborn last July at 35 weeks, and I'm now pregnant with a little boy, due October 24th!   I totally understand where you're coming from about being relieved that it's a boy. Though I would have been happy either way, I think I would have been alot more nervous if it was a girl. Good luck and if you ever need to talk I'm here!  

I don't think there's a thing wrong with "gently reminding" her that her daughter is not in fact the first granddaughter. You are not being over sensitive, she is being INSENSITIVE!
Sorry she made you feel like poo....it is best for you to stay as stress free as possible, and if that means avoiding her like the plague than so be it!

Blessings~
Steph