re: Why is she acting like this.

Good Luck...don't feel like a bad mom. You're a good mom that cares enough to seek advice when at a loss instead of doing nothing like some people would do!

Quoting countrygirl@thebeach:“ Good Luck...don't feel like a bad mom. You're a good mom that cares enough to seek advice when at a loss instead of doing nothing like some people would do!”

Thanks. I apprecite all the advice. I hope it gets better soon! Thanks.

She is still not talking to me today . I asked her what she wanted me to make for breakfast and she wouldnt tell me so I made blueberry pancakes well she loves pancakes and I gave them to her and there she went again!! My mom asked me if maybe she could spend the night with her and maybe it would help. So she is going to my moms house at 3 and hopefully this works.  She said maybe she needs a break because honesly no one is hardly getting any sleep lately. Maybe she needs a break.

Well my daughter was at my moms house since 3 then she got sick! She came home and actually hugged me and was talking to me like the little girl I remembered. Besides having a sick husband and 3 vomiting children everything is good right now!! I hope this is permanent.

That's good. Nothing like being sick to make you want Mommy!!!

Quoting countrygirl@thebeach:“ That's good. Nothing like being sick to make you want Mommy!!!”

Yea. I hope she feels better soon though. I hate seeing my kids like this. Maybe since she is sick she will feel like shes getting attention?

It sounds like your doing a lot to please your child even when she's acting out. I I.e. making her favorite pancakes even when she's acting like she could care less. I used to do that all the time. Then my husband pointed out that i wasn't teaching respect i was teaching how to suck up. One thing I have done with my 5yr old son and 12 yr old stepdaughter is treat them the way they act like they wants to be treated. So if she's yelling at me i would look at her and say"it sounds like you don't want to be around the rest of the family so your excused. " Firmly send her to her room. Later i go in and say. We'd like to have you back do you feel like you could be respectful. If they don't answer I just leave them in the room. Its time away instead of time out. I try to think of it as me getting a break so i dont lose my sanity and they can do what they want in the room until they are going to act appropriately. If they scream they don't want what i have made for dinner then I calmly and firmly excuse them from the table. but i don't let them have anything else until the next day. I will just save a plate of dinner for them to choose to have later. Again i just send them to the room. it has taken six months but they are alot better than they were when i started. I really think acting as if you are not phased is the key as long as you make a point to let them know they are loved and wanted when things calm down. If it's in public it's trickier but you can tell them they have earned a set amount of minutes of time away as soon as they get home. One other thing i have tried on the hardest days is to go help them pack a bag and tell them that they can "camp" out under the kitchen table since it seems like they need a break from a cranky preggo mommy. I try to make it fun with books and a few snacks they don't always get . I use that for the days when i have been on their case so it doesn't become something they act out to get.. I'm not evil and even i make pancakes sometimes when i'd rather eat something i like but i think its needful to be firm. And always Praise Praise Praise.

Quoting Gina Davidson:“ It sounds like your doing a lot to please your child even when she's acting out. I I.e. making her favorite ... [snip!] ... pancakes sometimes when i'd rather eat something i like but i think its needful to be firm. And always Praise Praise Praise.”

Thanks for that advice. That really made me think. I think you may have helped me out A LOT!! Thank you.

Update!!

I had a talk and everything is okay now.
Her friends parents are getting divorced and me and my hubby had a small argument a few days ago. Well she thought that was going to happen with me and my husband. I told her absolutely not!! I explained to her why sometimes things happen like that and today she is fine. Talking to me and everything.

She is grounded from the computer for 2days because of the attitude but now everything is normal!! Thanks for everyones advice.