re: Maybe I Just Need To Say It [lvery ong]

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ So what if this is my first post..honestly..I think that you ALL are messed up in the head. How is ... [snip!] ... matter if he begged her to take him back. Are you all raging sluts? Is that why you guys think that what she did was okay??”

do US a favor and go jump off a bridge......maybe play in traffic...

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ I've already admitted to my mistakes. I am sorry that I do NOT support raging whores! I have never ... [snip!] ... You know why my life is so wonderful? Because I made the right choices in life to get here. Can you say that about your life?”

stop repeating yourself.....

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ Do you want to know why I am so hard on her? I have another sibling (I have a total of 10) who is ... [snip!] ... my family. I am considered high risk during my pregnancy. I am hospitalized all the time because of my condition (U.Colitis).”

Sounds like our situations are pretty similar. I have a sister who, like yours, has made everyone's lives around her difficult because of her own selfishness. She has several disorders, depression, bi-polar disorder, she isa sexual deviant with an additive personality. She has been in and out of mental institutions since she was 14 she is 32 now, she has never done drugs, but was married to a drug dealer. She has a total of 5 kidsranging in age from 14 - 3 months. And all but the youngest were taken away from us. She went to prison for 3 years 7 years ago, and I haven't seen my nephews since. They have all been adopted out. With the exception of the 3 month old. She has him. My sister is sick. When we were little, I can count how many times she tried to commit suicide right in front of me. Whether it was for attention or otherwise, she came pretty close a few times. But I still love my sister. She really is sick, and no one on this earth can know how hard it is every day to be without my boys. They were my life. My sister is trying to get better. She is doing really well and has gotten most of the poison out of her life that has caused us this pain. but she is living with what she has done. She loves her boys, and misses them everyday. She has to live with the fact that they are gone because of her. We all have to live with that fact. We have no contact with those boys. Haven't for 7 years. I pray that when the oldest is ready he will come back and the rest will follow. He was 7 when they took him. But when you put people down, people like my sister, your sister and anyone else like that, you AREN'T helping. They are sick. I am not saying that what they do is right, but there is nothing you can do, except love them unconditionally. That is what I do. My new baby nephew is 3 months old now, and he looks just like my oldest nephew. It kills me everyday. But I love him so much, and I will never let this happen again. I was only 18 when they were taken, and the judge wouldn't give me custody because of my age and that there were 4 of them, but now, I have already gotten the papers drawn for the new one, just in case. I know how mad you are at your sister, and 1 year after my boys were taken, I am sure I still was too. but you have to get past it. It hurts so much worse when you are mad. I make it a point to talk everyday to my sister about it. She knows she has done this not only to her but to all of us. I knew there was more to it Maranda. I really did. I have to say that You remind me a lot of how I used to feel, but you can't change the past. You have to go forward. I am telling you that it is so much easier to forgive (but NEVER forget) and love your sister, and not hate her for what she has done. And instead of bashing those who remind you of her. Love them as much as you can. It is NEVER too late to change. I promise I understand. I feel your pain more than anyone ever could. Believe me. If you need someone to talk to, PM me. It does feel better when everything comes out.

Maranda,

You can be as hard as you like on some people and it will have no effect. Unless that person is wanting to change all your efforts will be in vain.

I am sorry you have gone through such rough times with your family members, while I can understand your frustration everyone is different, you don't know the OP or her particular situation, hence why I thought if you have had such a lot of experience you may show a bit of compassion.

Al's Mommy I was sorry to read about your sister, mental illness is a terrible thing and there is just not enough help out there either for the sufferer or the family.

Maranda while you say you have learnt from your family's mistakes it also would not suprise me if it had an effect on you. I can't see how it could'nt. All these experiences positive & negative shape us into who/what we are today. How we react to things that are outside of our control may be the most telling way of showing how prior experiences have affected us.

OP I hope you have not given up, you have a whole life ahead of you, now with a little baby to tke care of - unconditional love...

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ Glad to know that you support raging sluts and drug addicts. I bet that your a wonderful mother providing your children with GREAT morals.”

Okay, Jesus.. thanks for the judgement.