re: Maybe I Just Need To Say It [lvery ong]

I told Nathan he could take Eden, and he would only tell me he thinks I'm going to be a great mom.

I tried to leave him because I knew he deserved better, but he moved four hundred miles to get me back.

I know I've made bad choices, I'm never going to forget that.

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ I know what it says in my profile. I am looking for a career that has more to do with my major (I ... [snip!] ... religion and usually the people that go regligiously EVERY sunday are some of the worst people out there. God save your soul!”

I could go as far as to say you are a horrible person, but I will not. Cause that is the kind of person I am. And FYI I am a quarter Mexican (father is half.) I had no idea you were hispanic. It is actually a shame that you are. Please refrain from attacking me, my family, the children of the women her on BG that you don't know. You do not know me, so please don't act like you do. I am pretty sure you actually have some self esteem issues that make you the way you are. And that's okay with me. I won't judge you. I am sure deep down you are a good person and don't mean any harm. Could just be a product of how you were raised, who knows. And don't worry, I an not taking anything you say personally. I just feel like it isn't right that perfect people like yourself, pick on those who are at their lowest. I feel like someone needs to defend them cause they probably won't defend themselves. Also, I would hate for those reading along in this thread, or new members (besides you) to think that you are commonplace her in BG cause you aren't. You won't be a member on this site long. People like you never are.

Quoting Dr. Jekyll:“ I told Nathan he could take Eden, and he would only tell me he thinks I'm going to be a great mom. ... [snip!] ... better, but he moved four hundred miles to get me back. I know I've made bad choices, I'm never going to forget that.”

I hope you understand that I am not cold hearted.

One day you may make a great mom but honestly if you don't have your own life under control how do you expect to raise a baby?

Do I really think you are sucidal? No..not really. Depressed? Yes.

I also really wanted to ask you why you didn't find it your place to tell your BEST FRIEND that you slept with her boyfriend?? It was your place to tell her.


My honest opinion is that I don't think anybody involved is going to honestly happy. One day Nathan may realize what you did and may really resent you. You won't ever feel happy because you were a raging slut. The baby is going to get caught up in all of this. No matter how much Nathan fights to stay with you, you all need your space. Have him try going on a date with another girl..tell him that it would mean the world to you if he would.

I honesly didn't tell her because by then we weren't friends any more, we rarely talked. I confessed what I did to the person who needed to know, it was her boyfriend's responsiblity to tell her what he did.

And, I know the difference between suicidal and depressed. Your sister isn't the only one who's tried it. I just know I made a promise to some one who means a lot to me that said I'd talk to people before I made any actions.

I'm feeling better than I was the night I wrote that post, I'm still feeling the total shit but a lot of people have been really supportive.

I must say though, for some one who's dealt with some one who's suicidal before, you should be the FIRST one to know that you never say the world would be better off if the person just offed themselves.

Yer kinda dumb. Sorry.

Thank you for every one who helped.

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ I hope you understand that I am not cold hearted. One day you may make a great mom but honestly ... [snip!] ... all need your space. Have him try going on a date with another girl..tell him that it would mean the world to you if he would.”

You are just not right. Not right at all. I don't think you, in your perfect state of mind, should be dishing out any advice to the OP. It is a joke to me to say you hope she understands you are not cold hearted. She doesn't have to explain anything to you, and if I were her, I wouldn't even try to. You are obviously dealing with some mental health issues of your own. Such as bi-polar disorder, or battered wife syndrome, or maybe even narcasstic personality disorder. I am no doctor, but I do have some experience in this area. By the way. It is a little creepy that you have my name on your profile. I would appreciate it being removed.

Quoting Al's Mommy:“ I could go as far as to say you are a horrible person, but I will not. Cause that is the kind of person ... [snip!] ... think that you are commonplace her in BG cause you aren't. You won't be a member on this site long. People like you never are.”

It's a shame that I am hispanic when you are Mexcian? I don't think I need to state anything else! haha Me and my husband are both half. I am Chilean and my husband is a Spainard.

Self Esteem issues..not so much. Could I have high standards because of the way I was raised? Yes, perhaps. My father is from Chile and is VERY old fashioned and conservative and always wants the best. He worked to be where he is and he made all of his children strive for perfection. I don't find anything wrong with that.

I don't need you to tell me if I am a good person or not. I know that I am.

Sometimes you have to be beaten down to really rise above.

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ It's a shame that I am hispanic when you are Mexcian? I don't think I need to state anything else! ... [snip!] ... you to tell me if I am a good person or not. I know that I am. Sometimes you have to be beaten down to really rise above.”

There is a difference in stiving toward perfection and thinking you are perfect. I get that you think you are perfect. My parents taught me to be humble, which I pride myself in. You should google it. I have nothing more to say to you. Just be aware that you are doing more harm than good when you come into these threads saying ridiculous things. Rise above is exactly what you should do. Good luck with it. It is not your place to beat anyone down. If/when your husband cheats on you while he is away in the service, I will be a shoulder for you to cry on. I won't even judge you. Just PM me if the time comes. But in the mean time, you should try getting over yourself.

Quoting Al's Mommy:“ You are just not right. Not right at all. I don't think you, in your perfect state of mind, should be ... [snip!] ... in this area. By the way. It is a little creepy that you have my name on your profile. I would appreciate it being removed.”

I don't have any mental health problems. I had to go to therapy due to my sister and horrific things I had to see when she tried to kill herself multiple times. I have anxiety and that is it.

You don't like your name being there? But you made such a big deal out of it? It'll stay there until I feel like changing it.

My husband would never cheat on me. Although I know in your sick mind it would mean that I am more "normal". Not every husband cheats and not every solider cheats. I am not sure if you understand but when a soldier is off on duty they are off to protect YOUR freedoms. =)

Maranda,

I don't understand how you can say you have gone to therapy to help deal with your sister, and I am sorry you have had to go through that. It is a terrible thing when someone you love cannot see any other options out. Yet you can write away with little or no empathy to the OP.

I say Empathy. She is not looking for your forgiveness, your approval, your condonement of her life and her actions to date. As the OP says she needed to get things out.

I certainly don't understand what you justify as a raging whore and I fail to see why you are attacking Al's Mommy in such a way.

I certainly do not have a perfect life, I wish I did. I have made mistakes, yes I have learnt from them but humans learn at different speeds because we are individuals. I just don't understand why on a forum for help you can find such a cold hearted view of things. I can appreciate that you have a right to your opinion but the OP has the right not to hear it as well.

OP go seek some help, it will make all the difference. You can't live in the past, what is done is done all you can do is move forward to a new life with your baby.

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ I don't have any mental health problems. I had to go to therapy due to my sister and horrific things ... [snip!] ... solider cheats. I am not sure if you understand but when a soldier is off on duty they are off to protect YOUR freedoms. =)”

I will take having my name on your profile as a sign of admiration. I did not state that your husband was going to cheat on you, I said IF and WHEN. I do not think that it would make you more normal, (I don't believe there is such a thing as normal,) but I do think that it would make you see that everyone has faults, and it would humble you some. I think it is a sad life you would lead if you can find nothing better to do than to criticize and attack people at their lowest. I appreciate the fact that your husband is overseas protecting my freedoms (I do not support the war, but I do support the soldiers.) Tell him I said thanks. Although you say you have no mental health issues, it wouldn't suprise me if you did and you may not even know about it. Good luck to you Maranda, and "God save your soul."

Quoting Aussiemumtobe:“ Maranda, I don't understand how you can say you have gone to therapy to help deal with your sister, ... [snip!] ... the difference. You can't live in the past, what is done is done all you can do is move forward to a new life with your baby.”

I appreciate your comment Aussiemum. Maybe there is power in numbers, in that she sees I am not the only one who thinks she is slightly inapproproate. Someday reality will fall hard on Maranda (someway and somehow,) and when it does, I hope she has a good support system, and doesn't have anyone kicking her when she is down.

Quoting Al's Mommy:“ I will take having my name on your profile as a sign of admiration. I did not state that your husband ... [snip!] ... it wouldn't suprise me if you did and you may not even know about it. Good luck to you Maranda, and "God save your soul."”

You should take it as admiration because I clearly DO admire you =) If there is no normal than how can things seem strange or weird? I am sure you have said "she's strange" or "she's weird" before in your lifetime?? Also a side note about the war, if the soliders were not over in the middle east the terrorists would be over here in the states. I do respect that you don't support the war but just remember what would happen if they weren't over there. Many more 9/11's. I know I do not have any mental health issues. There is nothing wrong about wanting to strive for perfection. I'm actually moderate in my family.

Quoting Maranda Laura:“ You should take it as admiration because I clearly DO admire you =) If there is no normal than how ... [snip!] ... any mental health issues. There is nothing wrong about wanting to strive for perfection. I'm actually moderate in my family.”

I am sure I have said someone is strange or weird. Who said strange or weird isn't normal? I think it is. And like I said before, there is nothing wrong with striving for perfection, but there is a difference between that and thinking you are already perfect. As far as the war goes, I can't change your opinion on it, and you can't change mine. So I will keep my opinions to myself. I do wish however that it wasn't a necessity. That is all I will say about that. I always say a sucessful life is a life without regret, and that is what I strive for. I do not regret the mistakes I have made, because they made me who I am today. And as long as I live my life that way, I will be happy. In my eyes, "perfect" if there is such a thing. I don't think living my life to be perfect in everyone elses eyes matters. I do what I want to do, and do what makes me happy without harming anyone else, and making others happy along the way. Not your kind of perfection, but mine. I hope you don't really mean some of the things that you said in your earlier posts, and I am sure you don't. Probably just frustration talking.

Quoting Al's Mommy:“ I am sure I have said someone is strange or weird. Who said strange or weird isn't normal? I think it ... [snip!] ... really mean some of the things that you said in your earlier posts, and I am sure you don't. Probably just frustration talking.”

Do you want to know why I am so hard on her? I have another sibling (I have a total of 10) who is older than me and was a drug addict and slept around with a lot of guys and fucked her life up because she made the same mistakes over and over and over again. My nephew was taken away and it has been over a year now (to another family mememers) and she doesn't do another to better herself because she was always told that it's okay..mistakes happen..ect but what she really needed as a good kick in the ass to let her know that drugs, and sleeping around and hurting those you love around you is not the way to live your life.

This girl is a lot like how my sister was. She stayed off drugs long enough for the pregnancy..stopped sleeping around for the pregnancy. But if she doesn't get a reality check she will end up loosing her child, she will end up like my sister who can't go back now.


What I have said to this girl..are the same things..maybe a bit nicer than what I have said to Trista.


As for life it is as beautiful as you want it to be. I never said I was perfect but I have overcome a lot of things because of my family members. I have learned from THEIR mistakes not to make the same ones. One more thing you don't know about me is that I have a serious disease that runs in my family. I am considered high risk during my pregnancy. I am hospitalized all the time because of my condition (U.Colitis).

That is why I strive for perfection even more because at some point in my life I will be disabled. I could go on disiblity now but I don't.