Okay I had my 22 month old with me at the hospital the other day and we were in the waiting room with my husband and all of his family. My daughter was standing on a chair watching the fish and this women walks in and stands her daughter beside Kaitlyn(22 month old) . Well before I could catch her Kaitlyn reaches over and graps this girl ( who is maybe a couple of months younger)and gives her a hug. She does make her stumble ,but she didn't fall or cry or anything. I got Kaitlyn off and apoligized to the mom. And the next thing I know this women bent down got in my daughters face , puts her finger in her face and shouts at her " That was Mean." I think I was in a shock because I have never talked to another persons child like that.Let alone a strangers. So after I composed myself I said "excuse me ,but she was only giving her a hug." Trust me there were so many other things running throught my mind ,but I didn't want to cause a scene.Well she grabbed her daughter and said come on were leaving. Very hateful.
So my question is would you all ever speak to or dicipline a strangers child like that? I know I never would but I just want to hear from you all.

depends. I would only if it's a safety issue or a behaviour issue that is wildly out of control. And again only if there isn't another adult already dealing with it which in your case you already were.

Ummm...NO!! And let me tell you, you must have great self-control for keeping your cool like that! That seems like it was absolutelyuncalled for!

I would have been royally pissed. It is not like your daughter was doing anything wrong and you did apologize. I would have told her off.

Well, if your daughter had hit hers, and you said nothing to discipline your own I child - then I could see her saying something. But for a hug? This woman has some issues! If a strangers child does something mean (hit, punch, throw, bite) to my son or nephew and they say something, I leave it at that. If they say nothing to there child and just ignore what happened then I make a point of saying "That wasn't very nice, you shouldn't hurt others" - more for the parents to hear then the kid really.

Quoting luv my 4 chix:“ Okay I had my 22 month old with me at the hospital the other day and we were in the waiting room with ... [snip!] ... you all ever speak to or dicipline a strangers child like that? I know I never would but I just want to hear from you all.”

wow, a baby giving another baby is most certainly not mean. that lady was rude. OP you have my respect because i would have went crazy if i was in your position.

Quoting nuriah:“ depends. I would only if it's a safety issue or a behaviour issue that is wildly out of control. And ... [snip!] ... wildly out of control. And again only if there isn't another adult already dealing with it which in your case you already were.”

Same here.

it depends on the situation.
I think in your case, she was out of line.

But there are many cases where the parents arent stepping in and are ignoring their misbehaving child.
And if that misbehavior affects me or my child without the parent stepping in, then yeah.. im gonna say something to the kid & the parent

Not the way she did it. I would have kicked that bitch in the face if she would have spoken to my daughter like that...

I'd like to say no, but honestly I've done it before.

At Portrait Innovations we were wating for our turn and Gav was playing with the table of legos and there was one other boy there, maybe 3 years old. Gav just liked to hold them and this boy started building a tower and would yank the ones out of Gav's hands. When he had every single lego on his tower Gav went over there and tried to take one and the kid like turned his body and blocked the tower. So I just said, "Can you share with him?" and the kid just looked at me. I finally said, "Let him have one block" and took one off the top of the tower for Gav. The kid ran to his mom (who was looking at pics on the computer and not watching this older kid) and she kind of glared at me, but I was like whatever how rude can you be? Give Gav one freaking lego.

Oh and I didn't vote. Maybe if there was a "sometimes" option.

omg rediculus. she had absolutely NO right, if she had a problem she should have spoke to you, not a child. my mom had something like that happen to them at the store when my brother wasa baby. they were at walmart and my brother was sitting in the cart. this lady bumped the cart real hard and kept walking. so my brother(the little blunt child with good manners) blurted out "watch out!". well the lady turned around and yelled in his face in a crabby old lady voice and pointed in his face "no, YOU watch out!" he was prolly 2. people are so rude.

Quoting lolajessup:“ omg rediculus. she had absolutely NO right, if she had a problem she should have spoke to you, not a ... [snip!] ... yelled in his face in a crabby old lady voice and pointed in his face "no, YOU watch out!" he was prolly 2. people are so rude.”

lol this made me laugh, what an old hag lol

I dun kno... I think she was out of line ecspecially if you were there and apologized to her... but I do believe in the small town culture of overseeing children in the neighborhood... not necessarily punishing them but overseing them, addressing an issue and communicating with parentswho can thenenforce.... i dun kno if that makes sense.

I agree with the hitting, bitting, etc and parents not saying anything. But a freaking hug and I am standing right there apoligzing and telling her no no. Come on I had to bite my tounge(sp) SO Hard because I was livid.