i guess my reaction to all this is:

if, after i had made the parent aware of the behavior that i found unacceptable, the discipline they used on their child was not satisfactory to me then i would have to find some other kid for my kid to play with.

(i'm thinking of this in a situation where you know the other parents.)

Quoting Melinda.:“ Haha, yes. I would never yell or hit another person's child. Calming asking the offender to stop biting is not discipline... I am talking about yelling, screaming, spanking.”

Yeah I agree I wouldnt not do the screaming and spanking. However I did yell at the boy who threw the rocks at my son to stop because he could have seriously hurt him.I would say something to the kid though. Saying to one he did this or she did that is fine but telling someone you to "deal with your child" is going to just start a bunch of shit. I haveNO problem telling someones kids "uh uh NO! you dont touch my kid" even if I have to yell it. No I wouldnt yell it if I was right there next to them but if I am not then I will. There is no reason to start a fight because some kid hit yours. It happens, they are kids. Yes the parent should know the child did something and the child should be corrected but that is the parents choice to do so.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Yeah I agree I wouldnt not do the screaming and spanking. However I did yell at the boy who threw the ... [snip!] ... Yes the parent should know the child did something and the child should be corrected but that is the parents choice to do so.”

Exactly, it's the parent's choice. If I walk up to a child's parent (when the child is say.. biting mine) and calmly tell them that their child is biting other children and they get so offended that they want to start an arguement.. then that says a lot for them. I'm not going to take it upon myself to discipline someone's child to avoid an arguement with the parent.

Quoting Melinda.:“ Haha, yes. I would never yell or hit another person's child. Calming asking the offender to stop biting is not discipline... I am talking about yelling, screaming, spanking.”

I dunno if what I said what clear eithe...so for instance, say another kid is hitting Jake...I might say, "no no, don't hit.." not in a mean voice or anything but just to let the parent know basically what they're child is doing without saying, "get over here and get your damn kid" lol..hopefully that made sense. I would never spank another persopns child or anything like that..and if the kid was being unruly, I would take that up with the parent.

I really hate badly behaved children lol...or people that just let their kids scream at restaraunts...when Jake was a baby and he would cry, if I couldn't get him to calm down within a couple minutes...I would take him outside..kinda off topic but it got me thinking lol

Quoting Melinda.:“ Exactly, it's the parent's choice. If I walk up to a child's parent (when the child is say.. biting ... [snip!] ... says a lot for them. I'm not going to take it upon myself to discipline someone's child to avoid an arguement with the parent.”

If the parent doesnt do anything then what? Are you going to continue to let your kid get bit or make them stop or atleast tell them to stop? What if while you are going to tell the parent the kid does something worse? If calmly doesnt work then I will use "mommy voice" no matter who likes it or not.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ If the parent doesnt do anything then what? Are you going to continue to let your kid get bit or make ... [snip!] ... the parent the kid does something worse? If calmly doesnt work then I will use "mommy voice" no matter who likes it or not.”

I am going to remove my child from the situation. Simple as that. I'm not going to let him be abused by another child and I'm sure as hell not going to sit around and watch it happen, nor am I going to do the other parent's job. That is completely ridiculous to me.

Quoting Melinda.:“ Exactly, it's the parent's choice. If I walk up to a child's parent (when the child is say.. biting ... [snip!] ... says a lot for them. I'm not going to take it upon myself to discipline someone's child to avoid an arguement with the parent.”

I would think disciplining a child who is not yours would start a fight between you and his/her parent more so than making the parent aware of that child's behavior. If the parent does nothing, then I would remove my child from the situation.

Quoting ♥Cutie Patootie:“ I would think disciplining a child who is not yours would start a fight between you and his/her parent ... [snip!] ... making the parent aware of that child's behavior. If the parent does nothing, then I would remove my child from the situation.”

Thank you!
That's exactly what I'm saying.. Try to nicely make the parent aware of the behavior and remove your child. I can't wrap my head around why it would be okay to disciplinea stranger's child.

Quoting Melinda.:“ I am going to remove my child from the situation. Simple as that. I'm not going to let him be abused ... [snip!] ... not going to sit around and watch it happen, nor am I going to do the other parent's job. That is completely ridiculous to me.”

Okay but think of this situation:

Someones kid grabs yours and bites down hard on their arm. The parent wont do anything and is using the "kids will be kids leave them alone" deffense. You cant just "remove" your child because the other one has ahold of them and wont let go.

Now what?

I'm not saying what you are saying is wrong just that there are situations where you would have to do more in order to protectyour child.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Okay but think of this situation: Someones kid grabs yours and bites down hard on their arm. The ... [snip!] ... what you are saying is wrong just that there are situations where you would have to do more in order to protectyour child.”

Come on. How likely is that? I doubt that if that were to happen, the other child would continue to be biting down my child's arm when I walk over to gethim and that the other parent is going to sit by idlely. If it seriously got to that point, and I am very higly doubting a situation would come to that, then I could call the police. Sorry, but my ass is not being hauled away to jail because I feel it necessary to discipline someone else's child.

Quoting luv my 4 chix:“ Okay I had my 22 month old with me at the hospital the other day and we were in the waiting room with ... [snip!] ... you all ever speak to or dicipline a strangers child like that? I know I never would but I just want to hear from you all.”

um no never cause if its my child i should dicepline them and if its other peoples children then its their job to decipline them i would never yell at another persons child like that ever

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Okay but think of this situation: Someones kid grabs yours and bites down hard on their arm. The ... [snip!] ... what you are saying is wrong just that there are situations where you would have to do more in order to protectyour child.”

id bite the child lol
jk

Quoting Melinda.:“ Come on. How likely is that? I doubt that if that were to happen, the other child would continue to ... [snip!] ... the police. Sorry, but my ass is not being hauled away to jail because I feel it necessary to discipline someone else's child.”

Taking a childs hands off you child wont get you hauled off to jail. Yelling at them to stop it wont either. Yes there are unfortunatly a lot of parents and/or gaurdians out there who would sit by and let it happen. All kids throw fits (some yes bad enough not to let go) and it is very likely your kid or someone elses will get caught in it at some point. Many kids dont respond to "calmly" saying something.

I was simply giving you a situation where it would be best for you to do something more.

Quoting *Erimas's Mommy*:“ id bite the child lol jk”

lol my son can hold his own so if that happened I might tell him "okay he is fair game then, kick his ass". You can bet he would do it to!

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Taking a childs hands off you child wont get you hauled off to jail. Yelling at them to stop it wont ... [snip!] ... respond to "calmly" saying something. I was simply giving you a situation where it would be best for you to do something more.”

If someone laid a hand on my child, I don't care what in what context, there would police involved. Not that I'd let my child do something like that, but you said biting. How is taking his hand off your child going to do anything? Are you going to be putting your hand in that kids mouth to get it off your kids arm?