CHEATED ON BY BABY'S DAD AND EXTREMELY DEPRESSED

Honestly, I don't know what to do. My baby's dad has been cheating on me thru out the whole pregnancy and has the other girl pregnant now. I feel like its the end of the world. I'm so depressed, I'm spaced out a lot now.I hardly sleep, I wake up every other hour checking my phone. Hungry but no appetite and I can't stop thinking about everything that we went thru, good and bad. This is a fucking nightmare and I never thought I'd b the one to go through this. It feels like the other females around me are doing good with their men and I'm the loser that had to b cheated on. I feel worthless.I even feel like he doesn't even care about the baby. He said if I take him to court for child support, he's not going to see the baby. I'm hurt and confused on why he would do such a thing?... I really thought he loved me. He fooled me. I just really need advice on how to get over him and the whole situation, the easiest and fastest way cause I'm going to go insane. Please help.

Quoting ♥e.:“ Honestly, I don't know what to do. My baby's dad has been cheating on me thru out the whole pregnancy ... [snip!] ... advice on how to get over him and the whole situation, the easiest and fastest way cause I'm going to go insane. Please help.”

Time. Nothing you can do but let it pass. You have someone more important to think about now. Take care of yourself because that baby is relying on you. Oh well if he doesn't want to see the baby, thats his loss.

I don't know what to tell you hun. My baby's daddy left when I found out pretty much, and just a few days ago I just found out he already has a baby girl that's almost a year old and was trying to get a couple of other people pregnant while with me. Just be strong. You'll do fine. I promise.

sorry that your going through this , but take his ass to court for child support. If a man tells you that hes not going to be there if you take him and make him pay child support, what on gods green earth makes you think for one sec that he WILL be there if you dont hold him accountable for his actions ??

YOU have to put YOURSELF and YOUR CHILD as your number one priority in your priority list.

Its hard but he does not deserve the time you wallow on him. He does not care about you obviously and so you have no choice but to let go of him and look after yourself and your baby.

with my first daughter her sperm donor left me 8 mnths pregnant for another girl and I just threw everything into the baby cleaning putting all her stuff together anything to get my mind off of being left pregnant an dI was really hurt and it took a while after she was born to realize that any man who would do that to his child or you never deserved for me to cry or care that he left

First off, his cheating has nothing to do with you. It is all about him. Don't take it personally!!! Right now focus on you and your baby and doing the best and being the best you can for the baby. Take him to court for child support. He probably won't give you much support if you don't... Don't fall for his BS. Cheaters are liars as well!!!! He will cheat on the next women too. You are better off with out him! Stay strong!

Quoting ♥e.:“ Honestly, I don't know what to do. My baby's dad has been cheating on me thru out the whole pregnancy ... [snip!] ... advice on how to get over him and the whole situation, the easiest and fastest way cause I'm going to go insane. Please help.”

Take him to court and get what you can for your child. Who cares if he decides he doesn't want to be apart of the childs life. That's HIS loss. You and your child will be better off without him.

There is no way for us to tell you how to get over him. You have to work through it yourself unfortunately. The best thing I can think of though that may help... Don't contact him or talk to him. If you must contact him then do it through e-mail so you don't have to hear his voice.

He's a POS obviously for what he's done. I hope you are able to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

i went through almost the same thing although there were about 3 other girls who claimed they were pregnant and i caught him cheating on me while i was pregnant. it's hard yes but you'll get over it eventually. when he first found out i was pregnant he was happy then after i caught him with that girl at the mall he told me to get an abortion. Jaedyn is now 6 weeks old he has not helped me with anything nor has he even seen the baby but honestly i don't care because he's a worthless piece of shit and my son doesn't need to know him if he's like that. You just have to be honest with your child when it gets older because you don't want the child hating you because it's not your fault.

And as for feeling like all your friends have a good man..... trust and believe honey!!! We've all had an asshole or two!!!

Momma you need to think about your baby! If you arent eating he isnt either...NOT GOOD!
As for your BD...dont let yourself get stressed out about it! That isnt good for the baby or for you!! There are some things that are beyond our control....I know that is sucks but there is nothing that you can do about passed events. Just try to move on and dont let yoursefl get so down! Because you know that isnt going to make him change what he has done or the choices that he has made!



Just keep you head up! 

That is awful, and Im really sorry that you have to go through that. But, like someone else on here said, please take his ass to court for child support. Girl, if he's threatening you like that about it, he won't be there for the child even if you don't. Do what's best for you and your baby and take him to court...know what I mean? If he was a good dad, he wouldn't have a problem with paying child support.
And it just takes time to heal....I wish I could say something to make you feel better...but it's not your fault, you're be just fine, just give it time to heal. Good luck to you!

Sounds like everybody else addressed all the points I was going to make, except the whole you "feel like a loser" thing because he cheated on you. My ex husband cheated on me and I felt like shit about myself, like some how I wasn't good enough or pretty enough...whatever..then it dawned on me that Halle Berry, you know one of the most beautiful and successful women in the world, herman cheated on her too, and if that can happen then the problem must be the men in these situations- NOT US!!! Silly way to get over it, I know, but it helped me a liitle.

Quoting Kai aka Deuce's Mommy:“ Sounds like everybody else addressed all the points I was going to make, except the whole you "feel like ... [snip!] ... then the problem must be the men in these situations- NOT US!!! Silly way to get over it, I know, but it helped me a liitle.”

My ex-husband left me for my ex-best friend! They moved to California together, and I thought I was soooo devestated! They only lasted 6 mos, and we had been together 5 and a half years. I am soooo thankful for it now because I would have always stuck by that asshole, selling myself short! If he hadn't have left I would have never met the wonderful man I am married too now.

Happened to me with when I was pregnant with my son and I was married to the bastard. The only thing you can do is try to move past it. I know it's hard as hell, but your baby needs you. There's more important things then your cheating man right now. Just try and stay focused on the most beautiful gift you have in this world, which is your child.