Expecting too much from 2 1/2 year old?

My sister lives with us and has a 2 1/2 year old. It seems like she is always yelling at her to do and not do stuff. I dont know how much she should expect out of her. My son is almost a year so I am not to this stage yet, but don't know what to do. We are all miserable with the constant yelling!
HELP!!

Can you give an example?

Quoting Amy M Hixon:“ My sister lives with us and has a 2 1/2 year old. It seems like she is always yelling at her to do and ... [snip!] ... almost a year so I am not to this stage yet, but don't know what to do. We are all miserable with the constant yelling! HELP!!”

Well, you really shouldnt yell at a 2 1/2 yr old... what does she yell about?

What is she expecting from her?

What the hell is wrong with your sister? She forgets she is yelling to a child? What does a 2.5 year old know? And what could that lil girl do that would deserve yelling? Nothing.

I will tell your sister off If I were you. I would tell her it bothers you that she is doing that and also its your house so she cannot do what she usually does at home. She has to be considerate. Thats terrible. Poor kid.

I have a two and a half year old as well, and I expect a lot out of her. She is old enough to understand to be quiet when the baby is sleeping, clean up her messes, tell me what is wrong...the list goes on. At two and a half a lot of kids are able to understand a lot. I have defiantely yelled at my two and a half year old....she is at this stage where she is 2 going on 20 and it gets old FAST.

Quoting Mummy Olivia:“ What the hell is wrong with your sister? She forgets she is yelling to a child? What does a 2.5 year ... [snip!] ... and also its your house so she cannot do what she usually does at home. She has to be considerate. Thats terrible. Poor kid.”

I'm not jumping on you at all....however, a two and a half year old knows a lot. My daughter is extremely smart and knows how she is supposed to behave. Every child is different, but they aren't little babies anymore at this age.

Quoting ChaseMeElizabeth:“ I'm not jumping on you at all....however, a two and a half year old knows a lot. My daughter is extremely ... [snip!] ... smart and knows how she is supposed to behave. Every child is different, but they aren't little babies anymore at this age.”

I agree. Two years olds are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.

Quoting micah ♥:“ I agree. Two years olds are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.”

They deserve discipline, but not yelling... been there too, and yelling does nothing but make them frustrated as well as the mom.

Quoting micah ♥:“ I agree. Two years olds are a lot smarter than we give them credit for.”

there area few things that I don't expect my daughter to understand, but she has the basic understandings of how to behave and what she should and should not do. There are times when simply asking her to do thins doesnt work. Yelling shouldn't be used as a standard thing, it should be used as a tool if necessary.

Quoting ChaseMeElizabeth:“ there area few things that I don't expect my daughter to understand, but she has the basic understandings ... [snip!] ... asking her to do thins doesnt work. Yelling shouldn't be used as a standard thing, it should be used as a tool if necessary.”

I was going to say that. I don't think you should just be yelling about everything, but there are times when you do need to yell.

expecting a lot from a 2.5 year old is one thing, yelling at them is another. At that age, they can't process information when you yell. They maybe get 2 to 5 words out of what your saying.

It is one thing if it is an accident, but all day every day is unacceptable.

i also agree with the person who said it's your house and even if she normally yells she shouldn't be doing it in your house.

I think my daughter understand me when I yell. I will ask her to do something5 times and she just flat out does NOT listen. Then if I yell she goes and does exactly what I ask.

I have found that talking to her calmly does work better than yelling all the time. If I freak out then that just adds fuels her defiance. Two year olds are defiantely tough sometimes, especially if they are spoiled rotten like mine is

Quoting ChaseMeElizabeth:“ I think my daughter understand me when I yell. I will ask her to do something5 times and she just flat ... [snip!] ... just adds fuels her defiance. Two year olds are defiantely tough sometimes, especially if they are spoiled rotten like mine is”

In your case, she already heard what you want... So she dosen't actually have to "Listen" to what your yelling she already knew what to do in the first place, but had she not been listening, she wouldn't know wouldn't.