re: How many of you think age defines how good of a mother they

Quoting Poofter.:“ It shouldn't be the public school's responsiblity to teach about sex. It should be the parents. In ... [snip!] ... If more parents would OFFER BC, instead of freak out when their daughter's ask for it, I think that would help alot,, too.”

I agree completely.

Quoting Poofter.:“ It shouldn't be the public school's responsiblity to teach about sex. It should be the parents. In ... [snip!] ... If more parents would OFFER BC, instead of freak out when their daughter's ask for it, I think that would help alot,, too.”

wow...me and you stated the EXACT same thing lol

Quoting Love Avery ™:“ I do think that 16 year olds CAN be good parents, but i do not think that they are mature, nor mentally ... [snip!] ... old can be just as irresponsible and not ready as a 18 year old, but they usually have more opportunity than a 16 year old.”

I think I agree the most with this whole statement.

I think 16 year old's CAN be good mothers, but I feel as if most choose not to be and still live off their parents.

I'm 16, live in my own house with my fiance and we both work full time. He's 19 and has a great paying job, whereas mine I'm only making $11/hr. In Montana, though that pay is actually good. We're definitely making it by with being able to put extras away. And we're not on government assistance, because we make too much to qualify. But it's not about the money, money pays a roll but the main thing is maturity. I grew up a lot faster then most of my peers and that was fine with me, I had to go through things in my childhood that most don't and because of that, I was forced to grow up and basically raise myself. I know we're both good parents and I definitely wouldn't have it any other way, but sadly I can't say that for most teen parents.

i dont believe age has anything to do with how good of a parent you are. things maybe more challenging if ur a yound parent.

and as far a bc goes........... it just reminds me of roe vs wade. the abortion case. forcing BC would be taking away a womans right to choose what happens to her body & no matter what that not right

I do think age can play a factor in the mom game. You can be a GREAT mother regardless of age, and you can be a terrible mother too. It depends on how serious you take the roll.
I for one think I'm a great mom, I do have my moments and age can play a factor. I would be a world class mom if I had waited and put myself through college first and had all the money in the world to blow on Aiden, but I'm still a great mother and money is just a plus when it comes to raising a child.

As for MY mother. She's abandon her 6 year old daughter and 17 year old son to go party, and be a teenager again. She's a terrible person who chooses drugs over her children. She couldn't even make it past 15 years with my older sister before she gave up and ran off. She's 41.
I see myself as a much better mom, even when I was 16 then she is now.

This isn't always the case, but it does happen a lot. Some people aren't cut out to be parents and some of them are, it just happens earlier then some people want it too.

Manditory BC? Yes.

I don't think age so much defines how good a mother you are. But it can play a factor in it.

Quoting Jennerbe:“ i dont believe age has anything to do with how good of a parent you are. things maybe more challenging ... [snip!] ... case. forcing BC would be taking away a womans right to choose what happens to her body & no matter what that not right”

I dunno if I feel that it is the same thing.

To me, it is less about age and more about experience. Obviously, there are some wonderful and very not-so-wonderful mothers out there, and there's a wide range of ages for each.

I don't think BC should be mandatory, because I think there should be a minimal number of laws like that. We should be able to exercise certain freedoms when it comes to our own lives. But I also think that it is ideal to notonly grow up a little bit before becoming a parent, but also to experience the world.

Some girls grow up faster than others. Some live a lot more in their first 16 years than others do in their first 30. People are just different, and there are no absolutes in life. But I think that you have more to offer and teach your kids if you've experienced some personal independence. If you've lived on your own, if you've had to work and pay your own bills, if you've gotten to know yourself, who you really are and what you really want out of life...and if you've taken the time to seek out some stability for your family. It SUCKS growing up being constantly uprooted, or to have parents who hate each other, or any of those other things that happen so much more often when parents become parents while they're still very young.

I wanted to be a mom really early in life like my mom was, and it didn't work out that way. My mother is an exceptional parent, but her whole life has always been about our family. She hasn't really pursued many of her own interests, and I wasn't really encouraged to be my own self or to do my own thing in life, because from the time she was 19, she had a family to take care of and that was herabsolute priority. Over the course of my 20's, I decided that I wanted my kids' mother to have interests, and to have things to offer the world, and to have an interesting career. I think that personally, those things will make me a better mom. Of course you can find a way to go to school and start a career and all those other things after you have kids, but you don't get the time to do as much personal exploration...to really think hard about yourself and what you need,and not just what the people around you need.

I'm sure I would have done fine if I had a kid at 18. The kid would have been fine. We all would have turned out just fine. But I'm in my early 30's, pregnant with my first, and most of my friends who have kids are now divorced, or they haven't experienced anything because they've devoted their entire adult life to their children. I think that's very noble, but I spent my early adulthood travelling Europe, learning about the world, getting an education, and forging the life that I want. I'm ecstatic to have the baby I've wanted for such a long, long, time, but I wouldn't trade my travels or growing-up time for anything in the world. So for me, it's better that I waited. I can only speak for myself, but I totally think I'll bea better parent as a 30+-year-old than I would have been as a teenager.

I don't know how somebody can be the best parent thatthey can be whenever they're still in highschool, working a minimum wage job(if that), living with their parents, and not paying for anything for themselves or their babies. You can love your baby with every ounce of your heart, but love is not the only thing involved in parenting. You need to be responsible and SUPPORT your child, and i don't think that is entirely possible from a 16 year old.

i don't think this applies to EVERONE, but it is statistically correct.

okay now my question is...do you not think a 14 or 16 yr old who CANNOT get a job to take care of their child or doesnt have their own transportation..under parents insurance (maybe) (16 yr olds can workbut you would need a work permit and I think you only get that from being in school...but some preggo 16 yr old drop out..so no work permit...correct me if i am wrong) are still fit and can be good mothers? ....VS...a 18 yr old who has graduated...has a job and can drive..be a better suitable mother?

does age not somewhat play a factor there??

Quoting **Dee:“ okay now my question is...do you not think a 14 or 16 yr old who CANNOT get a job to take care of their ... [snip!] ... yr old who has graduated...has a job and can drive..be a better suitable mother? does age not somewhat play a factor there??”

There is a 16 y/o on this website who has her own house, is married, and who I believe will be a great mother.
So that's why I say I think it depends on the actual person.

Quoting Love Avery ™:“ I don't know how somebody can be the best parent thatthey can be whenever they're still in highschool, ... [snip!] ... think that is entirely possible from a 16 year old. i don't think this applies to EVERONE, but it is statistically correct.”

I pay for everything for my daughter. My parents don't buy anything for her.

Quoting Poofter.:“ There is a 16 y/o on this website who has her own house, is married, and who I believe will be a great mother. So that's why I say I think it depends on the actual person.”

well granted yes..some 16yr are even doing better than 25yr old and such..but most of them have 19+ yr old boyfriends/ husbands..eh..wish i was that smart at 16 lol

Quoting ♡Kimi's Mommy:“ I pay for everything for my daughter. My parents don't buy anything for her.”

do you live with them... and i said not EVERYONE.

Quoting Love Avery ™:“ do you live with them... and i said not EVERYONE.”

Yeah. I read that part too. I was going to edit my post, but was too lazy.
But yes I do live with them. But as far as everything goes with my daughter, I pay EVERYTHING for her. doctor bills, food, clothes, toys, diapers. everything. I'm moving out in about 8 months, just have to wait untill i'm 18, because there's no use in trying to fight them for emancipation now.