My DS is 2yrs and 7mos...according to the Terrible Two's Countdown Calculator I have exactly 131days, 52min, and 32 secs left before my child is out of this so called "PHASE"....and Im due Aug5th with another blessing...im busting at the seams now at 34weeks preggo and to top it off My DH is in IRAQ, been there for 6mos so far....UGH...Ok (insert hugs here) 
So this past week my son has yelled, backtalked, thrown various things at me and been all around defiant. Im losing my patience and i have spanked a few times already. Im not a fan of spanking at all...i believe if we tell our kids Hitting is bad, we should not spank, it sends the wrong message.
I have done it at a last resort and honestly still got nowhere!!!
Im using the corner for time outs and he fights me, and i keep telling him the consequences of talking back, not standing facing the wall, ect,,,and tell him he will stand in it longer ect.....Im so burned out and physically tired....hes really running all over me....I need some advice on some other positive techniques for this little guy who is showing Anger, and agression.  
Is there any of you going through this having the same negative results???
Im alone stationed in a state where i have no family either, so Its all me girls....
NO ESCAPE...again.(insert hugs here) any advice would just be the greatest...M

Quoting mountainmama907:“ My DS is 2yrs and 7mos...according to the Terrible Two's Countdown Calculator I have exactly 131days, ... [snip!] ... have no family either, so Its all me girls.... NO ESCAPE...again.(insert hugs here) any advice would just be the greatest...M”

Yea I am going through it already. My son will be 2 in August. He starts biting his older brother, I caught him trying to bite his sister. I put him in the corner and he just screams and throws himself to the floor. If he doesn't get his way he starts banging his head on the floor. He screams for EVERYTHING. He listens sometimes but majority of the time he does NOT. He can be very helpful at times. He is only this way when he wants his way. But he's a typical kid into everything. I never went through this with my oldest so this is all new to me. But so far nothing has really been working.

My daughter will be 2 in October and she is starting with it already.

She doesn't throw things, but she hits and throws the biggest tantrums! I don't believe in hitting her so she sits in time outs and they seem to work for the moment. I'm at a loss....

Sorry i'm not much help.

my step son went through this and did all of the above plus some,, but he used to bite and one time we were walking out a store and i grabbed his hand to hold it while we walked across the parking lot, now i mean i held his hand, not hard are anything and he got so mad and leaned over and bite me, i guess it was a reflex but when i felt him bite me , which really hurted, i tapped his mouth, not slap or hit, just kinda taped his lips, not hard enough to make him bleed or leave a mark but hard enough that i hurt him like he hurt me, he is 3 1/2 years old and has NEVER bit me again, he bites everyone else when he was mad, but never me, i think i hurt him emotionally more that physically but it worked, now dont take it the wrong way, i didnt pass him a slap across the face, i just tapped his mouth,, but it worked, i dont believe in spanking either but if you dont control it when it starts, you never will,, his grandmaw watches him and she would put him sitting in a chair which he would get out of 2 min later, and now he walks all over her, he knows he can, i believe that you have to show disipline from the beggining otherwise it wont work

Lol I am there right now too. They say people who think the terrible twos are bad obviously don't have a 3 year old. Good luck though!

yeah my step son went through it when he turned 2 for about 6 months, then it got better, now he is 3 1/2 and goin through it again. but people are saying its because im pregnant,, i dunno,, you never know what to think when it comes to kids

Well, at least it's not as bad as some....but im still at a loss...Pergnancy may play a factr...I swear its like he knows mommy is tired and beat down a bit...so the more he does.
They are too smart I tell ya.
Thanks for all your responses....i guess ill play it by ear and do what I think is right as far as controlling the uncontrolable...LOL

People are telling me thats why his behavior is coming back, because its getting so close to the baby being here,, but i dont see how he would know, its not like he knows that im 8 months,and he doesnt say anything bad about the baby, we dont really metion it, he tells everyone i have a baby in my belly, and he hugs it and kisses it, "when he is not mad" but he shows everyone the baby's room when they come over, i could understand if the baby was here but he isn't yet,, so does that mean this behavior could get worst once the baby is here ??? Cuz if so then i would really have to be commited somewheres lol

oh yeah, just an idea,, we have him enrolled in a sibling class in 2 weeks, it's only a hour long but they take us on a tour of the hospital and show him where the baby will sleep after i deliver, the show him how to feed the baby and change a diaper, and they let him decorate the sign they attach to the baby's bed once he is in nursery,, that why he will remember thats the one he colored and know which baby is his brother,, im excited, its something all 3 of us could do so im hoping that will make him more excited about the baby