big age difference

my daughter is 7 next month and has had me all to herself her whole life.
i have tried to include her as much as possible with the new baby and pregnancy but im worried that when baby does arrive she will feel pushed out etc.

do anyother mummies have kids with such a large age gap??
if so how did your kids cope with a new baby??

thanks x

all i can say is try not to make her your live in baby sitter when the baby gets here.... trust me i speak from experiance!

that was the worse thing my mom did She had my baby sister my JR year and i was 16 and it was hell i ahd to pick her up from day care bc it was by my high school and she made me feel like i was the mom i could not wait to grad and move out spend time with just her and not her and the baby

My husband's older sister is 30, he is 22, and their little brother is 14, so there are huge age differences there! And I agree..don't make her the babysitter. They all love eachother a ton, but Peris (my husband) pretty much raised his brother.

My first two are 4 1/2 years apart. I don't know if thats as big of an age difference as you want, but my boys get along so well. My oldest loves helping with the two babies (He and my duaghter are 6 years apart) All of my kids are really close to eachother. They all love each other soooo much.

My husband and all his siblings are 7-8 years apart and they aren't really close. My husband and his sister are closer now that they're older. My SIL is 33, my hubby is 25 but their brother is only 16 and they don't really hang out w/ him much.

Hope that helped!

I understand where you are at my daughter will be 4 and has had me to herself her whole life and now I am having another girl due sept. 9 so I am wondering how she is going to handle it as well she is def a mama's girl and very demanding of my 24/7 attention I read somewhere that as much as you can have them help with the new baby the easier it will be for them and to make sure that you take a cpl hrs everyday give the baby to daddy and spend that special time with just your daughter so I hope that helps but I dont know yet lol we will see

My sister has a 1 year old and my niece is going to be 8 next month, the poor girl is a live in baby sitter for her brother, its not fair she never gets to do anything with her friends becuase shes always watching her brother for my sister and her husband, i dont think thats fair, my sister really pushed her aside as well and lavished all the attention on her son and none anymore on her daughter. As long as you let your older child know that she is still important to you and always will be then im sure everything will be fine, just remember to put the baby down once in a while and play with your older child just one on one, that will mean a ton to her, i do that now having a 2 year old and 4 month old, i put my daughter in the bumbo and sit her in my sons room while him and i play trains, she gets a kick out of watching him play and i can play with him and watch her, so its the best of both! Good luck! Keep us posted!

it was very difficult on my 8 yr old dd for most of my second trimester, to the point therewas tons of acting out. i tried including her in everything including letting her name her sister. once zoe was born (10 weeks early) it was like the spell broke and she is madly in love with the new baby.

she definatly wont be 'baby sitter'
im more worried about her feeling rejected or replaced.

i read somewhere about a little boy who used to hurt his baby sister for that reason.
has anything like that had happened to anyone else oris it was just morestuff to worry mothers everywhere??

im having the same problem..my daughter will 5 1/2 years older than the new baby..ive also tried to include her with all thats going on right now..but im scared she'll feel left out..im planning on buying her a little 'big sister present' & give it t her at the hospital so she knows shes also a huge part of the moment..

Quoting x x madii x x:“ my daughter is 7 next month and has had me all to herself her whole life. i have tried to include her ... [snip!] ... out etc. do anyother mummies have kids with such a large age gap?? if so how did your kids cope with a new baby?? thanks x”

My husband is 10 years older than his sister and they have a very strained relationship--it's almost like he's her dad (they grew up without one).

my 7 year old would actually ask me when hes gonna have a brother or sister. i had endometriosis so i didnt expect another but always wanted more. he only gets jealous when it comes to grandma. he does sometimes say that i love the baby more but i have to explain to him that babies are alot of work and need alot of attention.

Mine are 7 years apart. My son is 13 and my daughter will turn 6 in August. He couldn't wait for her to get here. He always asked to help do stuff. I never made it a point to make him get stuff. He just wanted to do it all on his own. He was fine with her for a while but now there is nothing in common. She wants to do stuff with him or even watch him play his games. He wants nothing to do with her. He is constantly telling her to get out of his room. They do get along sometimes but usually they do not. She's getting a little more independent from him so their bickering is getting less!! Some day they will be fine with each other.

I am so glad I am not the only one who is worried about this. My son will be 12 when my baby is born and I am so nervous on how he is going to react once the baby is here. As of now, he is fine, but only if it is a brother lol. He has read parts of my books and seems interested in the baby, which is making me happy. I have already told my husband ( that is not my sons father) that once the baby is born I still need my alone time with my son, because we have had that for so long and I dont want to lose it. I have told my son over and over again that he is still my baby and always will be, of course at the age he is at now he just calls me annoying for saying it!! Reading these posts, not sure if it made me feel better or worse, seems age gaps of over 10 years arent always that good. I guess I will have to wait and see what happens. I have joked with my son about babysitting, but I wont take advantage of that once the baby is actually here.

Quoting Mrs. JT:“ I am so glad I am not the only one who is worried about this. My son will be 12 when my baby is born ... [snip!] ... see what happens. I have joked with my son about babysitting, but I wont take advantage of that once the baby is actually here.”

my partner isnt Alana's father either and ive tryed to explain the same thing to him about still needing my time with her when baby comes.
im kind of hoping the new baby is a girl as i think when they are a little older they will have a better relationship than if bubs is a boy.
Alana also seems quite interested in how things are changing with the baby aswell, she likes to feel my tummy and asks how big baby is getting etc but i tryed showing her how to change a nappy and hold a baby using her baby doll and she got really fustrated and hit it  
i guess its just going to be a matter of wait and see what happens, but at the moment she seems most excited about staying with my sister hwen i go into labour lol