re: big age difference

Quoting x x madii x x:“ my partner isnt Alana's father either and ive tryed to explain the same thing to him about still ... [snip!] ... and see what happens, but at the moment she seems most excited about staying with my sister hwen i go into labour lol ”

Yes, I will just have to wait and see and only hope that it works out.
My son is a mamas boy big time and nothing will ever change that   I still think I am insane for having kids this far apart!!! LOL

Quoting Mrs. JT:“ Yes, I will just have to wait and see and only hope that it works out. My son is a mamas boy big ... [snip!] ... is a mamas boy big time and nothing will ever change that   I still think I am insane for having kids this far apart!!! LOL”

yeah i didnt plan on having anymore kids but then i met martin and everything changed. i wish i had met him earlier so the age gap wouldnt be so drastic

Quoting x x madii x x:“ yeah i didnt plan on having anymore kids but then i met martin and everything changed. i wish i had met him earlier so the age gap wouldnt be so drastic”

Yes, that is what my problem was. I broke up with my ex when my son was 3 and told myself I will never get married or have any more kids. Then in September I got married and now I am having a baby!! I even told myself after 30 I will not have any kids regardless. I guess love can make us do crazy things!

My two girls are 4.5 years apart. I was worried about how my 4 year old at the time would accept the new baby. She was and still is a mommy's girl.  I talked to her a lot about the baby. Sometimes she didn't want to hear it other times she would bring it up. I assured her that nothing would change as far as our relationship. I think that was her biggest worry. Once the baby arrived and she saw that I still spent time with her she was fine. Communication is big.. When the baby arrives make sure that your son is included and it is so important to take out special time with him if you can. This will make him feel more secure with the new baby. My daughter loves her sister now! My issue is the 15 month old being jealous of the 5 year old and they both get quality time. Weird. lol 

My daughter turned 8yrs old 2 weeks before my son was born. She was sooooo exstatic to finally have a sibling. She was a HUGE part of the pregnancy...went to all the ultrasound appoinments, and played a huge role at the baby shower. My son was born with special needs, and not only has she been an AMAZING big sister, but she is also so good with all the extra's we need to do with him. The age gap was a big worry for me too, but when their older, they may not have a lot in common with the new baby, but they mature enough to feel the obligation to love and protect them because they are the oldest. Good luck with everything...I'm sure everything will work out very well.  

I am 13 and 16 yrs older than my half siblings. I didn't really have any issues as I was into my own stuff by then..but Your daughter is 7, still young and my advice is to bring her in as much as she wants to be. My kids right now are 27 mos apart, not a big gap - but I told my daughter her new brother was HER baby, and it worked. If your 7 year old wants to be brought in to make decisions on names, clothes, nursery furniture - whatever.. do it. Make her involved. I imagine being 7 she will want to be. Tell her you need her help.. I think that will work for you.

I had my son when my daughter was 5 and a half and although every now and then a little jealousy pops in she has been great. We bought her a present and a card from the baby when he was born and she loved it and has put it away. We try and make sure that we dont ask too much of her and try and give her one on one time with each of us or both when we can (ie when he is asleep). He is now 13 months old and she is like a little mother to him but also loves to have her time with us. I am sure you will do fine, I think being aware of it from the start helps and just keeping them involved as well is a big step in them being included rather than excluded.