HEEELLLLPPPPPPP!! Advice please!

Okay, so I live in Baton Rouge, well, close enought to it. My doctoris all of twenty minutes away. Very comforting, yes? Well, I'm also 25 weeks, so I want to keep this same doctor. He's great and really understands my craziness and I feel very comfortable with him. Okay, my husband wants to move me, somethime in the next two months, to New Orleans because he got a good job offer there. And hour and a half away from all my friends, family, doctors, hospital. I know it sounds really stupid, but I'm pregnant and all I want to do is be by my mom. (I'm kind of a mommas baby). The reason we got this job is because his sister is dating a big business guy down there. So ALL I will have to talk to is HER!! And we definately don't see eye to eye,. She's like this freaking porn star barbie that thinks the whole world needs to bow at her feet because she is pretty and does alot of modeling and acting and crap. But that would be the only person I have there.
Sorry, I'm ranting. My whole issue is what do I do? It really is a great opportunity for him, but I feel like I would be miserable. Would it be a bad idea to try to keep my same doctor? I dont' know if it's good to go a couple of hours in a car in labor....I just don't know what to do.

Hmmm that's a tough one... I would probably just ask the doctor what people usually do in this situation. I would probably go, though, I like Baton Rouge but N.O has much more opportunity!!!

Well... If worse came to worse, an hour and half isn't tooooo far. What if ya'll just go halfway? Then you'd be close to what you need, and he'll be close enough to his job? 45 minutes is closer than 1hr 1/2, and if the pay is that good, I think it'd be worth it. Good luck!

my husband got a great job opportunity waaaaay down here in california, where i dont know a single person, and my parents are way upin california. but because my husband is the one who makes the money, i agreed to move so far away from everyone i know. i get pretty miserable at times becausethis town SUCKS. but, ive learned to adjust. as much as this move was about him, we did make the decision together. so maybe jsut talk to him about how you feel and maybe you can work out a compromiseof some sort?

Quoting Meredith & Landon:“ Well... If worse came to worse, an hour and half isn't tooooo far. What if ya'll just go halfway? Then ... [snip!] ... close enough to his job? 45 minutes is closer than 1hr 1/2, and if the pay is that good, I think it'd be worth it. Good luck!”

HA! That's what I sid. I told him I wanted to stay in a little town about halfway, and he was all fine with that. But then his $^%^*&*%^#ing sister talked to him, and convinced him that her BF would get us the hookup on one of his apartments if we move there, so he's all like....yeah!!!!grrrrrrrr

I know how you feel~ we live in Ohio & my husbands company offered him a postion in Kansas (with a substantial raise)~ Like 13 hours from my family & everybody else. I think it helped make his mind up when my 7 yr old said I don't want to leave my school! I was about in tears~ I said don't do this to me. A week later all the tornados hit, we were happy he turned it down. Anyway~ it will all work out. @ least you won't be that far away that vivsiting would be out of the question.

I'm really not sure how to respond but I do agree that you should talk to your doctor and ask him what he thinks you should do. how far along are you? maybe moving might not be a good idea till after the baby is born??? but if it's a great opportunity I would take it. I'm a momma's girl and I live really close to my parents but I also know that after my husband is out of the marines we'll be moving away. I know it's still 4 years away but I still dread it daily. I wish there was more I could say to help.

Quoting Tippie:“ my husband got a great job opportunity waaaaay down here in california, where i dont know a single person, ... [snip!] ... make the decision together. so maybe jsut talk to him about how you feel and maybe you can work out a compromiseof some sort?”

That's another thing. Right now I am making just as much as he is, but I can't commute that far, and nobody's gonna hire a six month pregnant chick, so we loose all of my income WAYYYYY earlier than anticipated, plus, no maternity leave if you quit. But his sister has him convinced that the job has to be taken NOW!!

Quoting Mommy Mander:“ HA! That's what I sid. I told him I wanted to stay in a little town about halfway, and he was all fine ... [snip!] ... him that her BF would get us the hookup on one of his apartments if we move there, so he's all like....yeah!!!!grrrrrrrr”

I would talk to him. He's not married to his sister, is he?   This is about you and him. If you're willing to compromise, he should too. IMO You should really just whoop up on her and then blame it on your pregnancy hormones =]

Quoting Mommy Mander:“ That's another thing. Right now I am making just as much as he is, but I can't commute that far, and ... [snip!] ... than anticipated, plus, no maternity leave if you quit. But his sister has him convinced that the job has to be taken NOW!!”

Sounds like his siter needs to mind her business~ unless she wants to supplement your income.

Quoting Mommy Mander:“ That's another thing. Right now I am making just as much as he is, but I can't commute that far, and ... [snip!] ... than anticipated, plus, no maternity leave if you quit. But his sister has him convinced that the job has to be taken NOW!!”

then maybe just talk toyour hbby about this. explain how you need your income and the maternity benefits.adjusting to a new baby finacially can be difficult. maybe youcan move right after baby is born? its only a couple extra months. if he talksto the employers, they may understand this and can wait to hire him on.

Quoting Meredith & Landon:“ I would talk to him. He's not married to his sister, is he?   This is about you and him. If you're ... [snip!] ... to compromise, he should too. IMO You should really just whoop up on her and then blame it on your pregnancy hormones =]”

psh, the ass was late to my 3d4d US because the DRAMA QUEEN always has to make a theatrical entrance!!

Quoting Tippie:“ then maybe just talk toyour hbby about this. explain how you need your income and the maternity benefits.adjusting ... [snip!] ... is born? its only a couple extra months. if he talksto the employers, they may understand this and can wait to hire him on.”

I have tried. The thing is, is I feel that if I push it too hard, I'm afraid he;ll just say, 'okay, you dont' want to do it, fine.' then we won't go and I'll be the reason we didn't get our 'great break'. I don't think he'll intentionally think that, but I think it'll be somewhere back there.

I know this would be a really hard time to pull this off, but... Could you live with your mother and stay at your job until the baby comes and then you can join hubby in N.O.? I would want to be with my hubby too, but this may be a less stressful idea then all the moving and loss of income. He could make trips to see you and you could go see him in the new place too.

I'm a momma's girl too and I would totally move in with her and let her baby me through the stress.

My second thought was kinda stubborn... Now would be a good time for him to start thinking of his family particularly this baby... instead of himself. I feel for you.

Quoting jill890:“ I know this would be a really hard time to pull this off, but... Could you live with your mother and ... [snip!] ... Now would be a good time for him to start thinking of his family particularly this baby... instead of himself. I feel for you.”

nah, he is a very good husband, and he loves me increadibly. He would rather give up the job than do that. which I would too. I just don't know. No matter how much I hate to, I'm probibly going to give him an untimatum. Either we move to Plaquemine, which is halfway. (45 minuites or so in either direction .he drives about that far to work NOW). Or no move. I don't feel emotionally ready to make HUGE changes when I don't absolutely have to. So I'll give if he gives. I just hate to be the one to say 'look, this is how its' going to be'. But I guess I will in thsi instance.