Single Mom, but Married

So, I am very frusterated and I just need some HONEST opinions..... I feel like a single parent, but I am married.

Okay, so my husband works 40 hours a week (outside most of the time) and I stay at home and watch Rylea.
- Do you think I should be getting up with her 100% of the time at night becuase I don't have a "job"?
Even after he gets home from work he VERY rarely holds, feed, or changes her because he is just "so exhausted".
Am I asking for too much to have a little help here and there, everybody needs a break once in a while, right?

Wow we are living each other's lives. that's exactly how things are around my house (read my last thread) And i totally disagree they should help too. if you wanna talk please PM me. cause we are in exactly the same boat. (ps where do you live in Tx? I was born and raised in Waco)

ummm i would def. say something about it. he might work 40 hours a week but your working 24/7 . it would be nice just for a little help. i'l just talk to him and explain to him how u fell about it
good luck

Quoting Rylea's Momma:“ So, I am very frusterated and I just need some HONEST opinions..... I feel like a single parent, but ... [snip!] ... "so exhausted". Am I asking for too much to have a little help here and there, everybody needs a break once in a while, right?”

I tell my man to help out when he gets home. Im a SAHM too, but its not like i sit at home watching soaps and eating bon-bons!! I work just as hard, but i dont get a salary... not money anyways...

Absolutly not! I always tell my husband "Yes, you work, but so do I! The difference is, you get days off, and I don't, so help out! Please!"

I dont agree with your husband. Being a mom is a job too. your up all night and day with the baby, you dont get a break.

I must say my hubby is great i stay home all day and when he's off on weekends most of the time its my weekends to do as I please I just recently got my shipment in to start doing passion parties I'll book parties on weekends so they will be all his no matter how tired he is he always puts all the kids to bed!!

Quoting Rylea's Momma:“ So, I am very frusterated and I just need some HONEST opinions..... I feel like a single parent, but ... [snip!] ... "so exhausted". Am I asking for too much to have a little help here and there, everybody needs a break once in a while, right?”

My fiance' works while I stay home with our daughter.. Because of this he doesn't get as much time with her.... So, I've made it his thing when he gets home that he gets to change her diaper, do some tummy time and then interact with her by himself.

She needs to know that he's her dad and he loves her... which I feel she will eventually learn over time as she gets older w/ him doing this little bit of interaction.

At first he didn't understand and got upset because he wanted a break... he didn't want to have to do something as soon as he got off of work. But when I told him that he didn't spend much time with her and I spend ALL my time with her... he finally understood it was necessary and realized that its not so hard.

I would talk to him. Tell him that he needs to step up. Him playing with her for 30 min or so isn't going to kill him, and come on, its not that hard to play with a freaking infant. Seriously!

See, but I have talked to him about it.... a million times if I have done it once. He thinks I can just put her down and rest whenever I want. Sorry, but I want to interact with her every opportunity I get, I think she needs that. He on the other hand...IF he does take her, he puts her in her bouncy/swing and shoves a pacifier in her mouth. I have no idea what i can do to make him realize what it's like for me.

Youre not askin for too much at all yall are both parents. I tried explainin this to my husband like this "you know that feelin of relief when youre about to get off work and you know youre done?..I NEVER get that im NEVER done" You need help dont feel bad.

I just can't tell ya'll how many times I have tried to talk to him about it. He just doesn't get it!

Quoting Rylea's Momma:“ I just can't tell ya'll how many times I have tried to talk to him about it. He just doesn't get it!”

My opinion is men suck!! lol im just kidding but hopefully sooner or later hell relize being a mommy is a job in itself. Im a single mommy as you know and even i get breaks! And i make sure whoever is watching Aidan doesnt just put him down so i completly understad your frustration with that.

Quoting Rylea's Momma:“ See, but I have talked to him about it.... a million times if I have done it once. He thinks I can just ... [snip!] ... in her bouncy/swing and shoves a pacifier in her mouth. I have no idea what i can do to make him realize what it's like for me.”

My fiance' was doing that before just the other night... I had a talk with him and told him that though its great he is watching her, she needs interactive play if we're ever going to get her to move out of the house. Its how babies learn.

If we were just to leave her in the swing, jump-a-roo or whatever then she wouldn't learn to control her head, she wouldn't ever talk or crawl or even walk. I had to spell it out for him like he was ignorant (which some times I feel he is in some aspects of raising a child because he's never done it before)...

He seemed to have understood and has changed his ways in the last couple of days. That night when I said all those things he immediately layed down with her when she was on her blanket for at least 20 minutes just talking to her, moving her fish and trying to get her to reach for them.

I think you might need to leave him be with her for a couple hours one of these days on his days off... make sure he has everything she needs and then just get out of the house... I know it'll be hard for you, but it might help him get his head out.

My husband doesn't really GET IT, either, so your not alone. Then again he hasn't been around for most of her life so.....yeah it's a tough one. But when he was around, he wouldn't do anything. I think he's changed maybe more than a handfull of diapers, I dont think he's ever bathed her, he's feed her a few times,....I mean he isn't terrible but when I would ask him to do something after he got home from work...OH GOSH, WWIII that's what it was. He'd be ticked for me even asking because he "just got out of work and i need to shower and i want to take a nap".....Yeah eventually I think that men just need TIME. I think you should leave your daughter with him for a few hours. Just leave. Give him her bottle, put the diapers and wipes next to his feet and leave. *come back of course*!! lol

I have done that once of twice, but when I come back she is always in her bouncy. I feel like she is the one being punished because of him being lazy.