Some people.

Okay, so today we got a perfectly nice white wooden crib from a friend of mine ad a pack 'n' play. She bought it brand new, and her baby is two now. There's nothing wrong with it at all, not a chip or anything. We like it, it can easily be used for a boy or girl, and it will match anything. Jeff's mom FREAKED OUT because it's used. She seems to think that every baby needs brand new stuff and shoudl never use old things. Which..they aren't even old. Sometimes I just want to tell her off, but I can't. Just like when we first told them I was pregnant, her first words are "Thank God there's adoption." Which hurt Jeff because he's adopted. She gets on me about things constantly and she doesn't even know what I'm doing to stay healthy or be prepared. Sometimes I just want to snap and tell her she's never had a baby, so she can't tell me what to do. It just makes me so mad. So she's planning on going out and buying a crib for our baby. And we plan on setting it up at their house, for them to use. Lol. Just some people really burst my bubble. Anyone else have these problems with parents/bf parents/inlaws?

You can't blame her for wanting the best for her grandbaby, but I can see how it would be annoying.

My MIL is old and senile.

Quoting Rileyxo:“ Okay, so today we got a perfectly nice white wooden crib from a friend of mine ad a pack 'n' play. She ... [snip!] ... for them to use. Lol. Just some people really burst my bubble. Anyone else have these problems with parents/bf parents/inlaws?”

if she buys the crib say "Oh cool, now you have a crib too!" My husbands family, likewise, is a pain in my ass. Even after I told them not to buy me certain things, they still did...so I gave it all away  

maybe you don't have to tell her off but no reason you cannot speak your mind and stand up to her.. i wouldn't put up with someone like that but that's just me i always let people know if they have crossed a line.. i try not to do it in a really mean way but i would not allow someone to make me or by bf feel inferior!

Quoting Rileyxo:“ Okay, so today we got a perfectly nice white wooden crib from a friend of mine ad a pack 'n' play. She ... [snip!] ... for them to use. Lol. Just some people really burst my bubble. Anyone else have these problems with parents/bf parents/inlaws?”

They can get on your nerves sometimes...and if I were you listening to those comments, I would not have been able to keep my big mouth shut for sure. I tell people off right then and there and get it over and done with. But then, thats just me.

I see no problem with the crib at all because the child will outgrow that and would need a bigger bed later on anyway.

If you are rich and has heaps of money to be thrown around then yes buy everything new why not, but if you are trying to save or make good use of what money you have, then a good deal second hand is a good way to go about it.

Your boo's mum seems like a silly old woman to me. She should mind her own business and watch her language too. If she buys a new one, then yes its a good idea for it to be set up in her own house.

I have all sorts of issues with my know-it-all MIL. All you can do are two things. Either tell her you are the parents and you make the decisions or let everything she says go in one ear and out the other. I know it is easier said than done but really, after all of my experience I have learned that the in-laws are hard headed and will never change. Either speak up or ignore. Good luck.

Quoting Rileyxo:“ Okay, so today we got a perfectly nice white wooden crib from a friend of mine ad a pack 'n' play. She ... [snip!] ... for them to use. Lol. Just some people really burst my bubble. Anyone else have these problems with parents/bf parents/inlaws?”

My MIL was the same exact way - 2 years ago. I was preg with my first, and he had to have everything brand new, and the latest things available. They own an a/c business here in phoenix that was doing pretty well. Now, I'm pregnant with my second, and I think after all the money we spent on the first, she's learning that some things can be re used! Her business is now in bankruptcy! lol I'm sure it's not for that reason, but she sure changed her tune when it comes to saving money now!

Quoting nvoytek:“ if she buys the crib say "Oh cool, now you have a crib too!" My husbands family, likewise, is a pain ... [snip!] ... likewise, is a pain in my ass. Even after I told them not to buy me certain things, they still did...so I gave it all away  ”

She's just one of those ladies that thinks she knows everything! Even before I was pregnant. When we go out to eat, she treats us like a child. "Honey, your napkin goes on your lap. Take your elbows off the table." Lol. She swears I don't take my vitamins or eat the right foods but if she'd come over once in awhile she'd see she's wrong. I understand that she's worried adn she wants the best but my gosh.

Quoting Rileyxo:“ She's just one of those ladies that thinks she knows everything! Even before I was pregnant. When we ... [snip!] ... if she'd come over once in awhile she'd see she's wrong. I understand that she's worried adn she wants the best but my gosh.”

sounds like a typical MIL in my opinion. lol. Theyre all a pain in the butt

Quoting Mummy Olivia:“ They can get on your nerves sometimes...and if I were you listening to those comments, I would not have ... [snip!] ... own business and watch her language too. If she buys a new one, then yes its a good idea for it to be set up in her own house.”

Oh beleive me, I'm sure when my hormones really start to get the best of me she won't like me at all. lol.

My boyfriend's family, mainly his sister has all these stupid superstitions. She told me that I couldn't buy anything for the baby until right at the end. And she's always giving me advice that is usually the exact opposite of what my doctor's tell me. She has 3 kids and I think at least 5 pregnancies so she thinks she knows it all.

But I don't see anything wrong with getting used stuff. Especially when it's from someone you know. I'm a little iffy about getting certain from like consignment shops and stuff, but I have no problem taking hand me downs from friends and family although there were certain things I want brand new just because lol. But my family lives off hand me downs so no one told me to do otherwise.

In the end, it's your baby and your choice, if she wants all brand new stuff, she can buy it and keep it at her place lol

Wow... if my MIL said anything like that to me or got twitchy about me buying used baby stuff, I would be irate too! Now, I can see buying a new mattress for the crib b/c well u don't want ur baby lying in another baby's 'uckies'... but a crib itself!? That's just ridiculous!! As long as u sanitize everything, it should be fine, (that's what I did).

wow. That sounds kind of funny, though. I get along great with my inlaws. My mother inlaw gets everything she can get her hands on for my baby, and it's all second-hand stuff. My situation is opposite of yours, though. She buys my baby stuff from yard sales and my husband is the one telling her to stop that because he wants to get brand new stuff. This is our second baby.
Maybe you should tell her thanks for thinking of getting new things, but you already found something you really like. If she tries to tell you about your health just let her know you appreciate her concern but you have been doing all the right things the doctor has been telling you and there's no need to worry. You can't let too much stuff get by, then she'll think she can run you and you might let it build up and tell her off...and you don't want that, right?

Quoting Jadah [It's a girl!]:“ My boyfriend's family, mainly his sister has all these stupid superstitions. She told me that I couldn't ... [snip!] ... In the end, it's your baby and your choice, if she wants all brand new stuff, she can buy it and keep it at her place lol”

yeah, i doubt i'll ever go to a resale shop. But i mean, they're basicalyl brand new. Two years old. Still meet all the safety requirements. The exact same crib is STILL on sale, i highly doubht it's bad. And I watched Madyson many times, I've known Melissa for years, I doubt she'd give me faulty stuff. it would be different if they looked used and worn down too, but tehy don't. So i'm just fine with them. Regaurdless his mom has money to spend on everything new, we don't. And we don't want her getting everything. So when we can get things for cheap or free from a friend, we're going to take it if we need. Ya know?

Quoting LuluBelle:“ Wow... if my MIL said anything like that to me or got twitchy about me buying used baby stuff, I would ... [snip!] ... but a crib itself!? That's just ridiculous!! As long as u sanitize everything, it should be fine, (that's what I did).”

oh yeah, we're defintiley getting a new mattress, lol. Melissa didn't even give it to us cause she knew that was just yucky.