Better than abortion.

This statement upsets me.I often see people type "Well, it's better than abortion." when comparing with adoption. I am a biological mom..and never thought "Well it's either adoption..or I can just abort it." I feel kind of offended by this statement, because it sounds like if you gave up a child for adoption..it was just the next best thing. Could I have kept my son? Yes. Would we have struggled? Yes. Would he have had tosuffer through a life of poverty and moving around? Yes. I wanted what was best for him, and I picked the SELFLESS route. Not the "Well it's better than abortion." route. Sorry if this upsets anyone, because I know not everyone believes in adoption..but it's just how I feel.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
My son is also adopted, and that statement offends me too.
I did not chose adoption for my son, because i didn't want to abort him. I chose adoption bc i wanted better for him!

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ This statement upsets me.I often see people type "Well, it's better than abortion." when comparing with ... [snip!] ... than abortion." route. Sorry if this upsets anyone, because I know not everyone believes in adoption..but it's just how I feel.”

I agree with you, I think abortions are sick, however, I also know that alot of people get them done as an easy way out. Not all, but alot. And I think thats sad too.
You'll probably get alot of sass for this post,but I definatly agree with you

Quoting Mrs♥Ladylike:“ This statement upsets me.I often see people type "Well, it's better than abortion." when comparing with ... [snip!] ... than abortion." route. Sorry if this upsets anyone, because I know not everyone believes in adoption..but it's just how I feel.”

I think the only point ppl were tryin to make is that its better to give a child a chance than to kill it. But i do give you kudos for makeing that kinda decision. I couldnt have giving any of my kids up i dont know how you had the stregth to do it.

I agree. Like they are even comparable to each other...

murder is murder... isnt it sad that if someone else kills an unborn baby, its murder, but if the mother does it its her right??

I agree with you ladies, especially since my sister is in the throes of adoption herself. What's even sadder is that some of the people that say that mean it just as they say it. that they care about one jsut a little than the other. It just seems so heartless to think that when they say that they are actually talking about a baby.

I never knew how I felt about abortion until I became pregnant and now im against it. Unless, medical or some absolute necessity but not as a method of birth control. It really doesnt bug me when people say adoption is better than abortion because I agree.

I feel the same way, I have been watch a couple of show like that pray that some of these women would keep try babies or go for the open adoption. I cried through one of the whole program because you could see the love in the mother's eye and you could find that she didn't want to do this but it was the CHOICE her parents made for her. But I do agree with what you are saying.

Quoting Love Avery ™:“ THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. My son is also adopted, and that statement offends me too. I did not ... [snip!] ... me too. I did not chose adoption for my son, because i didn't want to abort him. I chose adoption bc i wanted better for him!”

I think whatever is better for the mom. I personally and this is just MY OPINION because I was trying to have a baby for three years believe that adoption is a better choice because you give the baby a chance that they deserve. And you can also help parents that can't have kids. I was adopted and Im so happy that my mom gave me a second chance.

I have to ask: How can you keep one and give the other one up? Was it timing?

Oooh, this is going to end up as a debate very soon. I agree that it's wrong to say "it's better than abortion" because you're right, it sounds like it's "only" the next best thing. But in the same breath, some of you have said that abortion is "murder" and that "abortions are sick". And that's not fair either. Getting an abortion is never an easy decision for a woman to make but sometimes it's the right choice for her. So if you want people to be fair to you, try to be fair to others.

Quoting HisWife!:“ I have to ask: How can you keep one and give the other one up? Was it timing?”

I was going to ask the same question? I was giving up by my mom but she never had any more kids.

Thank you!!!!

Quoting HisWife!:“ I have to ask: How can you keep one and give the other one up? Was it timing?”

Yes. 100%. When I was 16 I wouldn't have been able to make enough money, and I wouldn't have had a stable place to live. I was in 11th grade in high school. Now I'm married, my husband supports our family, and I'm ina stable home.

Quoting HisWife!:“ I have to ask: How can you keep one and give the other one up? Was it timing?”

I was wondering the same.