I dont know what to do anymore

My boyfriend is a real jack ass.Today we have been going out for 2 years and i wanted to celebrated it so we were going to go out after he go off at work.He was suppost to get out at 6 and he ended up not getting out until 7:10 so he didnt get here until 7:30.Which really made me mad because he knows i have to give my son a bath by 7:30.And i told him forget im not going anywhere and he tells me fine ill just take someone else.And then a little later he tells me working overtime is more important.I was so pissed because i know its important but to tell me that its more important then our relationship upsets me.Then a few minutes ago he kept calling me a fat ass.Its like how can you say that to someone that you are suppost to love.Sorry about that i just had to vent.

Quoting Stephisabella:“ My boyfriend is a real jack ass.Today we have been going out for 2 years and i wanted to celebrated it ... [snip!] ... calling me a fat ass.Its like how can you say that to someone that you are suppost to love.Sorry about that i just had to vent.”

If him working overtime on a night when you wanted to go out for your anniversary is your only problem, consider yourself lucky.

And I feel it's a meet in th middle sort of deal. You could do the bath either late/early or just skipped it for one night if you really wanted to go out together.

*Edit* However, the fat ass remark is bullshit and I'd be doing something to take care of that shit right away. My husband and I were young when we got married and we have our share of problems. But the little mother fucker has NEVER called me anything other than a bitch (which we all know tobe true)

Men are from a completely different universe. They dont get all sentimental over things like we do. Sometimes you need to cut them a little slack.
But fat ass is a no no. My DH has called me that recently and I was upset but it was made worse when my teens got all on his case about saying stuff like that to me. He did come an apoligize though.
Im not sure that they understand that stuff like that is shit and they would have strokes if we said crap like that to them. The silent treatment works wonderful for revenge.

Be grateful that he wanted to work the overtime and has a job that he can do so! Many people around here are out of work and times are hard. Relationships are all about compromise. You could have easily gone out at 7:30 instead... Pick your battles wisely!

However he is not handling the situation well either by calling you names but I have to wonder if there has been mean things said on both sides or is it just coming one way?

I am dealing with the same thing...Me and my fiancee haven't celebrated an anniversary since our 10 month...we celebrate once a month cause we're like that...well his dad passed away on our 11 month anniversary (yay for us), and then we were planning on spending our 1 year together but he decided that getting drunk with a half brother in law that he wants to kill was more important, then our 1 year 1 month he didn't want to see me because he was pissed at me for being sick from the pregnancy and our 1 year 2 month I think I got 10 minutes with him because he wanted to go to another bar...pissed me off!!!! Well I told him that when we have our anniversary in July I get him the whole day and now he is claiming that he is going to be out of town seeing family that doesn't want him around at all... You know how some families get when say their son dies and has a family...When their son dies they will see the wife and kid(s) at the funeral but then they want nothing to do with them afterwords because that 's just how they are...well my fiancee's family is like that...My fiancee's mom, half brother and 2 half sisters just don't get it at all and they are trying to go out there on our anniversary...So now I am really pissed because I barely get to see him and he is starting to treat me like a friend rather then his fiancee and we barely talk, he barely helps me with this pregnancy and I am lucky to see him once a week for 10 minutes...I have to literally bitch at him just to see him...Pisses me off

Sometimes things just aren't as important to guys as they are to gals. Couldn't you guys just reschedule for a day he's not working?

I understand about feeling bad about the whole, him calling you a fatass thing. That's pretty mean, and you don't want your son growing up thinking it's okay to treat women like that, because it's not.

Quoting Mommy Zãb£l:“ I am dealing with the same thing...Me and my fiancee haven't celebrated an anniversary since our 10 month...we ... [snip!] ... and I am lucky to see him once a week for 10 minutes...I have to literally bitch at him just to see him...Pisses me off”

Seriously? Once a month? You couldn't possibly expect that to last. You didn't, seriously, right? And once a month is flat out silly.

Yeah but he is sitting here and he has not said sorry or nothing he is still being a dick.He asked me why im so pissed and he doesnt care.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Seriously? Once a month? You couldn't possibly expect that to last. You didn't, seriously, right? And once a month is flat out silly.”

once a month is not silly...it's how some people are...yes it does last he is just pissed that I am pregnant because his mom keeps trying to make him believe that it's not his and he is getting so damn irritated with it...Some people just like to celebrate once a month because that's how they are...I know a lot of people that celebrate once a month...The ones that i think are stupid to celebrate are the week, 2 weeks and 3 weeks...a lot of people that I know did that...

Quoting Michimommy:“ Be grateful that he wanted to work the overtime and has a job that he can do so! Many people around here ... [snip!] ... either by calling you names but I have to wonder if there has been mean things said on both sides or is it just coming one way?”

i didnt say it to him he said it to me because we were going to go out for ice cream and i didnt think he was coming so i just went ahead and ate and then he called me a fat ass.I weight 111 pounds i dont understand how im fat

Quoting Stephisabella:“ Yeah but he is sitting here and he has not said sorry or nothing he is still being a dick.He asked me why im so pissed and he doesnt care.”

Men rarely do when we're hurt. They are still ass hurt on their end, so they get all bitchy when we are, too. Let things cool for a minute, and then talk to him about the remark. If he is going to be ignorant about it, bitch at him and make him sleep outside on the sidewalk.

Quoting Mommy Zãb£l:“ once a month is not silly...it's how some people are...yes it does last he is just pissed that I am ... [snip!] ... ones that i think are stupid to celebrate are the week, 2 weeks and 3 weeks...a lot of people that I know did that...”

Really? It lasts. Okay. You go ahead and keep telling yourself that :-)

Quoting ~Ashley Nicole & a girl!~:“ Sometimes things just aren't as important to guys as they are to gals. Couldn't you guys just reschedule ... [snip!] ... That's pretty mean, and you don't want your son growing up thinking it's okay to treat women like that, because it's not.”

well we could of celebrated another day but since he is being a jack ass about the whole thing i dont want to .Because right now he doesnt care all he is doing is playing video games.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Seriously? Once a month? You couldn't possibly expect that to last. You didn't, seriously, right? And once a month is flat out silly.”

That's what I was thinking...

that's what me and my guy did the first year, but once we hit a year, it was just like... eh.... whatever! lol

My guy's not really the romantic/sensitive type in general, we can have just as much fun staying in chilling out as we do when we go out. I honestly wouldn't have him any other way. He's funny as hell.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Men rarely do when we're hurt. They are still ass hurt on their end, so they get all bitchy when we ... [snip!] ... talk to him about the remark. If he is going to be ignorant about it, bitch at him and make him sleep outside on the sidewalk.”

well thats the good thing he doesnt live with me or i would make him sleep outside.But lately he hasnt given shit about anything.