re: I dont know what to do anymore

Quoting HollsSN:“ I'm not sure what we are expecting in the teen forum! ”

lol The adults they claim to be quite posibly :-) lol I hadn't realized until after I posted it was in teen parenting. But, eh, whatever. I like my opinion...and it would be the same in ANY of the forums lol

Quoting Mommy Zãb£l:“ it didn't fizzle out...we are celebrating this next anniversary and he just told me that...we both have ... [snip!] ... that i am defending myself with the way that a lot of people celebrate their anniversaries so fucking shove it you dumb cunt...”

Mature people can have discussions and disagreement without name calling.Unfortuantely I see you cannot...

Good luck in life sweetheart... somehow I think you are going to need it!

Quoting Stephisabella:“ But see the funny thing is righrt now we can go out but he is to busy playing games and stuff.I just wanna blow up the stupid nintendo Wii”

It's because you're both upset. Guys tend to do that because they figure if you guys do go out you won't have a very good time because of the tension. If the tension eases up he might wanna go, if not, maybe it would be best to do it another time when you guys are both in a good mood.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ lol The adults they claim to be quite posibly :-) lol I hadn't realized until after I posted it was ... [snip!] ... I posted it was in teen parenting. But, eh, whatever. I like my opinion...and it would be the same in ANY of the forums lol”

And I would be annoyed if I had to celebrate my anniversary EVERY month! Can you imagine? Happy 67th month..Yay!!!

I mean, it would really take the fun away from a real anniversary!

Quoting Michimommy:“ Mature people can have discussions and disagreement without name calling.Unfortuantely I see you cannot... Good luck in life sweetheart... somehow I think you are going to need it!”

That's what I'm thinking. We said it's not realistic to expect such a childish thing will last and she gets all ass hurt because she *knows* inside of herself we're right and, in turn, starts calling names. That makes her look ready to be a parent.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ It boils down to this...you both need to sit down and have a big ol' grown up talk about what you expect ... [snip!] ... talk about what you expect from your relationship. If you can't come to the same conclusion, it might be time to call it quits.”

yeah but when he acts 5 years old its kinda hard.He cant sit and talk like a man he has to talk like the kids that cover there ears and say "i dont hear you"

Quoting HollsSN:“ And I would be annoyed if I had to celebrate my anniversary EVERY month! Can you imagine? Happy 67th month..Yay!!! I mean, it would really take the fun away from a real anniversary!”

It really would. I like my simple little card I get for my anniversary. We have three kids and little time for each other. So, every few months or so we take a break and have someone take the kids over night so we can do something together. But we don't say we're celebrating anything. I don't see why it would be necessary. I'd get annoyed with it, too.

Quoting Stephisabella:“ yeah but when he acts 5 years old its kinda hard.He cant sit and talk like a man he has to talk like the kids that cover there ears and say "i dont hear you"”

Why don't you be the bigger person and apolgize for getting on his case about work. That's probably the mature thing to do! I bet it would work! And you would both get what you want!

Quoting Stephisabella:“ yeah but when he acts 5 years old its kinda hard.He cant sit and talk like a man he has to talk like the kids that cover there ears and say "i dont hear you"”

Then you need to really consider where your relationship is going at this point, sweetie. It's hard, I know. I've been there. Just in the past year. My husband gets all silent when I tear into his ass. So, I've realized talking works a little better.

But we finally had to sit down and REALLY talk about what we are getting from the relationship and what we wanted from it. We want the same things, it was just a lack in communication. But we have to be willing to know when it's just not right and learn to let go.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ That's what I'm thinking. We said it's not realistic to expect such a childish thing will last and she ... [snip!] ... because she *knows* inside of herself we're right and, in turn, starts calling names. That makes her look ready to be a parent.”

yeah, I didn't realize at first I was in a teen forum either, but like you my advice would have been the same no matter what. I should haveexpected asmuch. As long ago as my teen days were I still remember how grown I thought I was. Life however has taught me differently!

Quoting Michimommy:“ yeah, I didn't realize at first I was in a teen forum either, but like you my advice would have been ... [snip!] ... asmuch. As long ago as my teen days were I still remember how grown I thought I was. Life however has taught me differently!”

Exactly. I was an uber mature teenager...that didn't mean I was an adult :-) I realized that pretty damn quickly. I am 23 years old and I still sometimes feel like a child in the midst of certain people.

Well, when you do finally talk to him, I'd atleast tell him that you were sorry for not understanding his work schedule, but things like anniversaries are very important to you, and you just love the time you get to spend with eachother. (He should be more apt to listen to you if you are being more understanding as well.) But he has to know that it isn't good to resort to namecalling when he's frustrated with you, especially since you are both adults now.