re: making things better

like we will fight about money.. and just other stupid stuff

communication is important.
use 'feeling' words. "im feeling like..." "i feel like..."

lol i sound like a therapist.  

when i do things like that he gets mad at the things i say.. so it makes us argue more.. because after we had my daughter i caught him emailing a girl a bunch of stuff that he never says to me like "he talked about her all the time at work" and that "he wants to marry her" he tells me he doesn't want to get married, well not any time soon, but we have made it through that point in our relationship and i think that is the main reason why it is so rocky right now.. i don't trust him fully yet.. i am getting there but it's not fully.. so how can i trust him?

he sounds like a piece of shit that doesnt know what he wants. and if that is the case, there is no working on things

I agree. If he is talking to other women like that, what are you trying to make better? You deserve someone who will treat you right and love you back. Simply ask him if he wants to be a part of your life and be prepared for whatever he says. Good luck hun.

well we have already done that and he said he realizes he made a mistake and he loves me.. but things can still be rocky at times.. he is very moody.. and i try to bite my tongue so we dont argue, but we both are stubborn and have to say whats on our minds and then we fight..

When it comes to being stubborn...If something is bothering you...stop...think about what is bothering you and whether or not its worth arguing over. Most of all when either of you happen to be upset about something. Just stop before you say something about it because you'll end up regretting something. Now if he keeps talking to other women online or whatever...I'd definitely do some hardcore thinking as to whether or not you being hurt is worth giving him another shot.