Dad has gender disappointment

Well, my husband is disappointed that the baby is a girl. He really wanted a son and is not interested in hearing anything about my pregnancy anymore. He's even "joking" that I'll have to do better next time.  

It's kind of upsetting to me because I would have been thrilled either way and I just don't understand why he's feeling this way.

Has anyone else had this problem while pregnant and if so, was it alright in the end? I just don't want him to be distant towards her when she gets here just because she's a girl.

Aw =/ I'm sure he will change once the baby comes!

he'll come round to the idea , just take him babhy shopping that might change his mind =]

I would tell him to get over himself and be thankful that your child is healthy.... After all... he is the one who determines the gender... not you... so maybe he needs to talk to his little swimmers next time...
On a serious note... I am sorry that he is acting this way...I hope the best for you... and I am sure he will come around. Good luck 

Quoting Sarah's Having a GIRL!!!!:“ Well, my husband is disappointed that the baby is a girl. He really wanted a son and is not interested ... [snip!] ... if so, was it alright in the end? I just don't want him to be distant towards her when she gets here just because she's a girl.”

tell him that it's his sperm that decides gender!!!!

and just wait till he sees her. he'll get over it.

It's completely normal for either mom or dad (or both) to experience gender disappointment. I would give him some space about it, and shortly, encourage him to talk about it. Remind him that just cuz she is a girl doesn't mean she can't play softball, gold, or even football or hockey. She can do whatever she wants.

My hubby has two little girls and couldn't be more thrilled. They are daddy's girls through and through.

That is pretty mean and hard to deal with while you are pregnant but, once that beautiful baby girl gets here she will have him wrapped around her pinky! His heart will melt like butter and she will be "daddy's little girl" even if and when you ever do have a boy!! lol 

Quoting StephanieMM:“ I would tell him to get over himself and be thankful that your child is healthy.... After all... he is ... [snip!] ... note... I am sorry that he is acting this way...I hope the best for you... and I am sure he will come around. Good luck ”

 

He will get over it as soon as he has that little girl in his arms. Also girls are prone to be daddy girls. So just wait.. It will get better.

Quoting Sarah's Having a GIRL!!!!:“ Well, my husband is disappointed that the baby is a girl. He really wanted a son and is not interested ... [snip!] ... if so, was it alright in the end? I just don't want him to be distant towards her when she gets here just because she's a girl.”

Hi due date buddy!  I'm sure it's just initial disappointment.  I know Bryan would have been "devastated" if we found out it was a girl and it would really upset me too.  You can let him know that the daddy determines the sex of the baby so he can thank himself!  As soon as he sees the little one he will fall in love - give him a little time to get used to the idea.

He'll come around! My hubby was so disappointed at first that he was not getting a boy and now, he's the exact opposite. He said he wouldn't want it any other way now. She's got him wrapped around her little finger!  

Thank you ladies. I love getting your advice and it really does make me feel better about the situation.

PS, love the "talk to the swimmers" post. That made me laugh.

Quoting Sarah's Having a GIRL!!!!:“ Well, my husband is disappointed that the baby is a girl. He really wanted a son and is not interested ... [snip!] ... if so, was it alright in the end? I just don't want him to be distant towards her when she gets here just because she's a girl.”

we totally had this problem, my hubby REALLY wanted a little girl. He pissed me off beyond belief when we left the Dr's office because he was acting all mopey and shitty about it. It took a little bit, but he got over it- I think some of that has to do with the fact the we are naming the little guy after him   but once he got over it, he apologized to me brought home balloons that said "We love You" and "It's a Boy!" a little baseball outfit and some nerf balls ( I have no idea what he thinks a newborn will do with nerf basket and baseballs!). I noticed the other thing that helped was that for Fathers Day the "baby" gave him a card and asked him to pick out and buyhis first outfit that he will be wearing home from the hospital, it seemed to make him feel more included.

My boyfriend got so sad when he found out it was a girl that I cried.   I felt like it was my fault.   Since shes been born, he doesnt love her any less than if it wouldve been a boy. Dont worry, he will get over it. Get the baby something that says "Daddys little girl" & show him, trust me this heart will melt.  

Quoting Sarah's Having a GIRL!!!!:“ Thank you ladies. I love getting your advice and it really does make me feel better about the situation. PS, love the "talk to the swimmers" post. That made me laugh.”

Also try buying him the baby clothes he likes his favoritebands onesies ect... I bought quite a few before we found out the sex, but we ended up having a boy