Long and Random Hubby Question

Completely random, but I was wondering if anyone felt the same way I do. First, let me say this, my hubby is an amazing guy, he comes with drama like we all do but he spends everyday showing me how much he loves me etc. and I can be a raging bitch   But, (yes, hereis the but) lately I look at him and think "uh oh." In the sense, that I waited a long time before deciding to have children with someone, I was even married to someone else before him for five years and still never thought about having kids, so who I chose as the father of my children was a really important decision to me. Both my sisters had beautiful children with morons and I see how hard it has been for them. I know that we made the decision to have a baby together and since getting pregnant he has been over the moon but I on the other hand, have started to panic. Not about my son mind you, I adore him already, about my husband, Look I know marriage is supposed to link you to someone forever, but in reality it is not like that anymore, having a child on the other hand DOES link you to someone forever and sometimes I look at him on the couch in his underwear playing xbox and think "oh, shit, this is who I chose to be connected to forever? Oh, please let me have made the right choice." Does anyone else go through this? Maybe I am still a freaked out commitment-phobe.

everyday, then again im 17.

Quoting Momma to Baby Deuce:“ Completely random, but I was wondering if anyone felt the same way I do. First, let me say this, my hubby ... [snip!] ... please let me have made the right choice." Does anyone else go through this? Maybe I am still a freaked out commitment-phobe.”

Um....lol...Ive only been married for 2 weeks and we dont even live together yet BUT

That is completely normal. I have good friends who have been married 30 years, some that have been married 2 years, they all say the same thing. Nothing is perfect every single day. What makes the marriage work is 2 people who are committed to one common goal: A solid marriage. We all get random thoughts in our heads and thats ok.

Quoting nicole.:“ everyday, then again im 17.”

LOL! Yeah, that might make it seem even longer to beforever connectedto someone  

Quoting Momma to Baby Deuce:“ Completely random, but I was wondering if anyone felt the same way I do. First, let me say this, my hubby ... [snip!] ... please let me have made the right choice." Does anyone else go through this? Maybe I am still a freaked out commitment-phobe.”

Having a child with someone does not necessarily link YOU to them for forever. Don't stay together just for the baby's sake. A child would rather grow up in a loving home, whether one or both parents be present, than a home where they see and hear nothing but bickering and such. Granted, you said everything is fine and he's a great guy.. but I guess my point is just that no, in all reality, it does not link [you] to him for all eternity!

Quoting Momma to Baby Deuce:“ LOL! Yeah, that might make it seem even longer to beforever connectedto someone  ”

haha. i love him but man we mature so much faster.

Quoting Pregnant w/my 2nd!:“ Having a child with someone does not necessarily link YOU to them for forever. Don't stay together just ... [snip!] ... and he's a great guy.. but I guess my point is just that no, in all reality, it does not link [you] to him for all eternity!”

Oh yeah, marriage is great, I adore him...it's the whole being pregnant thing that is freaking me out. I know I wouldn't have to deal with him a lot or anything if the marriage did dissolve, but he is the other half of my son, and forgive me if I sound like an idiot because this is my first kid, but just that alone would remind me of him forever right? I mean, when I left my first marriage I moved 3000 miles away and didn't speak to him again, with a child I would have a living breathing reminder right? Or is it not really like that when you have a kid?

I felt that way when I was preggo with my first... I would look at him and wonder if I totally f***ed up. However, after seeing him with our girls, it really made me love him more... I got to see this whole 'other' side to him that I did not know. And for me, anyways, it is very attractive... Seeing the way he interacts with our kids... It brings out this other dimension of sensitivtiy... It also has us on 'common' ground... taking care of the kids we work more as a team (than as independent units when we didn't have kids...)

Quoting LL H:“ I felt that way when I was preggo with my first... I would look at him and wonder if I totally f***ed ... [snip!] ... us on 'common' ground... taking care of the kids we work more as a team (than as independent units when we didn't have kids...)”

Thats very reassuring, thank you, I was feeling a bit like a jerk for feeling this way, because he has been amazing throughout the pregnancy, but things change you know?

Quoting Momma to Baby Deuce:“ Thats very reassuring, thank you, I was feeling a bit like a jerk for feeling this way, because he has been amazing throughout the pregnancy, but things change you know?”

Things do change, but not always for the worse... In our case it was for the better...