how do I make him understand my feelings?

My Fiance is completely against any of my wishes. One fight we just had..that has happened many times before is about belly sleeping. My Opinion is that if Doctors & SIDS websites tell me to not let him sleep on his belly then I dont want him sleeping on nhis belly. Our 5mos old has extremely bad gas and has since he was a newborn so they told us to let him sleep in his carseat. So now he is 5mos & sleeping in his carseat. Well my Fiance went to put him to bed like normal & randomly decided that tonight is the night to make him sleep in his crib. He put him on his back for the first hour then flipped him over onto his belly. He doesnt understand that babies are blank slates so if you allow them to belly sleep then they will want to belly sleep. I am soooo freaked out about SIDS and I strongly fell like those rules are written for a reason...BECAUSE IT HAPPENS. His arguement is that he slept on his belly & his bros slept on their bellies. That was 26yrs ago..we have progressed since then. I feel like..if it can happen then why attempt it!!! am I wrong? Its like a toxic chemical bottle say dont drink and saying well my brother did it & he didnt die!! Thats not ok...i dont want him sleeping on his belly..i dont want to wake up to my child not breathing. I know it can happen other ways but I follow every SIDS rule to a T just incase...again why risk it? I understand others do it but he doesnt even nap on his belly so why get him hooked now? someone please help before i flip out!

Honestly, everyone that I've talked to about it (because I can't get Lily to sleep on her back) says that all babies used to sleep on their bellies..
I even called a whole bunch of pediatricians and wound up with a response from the receptionist saying "I have three grandkids, two are belly sleepers and one is a back sleeper. Some babies just do what they will do. But I can't give you medical advice."

I think it's okay. If the baby will not sleep on their back after trying and trying and trying, I think it's okay. But I certainly don't want to be the one to say that and then you listen to me & your baby gets hurt.

I let Lily sleep on her tummy and she is three months old.. I don't have a problem with it, I just keep everything away from her, pacifier & all.

But aside from that, if you ARE certainly NOT going to let your baby sleep on his belly (completely understandable) then just keep telling your hubby that. No matter what, argue with him until your face turns blue, because you're the mommy - and the doctors say that's what's best.. It helps you feel better, and if it will keep you from worrying, he should understand that you already worry enough about the baby without adding that in, too.

Quoting Liliana & Mommy:“ Honestly, everyone that I've talked to about it (because I can't get Lily to sleep on her back) says ... [snip!] ... tummy and she is three months old.. I don't have a problem with it, I just keep everything away from her, pacifier & all.”

Well he is 5mos and can roll from back to belly & belly to back most of the time but it still freaks me out beyond belief! I just feel like he shouldnt argue & yell at me because I feel this way. Its my child...i had to suffer through almost 10mos of pregnancy & birth to have him and I do not want anything to happen to him. We havent tried to make him sleep on his back since he was2 weeks old so I feel like he didnt try hard enough to get him to sleep on his back before taking the easy way out & sometimes the dangerous way. SO I dunno what to do! He argues against anything I wish to do or not to do with my child. He just doesnt have the Bond a Mother has with her baby so he doesnt worry about what could happen.

Quoting Liliana & Mommy:“ Honestly, everyone that I've talked to about it (because I can't get Lily to sleep on her back) says ... [snip!] ... tummy and she is three months old.. I don't have a problem with it, I just keep everything away from her, pacifier & all.”

Pacifiers reduce the risk of sids.....

with that aside.... my daughter is a belly sleeper and wont have it any other way. This is a constant debate. Its really the parents call. Honestly, either way can cause harm so I dont think theres one perfect answer. You and DH could sit down and talk about this and make a decision together, but in the end itll probably just go back and forth.

IMO I wouldnt be too worried about it either way. If baby sleeps on the belly or back you should be checking on baby often and have a moniter. Do what makes baby happy=) Thats just how it works lol

Quoting Liliana & Mommy:“ But aside from that, if you ARE certainly NOT going to let your baby sleep on his belly (completely understandable) ... [snip!] ... it will keep you from worrying, he should understand that you already worry enough about the baby without adding that in, too.”

I agree! I think he has absolutely no right to argue against what I am saying. When he has a baby lol then he can dictate what happens : )

Quoting Momma Cutxthroat:“ Pacifiers reduce the risk of sids..... with that aside.... my daughter is a belly sleeper and ... [snip!] ... belly or back you should be checking on baby often and have a moniter. Do what makes baby happy=) Thats just how it works lol”

yeh we have tried pacifiers...thats a no go! Well we have a monitor but I am afraid it will happen while I am sleeping & I wont know. We have one of those angel movement onitors that alerts you after 20secs of no movement but still...i dont want it to come to that. I dont wanr to hear that alarm! He says "well we have that" ok well I really dont want that thing to have to alert me that my child isnt breathing lol....i dunno its a mess but I will put him to bed everynight from now on!!

Quoting Jes & Phoenix:“ yeh we have tried pacifiers...thats a no go! Well we have a monitor but I am afraid it will happen while ... [snip!] ... to have to alert me that my child isnt breathing lol....i dunno its a mess but I will put him to bed everynight from now on!!”

I know what youre saying about being the mommy and carrying the child for 9 almost 10 months and everything but it is his child too and sometimes as mothers we tend to close our hubbys out in decisions such as these when making him apart of these little decisions can make a HUGE difference. Be glad that DH actually gives a crap because I know plenty of women who would give anything just to have a man around! 
Theres nothing to worry about. Baby will move if baby isnt satisfied with a certain position. IMO, whatever baby is comfortable with then let him have it. ESPECIALLY at 5 months momma! DONT WORRY!! be happy=)

Quoting Momma Cutxthroat:“ I know what youre saying about being the mommy and carrying the child for 9 almost 10 months and everything ... [snip!] ... position. IMO, whatever baby is comfortable with then let him have it. ESPECIALLY at 5 months momma! DONT WORRY!! be happy=)”

thanks so much!!! we will have to sit & talk about it 2morrow : ) I am trying really hard not to worry lol...doesnt work though haha!

Quoting Jes & Phoenix:“ thanks so much!!! we will have to sit & talk about it 2morrow : ) I am trying really hard not to worry lol...doesnt work though haha!”

I know. I feel like its all I do anymore! Im going to the beach tomorrow and leaving Anna with grandma so me and DH can get away but my heart will be here with her. lol I dont enjoy myself being without her I just worry if my mother knows what to do when she cries. grrr

Quoting Jes & Phoenix:“ Well he is 5mos and can roll from back to belly & belly to back most of the time but it still freaks ... [snip!] ... or not to do with my child. He just doesnt have the Bond a Mother has with her baby so he doesnt worry about what could happen.”

He shouldn't yell at you   I'm sorry

Quoting Momma Cutxthroat:“ Pacifiers reduce the risk of sids..... with that aside.... my daughter is a belly sleeper and ... [snip!] ... belly or back you should be checking on baby often and have a moniter. Do what makes baby happy=) Thats just how it works lol”

:p I give her a pacifier, but I've seen her gag herself and spit up because of having it in her mouth ... so I let her have it till she's good and asleep, then I pull it out of her mouth cause I'm worried about her gagging on it

and that's my point of view too!