Long[ish] Vent.

So, a little background information : My boyfriend (P)'s best friend (T) is still really good friends with P's ex girlfriend (S). The other night, P and I went to T's. We're all sitting around, having a few beers and S calls T and says she's coming over but then he told her that we were there and she said she's not coming until we leave. Whatever, I told him to say we were gone because I'm not going to playgames. She got there and we didn't acknowledge her or anything so I don't see why she thought there would bea problem... anyway, I was getting kinda of... really drunk, haha. I said to P, "When we get home we're gonna DO IT!" At this point, I forgot she was even there... anyway, apparently, she got all bent out of shape, thinking I said it to get on her nerves. It's not like they just broke up.. it's been done and over with for about 5 years. T pulls me to the side and feeds me this big lecture about how no matter what, people will always have feelings for their ex bfs/gfs and that I just need to get over it. That's bullshit. P told me that what we have is nothing compared to what they once did, that she'll never be what I am to him... I got pissed because why should I have to censor what I say to my boyfriend - MY BABY'S FATHER - around his ex girlfriend. I don't need to get over it. SHE does. She has a boyfriend and needs to get the hell over P because he doesn't want her anymore. Ugh! The point of all this is, that since that day, I have been really upset about it. I asked P and he said, "I don't have feelings for her but I don't hate her." Okay... I don't know what my problem is but I can't help being jealous... of her! Stupid and dramatic, I know...

*ps - sorry for the initials, just don't want fingers pointing back at me for causing more shit if someone who knows these people reads it.

Quoting Evan's Ma *:“ So, a little background information : My boyfriend (P)'s best friend (T) is still really good friends ... [snip!] ... for the initials, just don't want fingers pointing back at me for causing more shit if someone who knows these people reads it.”

I'm sorry, I got really confused by the time you went to T's house... Could you at least change the name so later in the story we can tell who is a dude and who is a girl?

i understood you. ANd that chick needs to get over it. Youre right, you ARENT in high school anymore so grow up. And i understand, i get kinda wierded out by my fiances exes just cuz he is still friends with them. Its kinda wierd, but i thin it has to do with hormones

Quoting ♥Hailee's Mama:“ I'm sorry, I got really confused by the time you went to T's house... Could you at least change the name so later in the story we can tell who is a dude and who is a girl?”

Ah, I'm really sorry. T is the friend.. P is my boyfriend. And S is the exgirlfriend. I know.. it's as confusing in print as it is in real life... 

I don't understand. If she wasn't gonna come over til you guys left you should of let it be like that. She didn't want an issue obviously. you said you don't wanna play games but lied to her and said you left and stuff. That kinda sounds like games to me. If she's uncomfortable around him that she should stay away. Let her.

Quoting Evan's Ma *:“ Ah, I'm really sorry. T is the friend.. P is my boyfriend. And S is the exgirlfriend. I know.. it's as confusing in print as it is in real life... ”

Lol sorry. I guess my attention span is really short. I tried to go over it again, and I kept thinking T was P or S was T lol. I think I finally got it though.

Is S your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?

I just thought it was stupid... I guess I should have mentioned that everytime we go out, she winds up there with his other exgirlfriend. I guess they're friends now... but they mess with me all night... waiting outside the bathroom door and staring and laughing at me. I don't know, I just thought if she came and realized I'm not going to let her bother me the way she does when she's got her sidekick, than maybe she'll see, I'm not giving in. Maybe that's a game to some people but I just don't want people thinking that I'm going to leave on her account.

I think she needs to get over it! She had her chance and they didnt work out....now he is with you! For God's sakes she knows you guys have a baby together so she must know you do it, lol. Who cares if she doesnt want to hear about it...owell. He is all yours and you can say whatever you want to him. You shouldnt be jealous of her hun, she sounds pretty pathetic. If she hates it that bad then she can find a new circle of friends...but other then that he is your man and you have every right to say to him what you want!!!!

Quoting Arly-R:“ I don't understand. If she wasn't gonna come over til you guys left you should of let it be like that. ... [snip!] ... you left and stuff. That kinda sounds like games to me. If she's uncomfortable around him that she should stay away. Let her.”

you make a really good point. She should have let her come after they left

Quoting ♥Hailee's Mama:“ Lol sorry. I guess my attention span is really short. I tried to go over it again, and I kept thinking ... [snip!] ... it again, and I kept thinking T was P or S was T lol. I think I finally got it though. Is S your boyfriend's ex girlfriend?”

yes, haha.

Ugh you are supposed to have consideration for someone your bf dated a long time ago?

Are you 6 years old? I would have screamed at my friend for implying such a thing. Not everyone has feelings for people they dated before. I have zero feelings for anyone I dated before my current BF. The ex is obviously super lame and needs to move on.

You can say whatever the hell you want to your BF at any time in front of some chick he dated. Shes the past and you are his present and his future.

Quoting Gelisweets:“ I think she needs to get over it! She had her chance and they didnt work out....now he is with you! For ... [snip!] ... can find a new circle of friends...but other then that he is your man and you have every right to say to him what you want!!!!”

thank you. i've tried to tell myself they TRY to cause problems between me and him - which they do, and I should just ignore it.. but again, it can be hard. Next time I won't even bother. I shouldn't have to prove myself to anybody.

Quoting Evan's Ma *:“ I just thought it was stupid... I guess I should have mentioned that everytime we go out, she winds up ... [snip!] ... not giving in. Maybe that's a game to some people but I just don't want people thinking that I'm going to leave on her account.”

Oh no. I'm not saying you should've left. You were there already. But if she was willing to stay away I would've let her. I would never hang out with one of my hubby ex's. That's weird for me too.

Quoting Shiloh's mama♥:“ Ugh you are supposed to have consideration for someone your bf dated a long time ago? Are you 6 years ... [snip!] ... the hell you want to your BF at any time in front of some chick he dated. Shes the past your his present and his future.”

i know it's totally stupid to care what she thinks. I realize it's all out of jealousy, now. It's so catty and dumb. Before me and him got together, she had no idea who I was... so her having the nerve to fuck with me in public is funny. I just felt so insignificant when T said I had to get over it. Whatever happened with them, happened in high school... a lot has happened since then. People change. Thanks you guys, for making me realize that I don't need to worry about it because.. you're right, he's with ME now.

Quoting Evan's Ma *:“ i know it's totally stupid to care what she thinks. I realize it's all out of jealousy, now. It's so ... [snip!] ... change. Thanks you guys, for making me realize that I don't need to worry about it because.. you're right, he's with ME now.”

Well your friend is kinda weird too. She shouldnt have said anything to you.