NEED OPINIONS!!WHAT WOULD YOU DO???

Okay so I'm being induced tomorrow and they only allow three people in the labor and delivery room for the birth....My fiance's mother decided at the last minute that she wanted to be there. Now mind you I already had my three picked out which would be my mother, my fiance and my dads wife(my parents are separated)....No I'm going to feel bad because we have had this planned for weeks now and all of a sudden his mom wants to be there and she is coming in from out of town....So this means I would have to tell my dads wife she can't be in the room and mind you she is also coming in from out of town....WHAT DO I DO????

wow-thats a toughie....but I would think your MIL deserves it more....did you ask her and she said no and has since chnged her mind? If thats the case then she lost out dont change your plans....but if you didnt ask her just asked your dads wife-then I think its a bit unfair.....

Bless your little heart...you ARE in a pickle! Ultimately this is YOUR baby and you cannot be stressing yourself about pleasing everyone. You CAN'T please everyone....

I'd say... stick with your plan.. you've had it for weeks now.

i'm sure your dad's wife will understand, that your fiance's mother deserves to be in there considering that is her son'sbaby. maybe you couldletyour dad's wife be thefirst one to come in after thebaby's born, make her feel important. im in your exact same situation, i have a mother, step mother, and a MIL...im not even due until december and they're already asking who's going to be in the room w/me! well good luck and congrats on the new baby coming!

You've already picked your three people that you want in the delivery room with you. So I'm sorry that it sucks, but I'm sure the people that you picked are very excited about being there with you. That would suck too. You never know what tomorrow holds, she may still be able to get in, but she will be there. You shouldn't feel bad. Not at all... It's what happens when you do things last minute, you don't always get your way.

Don't stress about it, you go and have a healthy baby! She would be here to see the grandchild anyway!

Did you tell her you already had you 3 chosen? You need to tell her they only allow 3 people in and there is no room, She can wait outside. How does you oh feel about this? I supose its up to you sweetie your the one in labour, Its a tough situation but if i was in that situation id tell here there is no room and they only allow 3 and thay you chose your 3 ages ago. Hope she understands.
goodluck

xcx

Some hospitals will bend the rules for a well behaved group. I only had my hubby in, that was all that was allowed, but originally I was also going to have my MIL and two best friends too, and they said OK just stay out of the doctors and nurses way. Baby came too fast though, and they didn't make it in time lol.

my mom told me to let them figure it out and just worry about having the baby but im still a little concerned about it....I mean my dads wife would understand but still I guess Im worried about pleasing to many people.My mom said maybe we should ask the nurses if we could have four instead of three but I don't know about that hospitals are pretty strict these days.

There is no one who gets to be in l&d w/ you bc they "deserve" it, you bring people in who you want to share the experience with, and those who you feel will help YOU when you need them.  You have had your plan & I would stick w/ it.  Just explain to your mil that you have already made arrangements for the others to be there, and you don't want to change the plan at this point, BUT that she will still see her beautiful grandchild immediately after birth.  Have someone in the room snap a few digital pics right at birth and rush them out to the mil so she can see the baby right away.  Try not to stress, you are about to become a MOMMY!!!!!  It's time to get one more full night's sleep, if you can, and be happy and excited.  Your world isabout to become that much more beautiful once you all see your new baby.

I told everyone to get stuffed. LOL
My husband is the only one being in the room with me. I don't want his mother seeing my hoo ha!

You know maybe you can see if they can alternate times? That might work! And I don't think your dads wife would be very hurt if you asked her very nicely by saying. "Hey, I really want you to be there, but my boyfriends mother wants to be in the room during the birth. Do you mind waiting outside? Maybe we can alternate you being in there and not." I think she'll understand if it comes down to it! But remember no matter what in the end it's YOUR decision and no one needs to be in there that you don't want in there.

See if they can take turns. I was told 3 ppl, but they can alternate... So only 3 ppl there at a time. Otherwise, to be honest I would pick the one I am closest to.

Quoting Being Induced 2morrow:“ Okay so I'm being induced tomorrow and they only allow three people in the labor and delivery room for ... [snip!] ... have to tell my dads wife she can't be in the room and mind you she is also coming in from out of town....WHAT DO I DO????”

Go with what you planned. these ppl . Well the furture mil did not ask any questions. Was up with that?Can't do that. That is brass face. Tell her you chose your ppl already she could hold on in the waiting room. if shes a nice person she will understand. Yes?