Adoption.

I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My father in law says that it's dumb that I want to meet my birth-mom, but I really don't care if I have a relationship with her or not. I just want to see what she looks like & find out if I have any real brothers or sisters. If we end up being good friends than so be it, but it wouldn't really break my heart if we didn't...or if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with me...I already have an amazing mother.

What do y'all think?

My little sister was adopted at 6months and she has met her birth mother, although she tries to be in and out of her life all the time.

it's not dumb at all that you want to meet your birth mom! it's normal to want to know about your geneology, and to find out about possible brothers or sisters!

your dad should have known this day would come, and he should have been prepaired to support you, not down you for wanting to know about your birth mother!

good luck!

I think that most people that have been adopted want to know who their biological parents were
I think that if you feel like you could handle any emotions (especially being preg) then do it
As long as you dont have your head set of how its going to be I would
Otherwise its going to be a part of you that youll never know and youll wonder forever...

I don't now my biological father...the father that I have adopted me when I was a baby and when him and my mother got married. When I was younger, I thought I never wanted to know him, see him, or even hear about him. But now that I am about to have a baby, and I am older, I do want to meet him. I just want to know how he looks, and what he is like. What traits I inherited from him, and his/his family's medical history because it can effect me and my baby in the long run. So I know how you feel, I just don't know when and where to start, but I will one day.

Well, both my parents want me to meet them. They have been telling me for years that I should. I mean I already registered at my adoption agency, so now I'm just waiting for one of them to reply. Honestly, if nothing else, I want there medical history to know if my migranes are genetic. So yep.

Thanks!

I wasn't adopted but both of my parents walked out on me when I was a baby. I was raised by my grandparent and various aunts and uncles. I met my mother when I was 14 and my father when I was 17. The mother thing didn't turn out so well but I was very blessed to meet my father and his side of the family. They welcomed me with open arms and I have a great relationship with all of them.

I think it is up to you. My dad was adopted as well, but he wants nothing to do with his real parents he doesn't care about siblings r what they are like or anything. But that is just him. I think that if you feel like you need to know or you want to know then go for it, but I think you are going into the right way, not expecting anything from it. Good Luck!

Quoting StephanieRae:“ I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My father in law says that it's dumb that I want to meet my birth-mom, ... [snip!] ... didn't...or if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with me...I already have an amazing mother. What do y'all think?”

You have every right to want that! I think I would do the same thing. Just dont forget about those who raised you and were always there for you. I dont see anything wrong with it. Good luck!

My son was adopted at birth. I asked all the related questions you are wondering about just in case when he is older he wants to know. I have medical background information for him and his known siblings names. I dread the day he wants to meet meet the birth mother only because last time we spoke she wanted nothing to do with him in the future. (he was a child of rape) I admire her for having the strength to let me be his mom. (she chose me) But at the same time I dread telling him how he came about. He will never know the sperm donor(as we refer to the father because he is unknown and a rapist).

But my feelings aside cause it will be heartbreaking one day my son comes first and whateer he needs to fulfill his life and answer his questions comes first.

Let no one tell you different. As long as you prepare yourself for a letdown just in case thats what happens.

Quoting StephanieRae:“ Well, both my parents want me to meet them. They have been telling me for years that I should. I mean ... [snip!] ... of them to reply. Honestly, if nothing else, I want there medical history to know if my migranes are genetic. So yep. Thanks!”

I was going to say it would be a great way for you to find out any medical problems. Just mentally prepare yourself in the event she doesn't want a relationship with you. Good luck!  

I honestly don't neccesarilly want a relationship with her, but I hear what all of y'all are saying.

Quoting StephanieRae:“ I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My father in law says that it's dumb that I want to meet my birth-mom, ... [snip!] ... didn't...or if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with me...I already have an amazing mother. What do y'all think?”

I wasn't adopted but my father was, and I am so thankful and glad that his birth mother found us. She is an amazing and incredible woman, with so many life experiences to learn from. Even though I wasn't the one adopted I grew up knowing that I had another family out there, and always felt as though a piece of me was missing. My grandma now is one of my best friends, and I don't know what I would do without her in my life.

Quoting StephanieRae:“ I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My father in law says that it's dumb that I want to meet my birth-mom, ... [snip!] ... didn't...or if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with me...I already have an amazing mother. What do y'all think?”

it's natural ot be curious....follow your heart...

besides..he's a male.. that automatically cancels outh is opinion 

Quoting Stephanie Rae =]:“ I was adopted when I was 4 weeks old. My father in law says that it's dumb that I want to meet my birth-mom, ... [snip!] ... didn't...or if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with me...I already have an amazing mother. What do y'all think?”

I gave my babygirl up for adoption. It's not that scott and i didn't want or love her... we just couldnt give her everything she deserved and needed. We both work full time to pay for our schooling... I am so glad my babygirl went to such loving parents. I wrote her a letter and gave her parents pictures of scott and i so she knows what she looks like. Ella's parents want me to be able to see her as she grows up which i am thankful for. I am glad I am able to be a part of her life so I can answer any questions that she may have. I do not think it's stupid you want to meet your birth mom. You must have a million questions and wonder why you look the way you do. I hope all goes well. Let me know if you need anything