PLEASE PROVIDE ME ANSWERS ON MY LOSS

I've posted on my issue a week or so ago with no enough information responded, so I am praying trying again will help. I have at what we THINK was 6 wks preg., an u/s that determined no fetal pole or heartbeat. (Mind you the u/s tech seemed as if she didn't really know what she was doing....she didn't even know my left ovary from right..which blew my finace and I's mind).. Anyway...they advised me to take cytotec since I was refusing a d&c again b.c of previous experience w. a m.c at the hospital.... So I took the cytotec and during the bleeding and passing I found the fetus. Some repsonses b4 said I would not be able to dectect a fetus that early, but upon calling my ob resourse center I did find that it is detectable if you know what you are looking at.My finace and I compared many fetus pictures online for 6 weeks and my little "figure" matched 100%. Now we are unsure if I was 6 or 10 weeks, which hcg levels were a little over 10, 000 a week b4 my u.s, as they were going by my last period (that was slightly abnormal)...and they were "considering" me being 6 weeks 1 day. Anyhow, they determined no fetal pole or heartbeat. As I said I saw the fetus. What I need help on is what EXACTLY a "fetal pole" means. I've looked it up many times and to my understanding is it "the fetus measurement". Now if they saw "no fetal pole" is it possible to see a fetus or does that mean no fetus formed??? Because we KNOW what we saw and I feel almost like they jumped the gun with passing the "miscarriage" with cytotec when everything COULD HAVE been ok? I feel like since my hcg levels were high they should have waited...BUT...my progesterone level was 7.7 which I understand is very low, but could that be a definate miscarriage level?? I have been SO extremely depressed after this was which was definitively my "2nd" and possibly 3rd...being as I had 5 hpt tests in feb. that had a FAINT second line. I don't know what is going on. I have my 1st child in a completely healthy pregnancy. Now I don't know if progesterone could cause of this of if maybe it was a doctor mistake?? I just don't know. I am a mess. I feel like checking myself intoa clinic, since I've been diagnosed with severe manic depression, bipolor, ocd, severe panic disorder, and severe anxiety. I'm so lost and I NEED help from women who've "been here"...I feel like I will never again be able to have another baby. I can't even think straight. Please provide me with some answers, anything could help...Please.











By the way, GOD BLESS all you women who've been through losses. Looking through this forum was so hard b.c you women have gone through SO much, and I pray ALL OF YOU the best.

Im sorry for your loss sweetie!!

Perhaps they did jump the gun... either way it is NOT your fault and you CAN have a happy and healthy pregnancy in the future! Best of Luck to you hon! God Bless!!

Sorry that I cant help or give you any advice
But Im sorry for your loss and I hope everything goes better
Keeping you in my prayers

I'm so sorry for your loss but I do not think they jumped the gun. Be it 6 or 10 weeks they should have found a heartbeat and they didnt. I believe a fetal poll is the the scale on which they rate the fetus as being viable but I could be wrong.

Gotta agree with Wifey...not your fault. You were acting on your doctor's orders and believed what they told you. What you saw after definitely an indicator that there was SOMETHING there.

However, there might have ben a fetus, but it doesnt mean it was a living fetus (so dont kick yourself too much. i know in your last post you felt like you'd hurt your baby. there is NO way of knowing if the baby was okay prior to you taking the meds, so dont dwell on that!)

When I had my MC, they told me the day before that they saw a 6 week fetus on US that was happy and healthy (I was 11 weeks) and to just go on home to bed-rest. Afterward, my hospital analyzed what came out and said "no products of conception" (meaning no fetus, placenta, amniotic sac, etc). Which was BS because I know what I saw too! So docs do make some pretty big mistakes (not that that is okay!)

Lots of prayers right back at you!

I am sorry but I do not have any answers for you, just prayers, sympathy, encouragement and hope for the future.  You have already proven that you can have a healthy pregnancy & child, and you will do it again in the future.  I am very sorry for your loss.

Quoting Allie's_Mommy:“ I've posted on my issue a week or so ago with no enough information responded, so I am praying trying ... [snip!] ... through losses. Looking through this forum was so hard b.c you women have gone through SO much, and I pray ALL OF YOU the best.”

Honestly, I do think that the doctors jumped the gun. Also, whenI m/c my hcg levels were VERY low, mind you 2 days prior I had a u/s and discovered that my baby had no heartbeat either, so I know how you feel. What my understanding is this:
1) Your hormone levels can decrease by half once your body realizes its no longer pregnant (thats what I was told when I m/c because my levels were low)
2) Whenever you "m/c" always allow your body to cleanse itself of the baby naturally. (personally I think because docs. can be wrong, d&c's or meds that promote your body to pass the baby is bad juju)
3) EVERY PREGNANCY IS DIFFERENT!! My last one that I m/c I had no symptoms of being preggers besides a missed period. This one I got damn near ALL OF THEM (hate to LOVE it!) BUT- what I did to ease my mind is I informed my doctor of my low levels (from my previous m/c and they automatically put me on progestrone for the first 10 weeks of my pregnancy.) They didnt even check my levels to see if I needed it or not, they just gave it to me as a precautionary.
Lastly) Be strong ma. Dont forget to give your body time between your m/c before TTC. I know some docs say its okay to try again right away but trust me when I say give your body 3 periods to re-set itself. Its like when you throw-up. You dont want to eat right away because chances are your gonna vomit again. You have to wait until your tummy "resets" and feels better. The same goes for your whole baby-making system. Good luck, I hope this helped answer some questions. Also my educated guess on a fetal pole (from my mc when they couldnt find one either) but anywho- a fetal pull is when the heartbeat can be picked up by doppler on a line thats supposed to be rippled (think about a heart monitor in hospitals) basically that detection of rhythem from the heart wasnt found....or somthing like that.