Forced to Cheat?

What do you do when your husband doesn't want you? The most my husband is interested in sex is twice a week. AND I think he's only doing that for me! It's not like he can't get it up or get it off, because he def. doesn't have a problem with that. I am so sexually frusterated and even more sick of feeling rejected. I try like heck NOT to initiate sex because I'm really sick of feeling like crap about myself. The other day we were chatting online and I told him how badly I needed it. He pretended that he was thinking the same thing, but when he comes home he FAKES being sick. I feel like I'm married to a f'ing woman!

I think about cheating all of the time and feel like he's forcing me to have these sinful thoughts. I DON'T want to cheat. I WANT my husband, but I just cannot deal with sex being once or twice a week!

Now we're fighting and he's spent the whole day in the basement all because I wanted to go down on him yesterday morning, but we had sex the night before., so of course that was simply out of the question. Getting off two days in a row! What WAS I thinking??

I want to bitch about my husband wanting 'it' too much like all the rest of the women on here!

uh yea wow......... 

He's not forcing you to have cheating thoughts...it sounds like your preggers hormones are.

What's wrong w/ rubbing one (or five!) out on your own? Is it mutally acceptable to watch porn?

Quoting Kathleen S:“ What do you do when your husband doesn't want you? The most my husband is interested in sex is twice ... [snip!] ... a row! What WAS I thinking?? I want to bitch about my husband wanting 'it' too much like all the rest of the women on here!”

Yeah, I had this problem too. It was very hard for me to be rejected by my bf at home every night, when I had this guy at work ALWAYS trying to date me and stuff. I felt like I wasn't pretty or good enough... plenty of things. I hope it gets better. Try to have an open conversation, keep your emotions in check, and see what's really going on.

I thought my bf had someone on the side for the longest, but it turns out he thought he didnt satisfy me in bed, so he didnt want to have sex and make himself feel bad.

Quoting CatLuvr83:“ He's not forcing you to have cheating thoughts...it sounds like your preggers hormones are. What's wrong w/ rubbing one (or five!) out on your own? Is it mutally acceptable to watch porn?”

Not sure what you mean by "rubbing one (or five)". It's not prego hormones, I've always had a high sex drive. Didn't know HE didn't have A sex drive until after we got married.... (Sept 1st 2007) and he traveled all of the time, so I only saw him on the weekends. Now that he's not traveling... I've come to find out the truth that he's only interested in sex once a week.

Quoting ♥ Justice's Mommy:“ Yeah, I had this problem too. It was very hard for me to be rejected by my bf at home every night, ... [snip!] ... the longest, but it turns out he thought he didnt satisfy me in bed, so he didnt want to have sex and make himself feel bad.”

I've tried talking about it, he comes up with excuses and then that's when I'll start getting 'it' twice a week. I've asked him "why can't we have sex two days in a row?" and his responce is "it's hard to orgasm". Now there have been so many times that I have initiated oral sex on HIM just to make him feel good, with it not being about ME. Heaven forbid he do something just for me, and not involve him getting off. If I don't climax, that's it. He will not even attempt to do anything to make sure I do. Fortunately 95% of the time we have sex I do orgasm.

Don't feel to bad mam maybe you should just sit him down and explain that even though he may not be feeling as hot as you are you need that attention for yourself and you need it from him your husband tell him even if it not sex a bubble bath set by him along with a back rub or foot rub, cuddling will help you feel waanted by your man that's what I had to do with my boyfriend now he's much better at first he was like pregnant womenwhere a turn off now he's up under me all the time. You'll be fine just tell him how you're feeling.

That's too bad that it's like that, but let me tell you - my husband would love you! lol. I go through periods of wanting sex all the time, and other times, not wanting it at all. Alittle inconsistant, but he has been very supportive and never bugs about it.

I don't know if you've really sat down with him and told him how you feel. Tell him that he's not being there for you sexually, and that it's coming out in other ways that you feel are harming your relationship. Sex is a big part of a relationship. I don't think that he is driving you to seek sex elsewhere, cause I don't think anyone does that. You can even tell him you feel lonely and unwanted, which it sounds like you are feeling. However, maybe he is feeling guilty about having sex while you're pregnant, there are some men who don't feel comfortable with it.

In any event, really sit down with him and have a serious talk, you'll feel better by finding out what's behind all this!  

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Just read some more of your responses, so you have talked to him. But maybe in a time specific conversation. Tell him about your needs as a whole instead of that tuesday night he didn't want to. Maybe that will get him to see. If all else fails, CRY! hehe.   Good luck!

Quoting Kassandra26:“ That's too bad that it's like that, but let me tell you - my husband would love you! lol. I go through ... [snip!] ... In any event, really sit down with him and have a serious talk, you'll feel better by finding out what's behind all this!  ”

Thank you for being so sweet. I've tried and tried and tried, but it's just not normal that me (the wife) has to constantly bring up the lack of sex in the relationship with him (the husband???) I feel like it's just so flipping backwards! And it makes me feel like crap about myself.

If your husband said "I'm going to take a shower" and you told him "when you come out, don't bother putting on any clothes, just come here and let me go down on you"... would he think that was a joke? Would he come out dressed? Needless to say Mine sure did. I'm just so tired of feeling like I have to force him or something....

WOW,....he really came out with clothes on??? My husband would be swanging right out the shower if I said that too him. I wonder what could be going on in your husbands head....?? Hmm....

Quoting **_Yvette_**:“ WOW,....he really came out with clothes on??? My husband would be swanging right out the shower if I said that too him. I wonder what could be going on in your husbands head....?? Hmm....”

Exactly!

I hate to say it but pregnancy if a turn off for some guys. Some see it as akward or are afraid they will hurt the baby. Some just dont like the idea of their package being that close to the baby. Think of it this way... You are a piece of art making a miracle and therefore he sees you as a beautiful creation not a sex object. Ever make the most amazing cake and not want to take a slice because its looks so great just as it it?

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ I hate to say it but pregnancy if a turn off for some guys. Some see it as akward or are afraid they ... [snip!] ... not a sex object. Ever make the most amazing cake and not want to take a slice because its looks so great just as it it?”

I could understand if this started when he found out I was pregnant, but alas.. that's not the case....

Quoting Kathleen S:“ I could understand if this started when he found out I was pregnant, but alas.. that's not the case....”

Did you just start to show? Maybe its just now sinking in that its real. I dont know about you but I have times where I just dont "feel" pregnant so I can imagin at times the guys feels the same.

Quoting Cowgirl47429:“ Did you just start to show? Maybe its just now sinking in that its real. I dont know about you but I have times where I just dont "feel" pregnant so I can imagin at times the guys feels the same.”

We got married in Sept and he traveled for work until about mid January. That's when I realized he was only interested in sex once a week. This didn't start after we found out I am pregnant...

He pretends (?????) that he finds me attractive... he ALWAYS gets off when we have sex and pretty darn quickly, might I add. I don't have a problem with him cumming in my mouth and he gets off that way too, so it's not like I don't 'go down' on him correctly....