Grrrrrrrrrr.. ( kinda long)

Okay, I am seriously at the end of my fricken rope here, I feel like I'm gonna lose my ever lovin mind! My eight year old daughter does not listen to anything she's told. This has been going on for quite a while and I have tried everything to try and correct it. She is also the type of kid that neverrrr stops talking, and is always in my face no matter what I'm doing. Don't get me wrong, I love her to death but I'm beyond frustrated. On a daily basis, I would say that I have to repeat myself at least a dozen times a day, if not more to get her to do every day easy things. She is not challenged in any sort of way, in fact she is very smart so I don't understand why she refuses to listen to me. I do a lot of things with her, I engage her in activities, let her have sleepovers here all the time so I really don't get it. She has been like this long before my son was born and she adores him so I know that's not it. Does anyone have a similar problem, or any suggestions??? Help!

Quoting Soon to be mommax3:“ Okay, I am seriously at the end of my fricken rope here, I feel like I'm gonna lose my ever lovin mind! ... [snip!] ... my son was born and she adores him so I know that's not it. Does anyone have a similar problem, or any suggestions??? Help!”

sounds like you may not follow up on your threats. you need to tell her if she acts up, you'll take something away or put her in time out and then do it. she doesn't see you as a threat in any way.

we are very child like w/our kids but, Elliot knows damn well, if we tell him to do something and doesn't It's time out and time out is no fun. we rarely have act ups and when we do, 90% of the time heis tired and or hungry. We talk about why we want him to calm down or not do what he's doing and if he keeps it up it's out to the car if we are in public or into his room if we are home. It works every time!

Do you think shes doing it deliberately to rebel? ... it must be happening earlier these days lol Seriously though i can imagine how frustrated you are! When i was younger i seriously did not want to do anything my mum told me, i felt that she was just bossing me about and trying to have power over me just because she could. (we still dont get on, shes a crazy-lady lol). I was so independent and refused to be 'manipulated' lol.

Ask her, 'why dont you ever do anything i ask you?' - see what she says! try and see if there is something bothering her, or if she is just being lazy? idk what sort of things she wont do, but for things like cleaning up and tidying her clothes away etc - just stop chasing up after her and doing the things that she wont. Then when it gets all too messy and she cant find clean clothes, well she will have to start doing things - and making the decisions herself will prob help her. Try setting firm boundaries, but give her time to do things e.g. i want your room tidy by the end of this week (rather than right now), and if its not done im taking your tv away etc and make sure to follow it through. Praise her everytime she does something when you ask too.

Sorry for rambling abit, hope things get better soon. You deserve a break now Mrs Preggo  

...an btw... i got a BFN today   next month here i come....

Quoting Monkyn&Coco'sMama (HippyB:“ sounds like you may not follow up on your threats. you need to tell her if she acts up, you'll take ... [snip!] ... he's doing and if he keeps it up it's out to the car if we are in public or into his room if we are home. It works every time!”

Oh I seriously always follow through with discipline, it's just that nothing seems to be working. Needless to say, she is a very stubborn child. I Don't spank at all, so it's mostly time out's, and taking her favourite things away. I'm honestly at a loss right now   Thank's for the reply.

Quoting Soon to be mommax3:“ Oh I seriously always follow through with discipline, it's just that nothing seems to be working. Needless ... [snip!] ... so it's mostly time out's, and taking her favourite things away. I'm honestly at a loss right now   Thank's for the reply.”

sorry I didn't have the answer. I have no clue. My oldest is pushing 4 so, taking toys away works most of the time.

Quoting twinmami:“ Do you think shes doing it deliberately to rebel? ... it must be happening earlier these days lol Seriously ... [snip!] ... things get better soon. You deserve a break now Mrs Preggo   ...an btw... i got a BFN today   next month here i come....”

She may be doing it to rebel, I'm not sure. Ya I have asked her plenty of times why she doesn't want to listen to me, her reply is always " I am listening" grrr lol. Thanks for the reply mama. I am praying that you will get your bfp next month  

Quoting Monkyn&Coco'sMama (HippyB:“ sorry I didn't have the answer. I have no clue. My oldest is pushing 4 so, taking toys away works most of the time.”

That's okay, you had a lot of good ideas  

I am having the same, kinda, prob with my 2.5. When he is told to do something, he starts to "dance" and yells "I DONT WANNA"! Then when I make him do what he is told, he is yelling, " LET GO OF ME, DONT TOUCH ME"! Sometimes I feel like Ripping out my hair! Dh on the other hand, stands there and watches 

have you tried to take her to get evaluated for add or adhd?....my daughter is 4 and was diagnosed with that...my lil one is actually quite smart but has a hard time controling her actions, doesn't listen to commands and is very active. she was constantly interupting me while i was talking or doing anything, she would start screaming if she didn't get her way and was very difiant...i mean by no means i am implying your daughterhas itandi don't know your child or what exactly is going on at your house, but it sounds so familiar with what i went throughi would def. keep a close eye on it, cuz by 8 they should be able to control they're impulses...i pray she doesn't have none of those conditions and its just a little phase she will grow out of. it's hard to manage a child who you think doesn't listen to word you say...i feel your pain.. hang in there it gets better  

Quoting **Sandy**:“ have you tried to take her to get evaluated for add or adhd?....my daughter is 4 and was diagnosed with ... [snip!] ... hard to manage a child who you think doesn't listen to word you say...i feel your pain.. hang in there it gets better  ”

Thanks mama, I may have to get her checked for that. I really hope though that it's just a phase.