Feeling like a failure

The first month after I had Gio I lost 35lbs. I have not lost any more! I'm 5'8 and 175. I am usually 145-155. When I first found out I was preg I was the biggest I ever was 182. I had morning sickness from hell and went down to 165. I lost ALL of my muscle. I have not budged from 175 in 3 months. I need to exercise so badly, but I have no motivation. I know thats the only way I can do this. I eat pretty healthy. I also have the Mirena so thats probably a contributing factor. I feel disgusting, flabby and not sexy what so ever.
Any tips ....how did you get the motivation???

Thanks ladies!

Well,I suck at motivation but make myself work out. Once I see the numbers move that helps me to stick with it. For me, it takes about 2-3 weeks to where I want to go workout. Right now I am all about jogging and walking and have been jogging for 3 weeks now and am just starting to want to get outside and do it instead of dreading it.

My clothes have started fitting better too, which makes me feel good as well.

I want to get mirena. Would you recomend it? Does it cause you problems?

I heard you cant drink alchoal when you have it or it wont work.. Is that true? I forgot to ask my dr on that one..

Don't look at it as, "I need to exercise" "I need to eat this" "I can't eat that". Negative works will give you a negative energy. So mentally your body will tell you..."no way!" and then NOTHING can motivate you. Do you have a Wii? Let me tell you, I have not stopped doing WiiFit since it was released! I've dropped pounds too! It's great!

Don't look at it as "exercise" "workout" "diet"...None of that! Those words tend to make us have negative feelings. It's a lifestyle change. When you plan out your days tell yourself, "I will go for a nice walk with my son today so he can see the birds, trees, etc." Notice their was no mention of negative words? You have to trick your mind into giving you a positive feeling.

A good tip...before you go to the store...make up your list at home. Think all healthly foods. Write it down and when you are at the store, stick to what you wrote on the list. Don't go food shopping on a empty stomach. You will want to buy anything, and everything haha!

Have you read "Skinny Bitch"? That book really changed the way I looked at the things I eat. I started eating a lot less mean and switched to whole wheat bread. Another book I found quite helpful was "The Secret". It doesn't deal directly with weight loss but it teaches you how to think positive and "pull" what you want toward you.

Hope that helps!

maybe find a exercise you like and just do that instead of doing a bunch of stuff you hate.. Like take walks with the baby or something relaxing. I wouldnt diet.. I couln't stick to one if my life depended on it.

drink a cup of green tea every time u eat a meal!! my boy friends whole entire family does it and theyre all losing weight! He even started doing it last month and has lost 10 pounds and he eats like a fatty.. seriusly! i just started yesterday so hopefully it works for me!

Quoting Cassidie:“ I want to get mirena. Would you recomend it? Does it cause you problems? I heard you cant drink alchoal when you have it or it wont work.. Is that true? I forgot to ask my dr on that one..”

I love it! No problems. It was a little uncomfortable putting it in, but it sure beats the hell out of taking a pill everyday. I read the whole booklet and I didn't see anywhere that you weren't allowed to drink. If thats true then I am soooo pregnant! LOL My doctor didn't say anything about it either. A few days ago I had some spotting, but they said thats norma. I haven't had a period yet. My doc said I probably won't since I still breatsfeed and having the Mirena can possibly diminish your period.

Quoting ShaunsGirl87:“ Don't look at it as, "I need to exercise" "I need to eat this" "I can't eat that". Negative works will ... [snip!] ... deal directly with weight loss but it teaches you how to think positive and "pull" what you want toward you. Hope that helps!”

I want the Wii so badly! I live FLorida soI really dread going outside I def.will try the positive way! I eatpretty healthy though, I make grocery lists at home and stick to them! I have just now come to realize thats not the only I am able to do. I have to further myself. Tomorrows my starting day....pray for me ;)

Quoting ~*Isabellahs Mommy*~:“ drink a cup of green tea every time u eat a meal!! my boy friends whole entire family does it and theyre ... [snip!] ... last month and has lost 10 pounds and he eats like a fatty.. seriusly! i just started yesterday so hopefully it works for me!”

I drink Arizona green tea. But thats probably not that good for you! Do they just brew a cup? I know green tea helps burn calories.

Quoting Gio's Mommy!:“ I drink Arizona green tea. But thats probably not that good for you! Do they just brew a cup? I know green tea helps burn calories.”

umm no lol thats sugary and has a lot of calories.. just get a box of green tea bags at the store thats just green tea its like 2 dollers a box of 40 bags.. and drink a cup of it with every meal.. seriusly my bf eats fastfood everyday and i make him big diners and he drinks one cup with each one and loses weight! i just started yesterday! im breastfeeding so i have a problem with being hungry all the time.. but today ive ate once and drank my tea and am not hungry at all

Quoting Gio's Mommy!:“ I want the Wii so badly! I live FLorida soI really dread going outside I def.will try the positive ... [snip!] ... now come to realize thats not the only I am able to do. I have to further myself. Tomorrows my starting day....pray for me ;)”

I know what you mean about the heat! Blah! Swimming really helps with that. GREAT exercise! Seriously though, it takes a lot of hard work and determination! You can do it!

Quoting Gio's Mommy!:“ I love it! No problems. It was a little uncomfortable putting it in, but it sure beats the hell out of ... [snip!] ... a period yet. My doc said I probably won't since I still breatsfeed and having the Mirena can possibly diminish your period.”

Awesome! I just forget to take pills.. my bf has to remind me daily to take my vitiamens.. So I was like damn.. the pills not a good choice. I was on the pill also when I got pregnant. So.. I want to go with something easier to remember.

Quoting ~*Isabellahs Mommy*~:“ umm no lol thats sugary and has a lot of calories.. just get a box of green tea bags at the store thats ... [snip!] ... so i have a problem with being hungry all the time.. but today ive ate once and drank my tea and am not hungry at all”

Alright! I will def. be getting green tea! I'll let you know how it goes. And you do the same!

Quoting ShaunsGirl87:“ I know what you mean about the heat! Blah! Swimming really helps with that. GREAT exercise! Seriously though, it takes a lot of hard work and determination! You can do it!”

So I did some research and i'm really considering getting Wii. It seems fun and I really think i'll want to do it! Thanks for the reference!

Quoting Cassidie:“ Awesome! I just forget to take pills.. my bf has to remind me daily to take my vitiamens.. So I was ... [snip!] ... the pills not a good choice. I was on the pill also when I got pregnant. So.. I want to go with something easier to remember.”

I did ok taking my vitamins. But now having him actually here...forget it! LOL