re: Help me..

Quoting northwind:“ You might not have meant for it to come out like that but don't ever tell a grieving mother thatshe needs to "get over"her child again.”

I didn't even read that post the first time around, ditto! Loosing a baby is something you NEVER get over, you just learn to deal and to cope and to live again. Be warned however dear, you might hear this again and again. I'm 3 months from my DD death and people feel I shouldn't cry anymore or dwell on her...but I still have times that I cry and dwell and I ALWAYS will.

There's a good book that i didn't read all of it but i like owning it called:
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart. It might be worth a buy for you too.

Jenna, you know I'm here for you. Whenever you need to talk. I'm online mostthe time now. No longer grounded, plus I figured out the password. =]

I'm so sorry this had to happen, I've been crying. I hope you're ok. Just know I care about you.

your baby was beautiful..just like her momma hang in there honney

Quoting ♡ 5/20/08-6/12/08 &:“ So, I was looking forward to a baby bump like a lot.. To everything that comes along in pregnancies.. ... [snip!] ... the inside... This is all probably my emotions talking.. I know she's watching over me.. I just wish I knew what was best..”

aw hunny. your girl will NEVER feel forgotten. she knows what your going through and she knows how you are feeling. seeing you with one of her brothers or sisters will make her smile. she knows how empty your feeling. i know how you feel. you just pictured yourself doing mommy tasks and having a baby around now that thats not the case you wont be fully happy until you have a baby.... i honestly TRULY understand. its not like your getting over your pain wiht her... you will never be over that. i mean your girls always gonna be on your mind, no matter wat. i really reallyy understand. reading this just totally was like reading how i feel right now and its weird cause you probly understand me too.

just know your girl knows shes everything to you no matter wat desison you make. and that your girl can be your everything and so can your new child if you choose to try and consive. suprisingly there is sooo much love for you to offer and your girl knows no matter wat you will always love her just as much as anyone else. if not more.

with the fact of your boyfriend not wantin to . just try to explain to him and make him relize that it will work out ya know? and to be honest god will not bless you with a baby unless its ment to be. thats wat me and my boyfriend are going on, if were not ment to have another child we wont be able to get pregnant.

Quoting Cassie2255:“ aw hunny. your girl will NEVER feel forgotten. she knows what your going through and she knows how ... [snip!] ... to be. thats wat me and my boyfriend are going on, if were not ment to have another child we wont be able to get pregnant. ”

I talked to alex today about it, and he still was on the whole "we should wait" thing. .So, I settled for a big rabbit! One that I can hold and love and take care of.. So, he asked his mom and... she said no.. :[[
My heart broke.. So, after that he promised me that when we talked to my OB and find out that it won't happen again, we can make another baby!  

Quoting ♡ 5/20/08-6/12/08 &:“ I talked to alex today about it, and he still was on the whole "we should wait" thing. .So, I settled ... [snip!] ... after that he promised me that when we talked to my OB and find out that it won't happen again, we can make another baby!  ”

wait...
so hes going to give into TTC?

congggrats momma!!

Quoting ♡ 5/20/08-6/12/08 &:“ I talked to alex today about it, and he still was on the whole "we should wait" thing. .So, I settled ... [snip!] ... after that he promised me that when we talked to my OB and find out that it won't happen again, we can make another baby!  ”

I'm sorry that you lost your daughter, I really feel bad for you, I know how much you are hurting right now. Honestly though, if you have to ask permission from your boyfriends mom to get a rabbit..... maybe you should wait until you are able to be a little more independent to have a child. I know that you will do what you want to do but you still have a lot of time for raising a family. I am in no way saying that this is why your daughter passed, it is ALWAYS a tragedy when a child dies. I really think it would be best for you to take the time you need to grieve this child and wait until you are able to be more independent though.

Quoting ♡ 5/20/08-6/12/08 &:“ Did you have another right away? Or did you wait? Thankyou..”

Im so sorry for loss..i miscarried and had a D&C done, a month later i was pregnant with a healthy baby boy!! hes now 18months after i had him i miscarried again at 9 weeks and got pregnant a month later and im now pregnant with a baby girl due in 4 weeks..You'll know when your ready

Quoting northwind:“ I'm sorry that you lost your daughter, I really feel bad for you, I know how much you are hurting right ... [snip!] ... would be best for you to take the time you need to grieve this child and wait until you are able to be more independent though.”

Well, the only reasons we had to ask her was because it is her house and her niece. Alex's niece's immune system isn't very good since she had a heart transplant at 6months. We're not allowed to have cats, and we just thought it'd be best to ask about a bunny.

Quoting ♡ 5/20/08-6/12/08 &:“ Well, the only reasons we had to ask her was because it is her house and her niece. Alex's niece's immune ... [snip!] ... she had a heart transplant at 6months. We're not allowed to have cats, and we just thought it'd be best to ask about a bunny.”

Well good luck with whatever you decide to do. Your daughter is beautiful.