re: Pregnancy after stillbirth nervousness

Hey,
I'm sort of going through the same thing right now. I'm pregnant after my daughter was stillborn (at 21 1/2 weeks) and then an early pregnancy loss. I'll be 12 weeks on Sunday but I don't ever feel like I will get that sigh of relief that I need. There was no known reasons for my losses (after lots of time and money went into testing for about 3 months, they found nothing wrong with me) Anyway, the only thing that helps me is praying. I don't know if you believe in God so I don't know if that will work for you, but it's the only thing that is keeping me sane right now.

i gave birth to a stil born at 5months..and i got pregnant again with no prolem and i am very worried...but i am here for ya and i think everything
will work out beautifuly

im sorry about your lost last year. I had a stillborn last july 1st. He was my first. i was38 weeks alongAnd I just had my second son May 17th. Do you have a doppler that you can listen to the baby's heartbeat?? i had one for my second pregnancy and it does help. i was scared that whole time i was pregnant with my son until i had him. Are you being watch closer this time?? i was watched pretty close. And had many ultrasounds.


melissa

Quoting Piglet & Tigger's MOM:“ im sorry about your lost last year. I had a stillborn last july 1st. He was my first. i was38 weeks alongAnd ... [snip!] ... son until i had him. Are you being watch closer this time?? i was watched pretty close. And had many ultrasounds. melissa”

yeah i go to the doctors every 2 weeks already lol its a pain to drive there though

Quoting Piglet & Tigger's MOM:“ im sorry about your lost last year. I had a stillborn last july 1st. He was my first. i was38 weeks alongAnd ... [snip!] ... son until i had him. Are you being watch closer this time?? i was watched pretty close. And had many ultrasounds. melissa”

Yes, I do have a doppler and am very thankful for it! They said that they will start watching alot closer around 28 weeks, but if I have ANY worries or anxiety to come right in. They said that 'watching' will include frequent ultrasounds and non stress test!

Wow! Our Angel's were born 12 days apart. I'm glad your second pregnancy went well!

To everyone else: Thanks so very much for your support and I'm sorry for your losses!

I lost my baby at 24 weeks 7-8 years ago due to unknown reasons. I had a 2nd level u/s only a week before she died, and all they said was that she measured a bit small and wasn't as active as they'd like her to be during the u/s (given that I was told to drink apple juice beforehand).Then after 2-3 days of not feeling any movement but with no other symptoms, I went to a routine visit and the doctor found no heartbeat. I delivered her the next day after they induced me and 6 hours of labor. They did a blood panel on me and I was fine. The hospital was also supposed to conduct an autopsy, but they FORGOT! So I never found out why my little girl died. They did see a clot in the umbilical cord, but since she's been gone for a couple days by then, they couldn't tell whether it developed when she was still alive or the blood coagulated after her demise.

Now I'm almost 31 weeks and seeing a high-risk specialist. I was very uneasy and fearful of losing her until I was about 25 weeks or so and the doc said she was measuring ahead. I also get a huge relief whenever I see her on the u/s, which I get about twice a month. I bought a doppler and checked her heartbeat whenever I felt she wasn't moving enough. She has lazy days and that freaks me out, but once I start to really worry, she also gives me a kick to let me know she's ok. I still get concerned now and then when she isn't as active. I don't think the fear will ever go away until she is born, and what a gloriuos day that would be. It's scary to think about losing this baby too cuz I don't know how I can go on without her.

Quoting Heather_Mommyof4:“ Hey, I'm sort of going through the same thing right now. I'm pregnant after my daughter was stillborn ... [snip!] ... if you believe in God so I don't know if that will work for you, but it's the only thing that is keeping me sane right now.”

My daughter in law and son lost their beautiful baby girl December 21, 2007. Her cord was wrapped around her neck twice and in a knot. It was so hard to accept especially since she was so perfectly formed. She was truly a beautiful baby girl. They are now pregant for a baby boy due (December 24th UGH) My son and daughter in law have so much faith that GOD will see them thru this. I only wish I had the same strength.

my baby boy was stillborn in january too and that was the hardest thing i have ever went had to deal with in my life. i am now 12 weeks pregnant with twins and i am scared and having a stressful pregnancy i am so nervous that i will lose these babies although i am trying to stay postive, but i have wanted a baby as long as i can remember and i am scared that my dream will not come true and i am getting older, but i feel the same way you do. i do not want a baby shower until i have my babies in my arms and i am not even buying nothing until they are in my arms i just feel better that way. my niece just had a baby so i will get all the neccesities from her until i have the babies....my doctor is great i have had 5 u/s already and a cerclage too but i am still scared that i am going to get another infection and lost these if you need to talk feel free to pm me..

Quoting findlaymom:“ My daughter in law and son lost their beautiful baby girl December 21, 2007. Her cord was wrapped around ... [snip!] ... 24th UGH) My son and daughter in law have so much faith that GOD will see them thru this. I only wish I had the same strength.”

I wish them the best of luck, I will keep them in my prayers.

I too lost my son at 39 weeks due to a cord accident... I am only 8-9 weeks along and I havn't got to the worries just yet just because Im still so early, but I've learned, as you have too, that life is never guarenteed, not even thedays before their due date.... I'm just putting this new life in God's hands and am trusting Him fully... I know I won't get to enjoy this pregnancy if I spend it worrying the whole time. Try to relax and cherish everyday with this new little one inside you, thats what Im doing   And we just pray they get to our arms this time with open eyes and arms  
I still miss my little one everyday, he would be 3 this upcoming Oct. I can't wait to see if this baby is going to look like thier big brother!  

Wow..

I lost my little girl on May 18th due to a umbilical cord torsion. I found out the same way as you..I had just been in the week prior and all was well..then over the weekend I thought I had passed my mucus plug so I went in only to findout I hadn't lost it and we thought all was well. The OB asked if I would like to hear Denise;s heartbeat for reassurance and that's when we learned that she had passed away. SHOCKING, right?

I have fears about getting preggo again and how to approach the emotional teeter totter that I'm bound to be on. I was hesitant with this last pregnancy because of a previous miscarriage and had told my sister that I did not want a shower until at least 32 weeks...well, I never made it 32 weeks but I am glad I put it off for that long.

I am now thinking that next time I am preggo, I will keep it to myself as long as I can and ask that anyone who wants to throw a shower or get gifts wait till baby is born. I may even wait to find out the sex until s/he is born so that I won't go overboard buying things.

RIght now, I have baby clothes and gifts in "her" closet, I cant bear to go through them yet. I have a garage full of carseat carriers, strollers and bouncers..all hand me downs from family.

I think it would be easier to wait until the baby arrives to have that stuff.

However, this being said....the likleyhood of having another loss is so low..but I think as mothers who have lost babies, we always feel we are that small percent of women who will defy the statistics and have things go wrong.

Life has no guarantees, and we shouldn't cheat ourselves of the excitement and joy of pregnancy. You do what's right for you...and I am wishing you the best of luck and a great outcome.