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I'm going out on a limb and assuming her life probably hasn't been all cupcakes and roses since she's in your custody and not your parents'.
She may be having a hard time coping with everything, as if being 13 doesn't suck enough. lol.
Maybe counseling?

Counselling for sure. My SiL should have been in counselling years ago and her parents never did it and now at 19 she's way out of control

I'm really not sure if there's anything you can do, aside from being there for her, reassuring her that you love her, spending some time with her... etc.

But chances are, a lot of it is being a teenager.

Quoting thechelseamonster:" I'm going out on a limb and assuming her life probably hasn't been all cupcakes and roses since she's ... [snip!] ... parents'. She may be having a hard time coping with everything, as if being 13 doesn't suck enough. lol. Maybe counseling?"

this is EXACTLY what I was going to write.

Quoting thechelseamonster:" I'm going out on a limb and assuming her life probably hasn't been all cupcakes and roses since she's ... [snip!] ... parents'. She may be having a hard time coping with everything, as if being 13 doesn't suck enough. lol. Maybe counseling?"

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I needed counseling when I was around that age and when my mom pulled me out I withdrew and became the world's biggest bitch. It really does help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" We have had custody of my 13 (almost 14) year old sister for a little over 3 years now. Here lately, ... [snip!] ... her something, the attitude starts and everyone's mood is just shot. It's driving me nuts! What else can I do about this?  "</blockquote>



talk to her! be her friend, she probably needs one who understands her situation.

Quoting The Doctor:" I'm really not sure if there's anything you can do, aside from being there for her, reassuring her that ... [snip!] ... her, reassuring her that you love her, spending some time with her... etc. But chances are, a lot of it is being a teenager."

    

I hated my parents for putting me in counseling for a "smurffy attitude"
I was just a bitchy hormonal teenager.

Quoting thechelseamonster:" I'm going out on a limb and assuming her life probably hasn't been all cupcakes and roses since she's ... [snip!] ... parents'. She may be having a hard time coping with everything, as if being 13 doesn't suck enough. lol. Maybe counseling?"

Yeah, my mom pretty much ran off when I was 12 and she was about 3 or 4 and our dad passed away 3 years ago. I had her in a program called Rainbows last year. It's a group locally for kids that lost a parent at a young age, they had counseling and stuff like that there too. I may look into putting her back in that.

I would say counselling and maybe have a girls' day once every week or two if she's completing her homework. You know, nails lunch, movies. Some one on one time with you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" We have had custody of my 13 (almost 14) year old sister for a little over 3 years now. Here lately, ... [snip!] ... her something, the attitude starts and everyone's mood is just shot. It's driving me nuts! What else can I do about this?  "</blockquote>




Get her some counseling! As if having teenage hormones wasn't enough, she's also dealing with the fact that she isn't in her mother's custody! That alone would, I imagine, would cause lots of behavioral and self confidence issues along with confusion and anger...

Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:"      I hated my parents for putting me in counseling for a "smurffy attitude" I was just a bitchy hormonal teenager."

Hell, I was depressed as smurf at that age, needed counseling, but it still didn't do smurf because they "made me" go, so I sat there in silence playing chutes and ladders with the "therapist" until she figured I didn't need counseling because I wasn't talking about anything that was wrong.

So. Meh. Maybe counseling will help, maybe it will do nothing or make it worse. Really depends on the person.

Counseling is only going to work if she herself wants it, or else she's going to really hate you for it and that'd end up making her act out even more. I think it's going to be important for you to find a way to get through to her. She's built up walls with her attitude and acting out to probably vent her frustration, so you have to figure out how to connect with her and really convey to her on a supportive emotional level. She probably feels like you don't understand for her, and you can only get there if you try to work with her at a level she feels comfortable with. So if I were in your shoes I'd just force a talk on her, one-on-one and see what I can do to help her with her situation. I'd try to get her to open up about what school is like, whether she is happy with her friends, whether she even has any friends, and try to give her a chance to earn back some freedom and leniency. I dunno, it's going to be a difficult process but love is the only thing that can help you get through this. I wish you the best of luck.

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I would say counselling and maybe have a girls' day once every week or two if she's completing her homework. You know, nails lunch, movies. Some one on one time with you."

This is what I was going to suggest, make some time for just her. Just remember while you are big sister, you're still filling the motherly role, so don't let it go to the point where she thinks you two are friends and then she can walk all over you. Counseling wouldn't be a bad idea either.. Does she have a journal or anything? Maybe she's just angry and doesn't have a way to vent, maybe asking her if she'd like to write her anger down and let her pick out a "cool" journal at Barnes and Noble or something? Sorry you're having to deal with this, but on another note I love your AVI.. made me crack up.

There's not much you can do, that's a teen for you lol. One day she'll look back on it and thank you. Keep doing what you are doing.