Rough relationship D&D

Say you're in an unhappy relationship. Would you rather have an openly unhappy relationship, where if you separate, people wouldn't ask questions but would openly judge your relationship (He's not good enough for you, it's your fault, blah blah blah.) Or would you rather keep it a secret and act happy as a clam every day, and when you break up people would be shocked and confused... Followed by "OMG WHAT HAPPENED?"



Sorry about the downer D&D, I see posts on Facebook every day about relationships. I am someone who used to be open, but I am not any more. Sometimes I rant to a friend, but I've realized a lot of my issues are actually me so I keep it quiet.. Though I am not a "fake happy" kind of girl.

We don't have a rough relationship, but if we did, I'd keep the issues between the two of us. No use bringing other people into my marriage.

I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship.

I was in an unhappy relationship and everyone knew we were unhappy because we were miserable. It's pointless to stay in a relationship like that, whether you fake being happy or you don't.

I ALWAYS keep my relationship to myself. Always have. In previous relationships when people who knew I was dating asked me "Omg, what happened.? I'd always be like, "IDK. Smurf happens." And leave it at that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:</b>" Say you're in an unhappy relationship. Would you rather have an openly unhappy relationship, where if ... [snip!] ... friend, but I've realized a lot of my issues are actually me so I keep it quiet.. Though I am not a "fake happy" kind of girl."</blockquote>




I would not stay in an unhappy relationship for any reason!

I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship, but for argument's sake, I would keep it to myself.
Your relationship is just that. YOUR relationship. It's not your friends', or every single person on the internet who is forced to see your little rants every.single.day.
**(not saying you in particular, OP, just anyone who feels like everyone else needs to know everything about their relationship).**

Quoting MommyToWesley:" I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship, but for argument's sake, I would keep it to myself. Your ... [snip!] ... saying you in particular, OP, just anyone who feels like everyone else needs to know everything about their relationship).**"

Oh no, I get it. I understand that I was an annoying little twat. Like I said, I had issues I had to deal with. I see posts like that, and I can't believe I was ever like that.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supercalifragil.......:</b>" I ALWAYS keep my relationship to myself. Always have. In previous relationships when people who knew ... [snip!] ... when people who knew I was dating asked me "Omg, what happened.? I'd always be like, "IDK. Smurf happens." And leave it at that."</blockquote>


This!! And I personally hate when people go on Facebook and are always making statues about how terrible their relationship is or how terrible their life is for that matter. Just because you can doesn't mean the whole world needs to be informed of your problems.

I think if someone's unhappy in their relationship, they should leave or do something to change it. At the same time.. I don't think people should announce their relationship issues to the entire world. When you let everyone know about you and your SO's problems, you're inviting other people in. People start giving opinions.. putting thoughts in you or your SO's head.. nothing good can come from it. I used to announce every little thing on FB and when I look back on it, I wish I hadn't. It's no one's business but yours. If you want people to stay out of your personal life, don't invite them in by sharing your problems with them.

Hmmmm, if I were unhappy I would keep it to myself for the most part. There are certain people that would know b/c I tell them everything.

Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:" Say you're in an unhappy relationship. Would you rather have an openly unhappy relationship, where if ... [snip!] ... friend, but I've realized a lot of my issues are actually me so I keep it quiet.. Though I am not a "fake happy" kind of girl."

I always put on an act when I was with SO and everyone thought our relationship was way better than it was. So when he got physical and I decided I didn't want to be with him anymore, everybody was shocked. My family still thinks it was "wrong" of me to leave him because they don't know what really happened. I didn't feel like it was any of their business though.  

I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship...

But if I had to choose, for the most part I would be quiet about it. Maybe I 'd vent to a few close friends but never post anything on facebook about it. I have friends that post every little thing they fight about on there and it drives me insane.

Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship... But if I had to choose, for the most part I would be ... [snip!] ... anything on facebook about it. I have friends that post every little thing they fight about on there and it drives me insane. "

I agree completely, I've learned the hard way not to air your dirty laundry all over Facebook. When you start complaining about your personal life with your SO to the public, the public feels they have the right to invade on your relationship. I'd rather people think I'm crazy for ending a "perfect" relationship than them know every little detail.
I hate hearing about people's relationships on Facebook. I have a girl on my FB who dated a guy for three weeks, married him, now she's pregnant with his kid and it's always something different with her.. one day she's saying she's happy and doesn't care what everyone thinks, then she's posting about how she found texts in his phone, then she's posting again about how happy she is.. and she wonders why people judge her.

Quoting Lilly'smommy5:" I wouldn't stay in an unhappy relationship... But if I had to choose, for the most part I would be ... [snip!] ... anything on facebook about it. I have friends that post every little thing they fight about on there and it drives me insane. "