re: FAILED 3rdTrimester Abortion?!?!

What procedure did they attempt to use to where it didn't work 8 times? typically that stage, the heart is stopped straight away prior to anything else (though you are rare in that pretty much nobody in the US will do the procedure post week 24). I'd consider a lawsuit, personally.

How are you two doing? I'm so sorry you're feeling so badly about this.   I almost had an abortion with my first and decided not to. The guilt ate at me really badly after my son was here. It helps to talk to someone. I know your story isn't even remotely like mine, but I can relate a little to the guilt.

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" What procedure did they attempt to use to where it didn't work 8 times? typically that stage, the heart is stopped straight away prior to anything else. I'd consider a lawsuit, personally."

They tried the saline-injection to stop the heart. & KCL injections into the heart

Quoting mommaofamiraclee:" They tried the saline-injection to stop the heart. "

That is a really outdated technique, to my knowledge---...has a lawyer been contacted at all?

I see you edited, potassium chloride makes more sense, but were I in your position, I would be looking into my legal options. I don't think it is legal in any state at that gestation, to start, and I'm thinking your doctor would be in some hot water here. Look into it. I'm sure it'd be worth it to pay medical bills, therapy, etc.

Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I see you edited, potassium chloride makes more sense, but were I in your position, I would be looking ... [snip!] ... your doctor would be in some hot water here. Look into it. I'm sure it'd be worth it to pay medical bills, therapy, etc."

By my experience, I think that legality changes depending on fetal mortality. When I was pregnant with my daughter, we were urged to terminate because of heart defects and a chromosomal problem - her chromosomes alone have a 98% prenatal mortality rate. We were told that if we chose to abort, we had the option until I went into labor.

Quoting Elle With Three &1/2:" By my experience, I think that legality changes depending on fetal mortality. When I was pregnant with ... [snip!] ... alone have a 98% prenatal mortality rate. We were told that if we chose to abort, we had the option until I went into labor."

Hmmm. Interesting.


It seems to me that of all the things people scream malpractice at...this would be one that probably would actually be a good case for it.


Seriously 8 attempts? He had to reallly smurf something up.

ANYWAY, Op...I had a 2nd trimester D&E. Not the same as what you're dealing with, but...clearly no judgment from me regarding your decision to terminate.


It didn't work out and now you're doing your best. I'd just take it a day at a time and try to relax.

And...seriously I don't know all the details but this has malpractice all oer it to me.

i too followed your story. i think u did the best u could with the information u were given by these doctors. i also think u might have some sort of a lawsuit.

Meds and deeply intensive therapy are all I can think of. I tried to imagine myself in your shoes, and had to stop.

Mama, I am so, so sorry you carry these feelings right now:-(. Your situation is unique and so must your healing be, there has to be someone out there in similar shoes. If this happened once it's bound to have happened before, and there are billions of women in the world, there's more than one woman raising a baby she didn't plan on( for lack of a better phrase and for whatever reason.)

Until you find one, remember you thought your son had no chance of survival. You thought his life would be short and painful if he lived at all. You were trying to spare him that. Keep that close to your heart and work outwards from there.
(hugs)

Your story just blows me away. I have no advice, just wanted to send you my well wishes. How is your baby? What's his name?

I had never heard your story before but my heart goes out to you. I have a friend who was told to abort because of medical reasons and she was already lying on the table when she changed her mind. I am 40 weeks and because of several factors have felt very guilty for not wanting to be pregnant. I recently had to confess to God and my husband how guilty I felt. God forgives and restores. Have hope, you have a wonderful blessing on your hands. There is a testimony of a young lady who survived an abortion..her name I think is "Brianna"? Anyway if you can look it up, it might be an encouraging read.

That little boy survived for a reason, take comfort from that. I'm nit religious in the slightest but there must be a reason he kept fighting.

As other ladies have said, consider talking to a counsellor.

Wishing you all the best.

I remember your post when this happened and I feel so bad for you and your family. I was told to abort my first daughter and chose not to. She passed away a month later. I know my experience is nothing like yours, but I can only imagine how you feel. I dont know if you are religious or not, but I believe in God and miracles and I believe that he has a wonderful plan for your baby and doctors couldn't even stop this wonderful life from being on this Earth. You and your family are truly blessed and I'm sure he has the best parents God could give him. Just remember that you didn't do that because you didn't want him, you did it because you love him so much that you didn't want him to suffer. He'll understand one day. I hope all goes well with everything and you start feeling better. You might have PTSD and a good psychiatrist could help with that. I will be praying for you and your family if your okay with me doing so.