toddler hitting mommy

my son is 2 (26mo almost 27mo) he wil hit me over and over when i tell him no or take a toy away that hes not playing correctly(like hitting or throughin) ive tried to spank him (doesnt work- I stopped) so i tried time out in a area i sit him down then he gets up then over & over (didnt work- i stopped) i am now trying putting him in his high chair which dont think its working just yet but it might.

its just so frustrating bc its only me that he hits. He got me good couple times. one time out of no where smack right on my eye. it hurt thank god he didnt hit me to hard. it just breaks my heart that he hits me. i know hes 2 and prob doesnt know any better but doesnt mean it doesnt hurt my feelings. i shouldnt let it and im working on it. oh Terrible twos are hell sometimes lol

Im open to suggestions and would like to know how you handled this situation.

thanks ladies.

Redirection, and time out are the only things i can think of. But you can't just give up after a few days or a week, it takes time and you can't back down. Also when he hits tell him " we don't hit mommy that hurts"

Try ignoring it. Act like it doesn't phase you. When he is being good and not hitting, praise him and give lots of positive reinforcement.
I would go back to doing timeouts, personally. You don't sound very consistent and he won't listen if you aren't.

My DS is 19 months old & likes to hit as well, but as you stated they truly don't know what they're actually doing. It's funny to them. I wouldn't hit him thou. Just bcuz you are punishing him for doing the same exact thing & what does that really teach him? I tell my son "get away from me, you're not nice" and he gets so upset & more less it's like his feelings get hurt. Maybe try that approach?

The last time DS tried to smack me was months ago. I was sitting down and he reached back as far as he could, and right before he connected with my face I grabbed his arm and pulled him in close, and firmly told him "You don't hit me, you don't hit anyone".

It scared him, he cried, he stopped. Some might not agree with what I did, but whatever. Time outs and redirection didn't do anything for him when it came to hitting.

Quoting 624582:" The last time DS tried to smack me was months ago. I was sitting down and he reached back as far as he ... [snip!] ... might not agree with what I did, but whatever. Time outs and redirection didn't do anything for him when it came to hitting."

    

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" Redirection, and time out are the only things i can think of. But you can't just give up after a few ... [snip!] ... after a few days or a week, it takes time and you can't back down. Also when he hits tell him " we don't hit mommy that hurts""

oh i dont try it for couple days ive been trying for weeks now.
but yeah i dont back down hes testing me i know it. i do tell him we dont hit mommy that hurts.
thanks!

Quoting ℳary ℐane:" Try ignoring it. Act like it doesn't phase you. When he is being good and not hitting, praise him and ... [snip!] ... I would go back to doing timeouts, personally. You don't sound very consistent and he won't listen if you aren't. "

i dont think ignoring is going to work. i could try if the timeouts dont work.
well after tryng for weeks on timeout on the floor in a corrner isnt working im going to try somehting else doesnt mean im not consistent. prob bc i didnt say how long i was trying them for.

thanks!

Quoting Kirsten  :" My DS is 19 months old & likes to hit as well, but as you stated they truly don't know what they're actually ... [snip!] ... "get away from me, you're not nice" and he gets so upset & more less it's like his feelings get hurt. Maybe try that approach?"

no he is crying and upset & hitting me. i dont think he think its funny.
and thats one of the reasons i stopped the spanking bc im doing what im telling him not to. thanks it makes sense. so i moved onto time outs on the floor... now its timeouts in the high chair.
ill think about trying the last thing you said.
thanks

Quoting 624582:" The last time DS tried to smack me was months ago. I was sitting down and he reached back as far as he ... [snip!] ... might not agree with what I did, but whatever. Time outs and redirection didn't do anything for him when it came to hitting."

see thats along the lines of what daddy doesn but when in serious telling him that its like it doesnt fase him. ill think about trying that. thanks!

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☠BryBry's MuM☠:</b>" see thats along the lines of what daddy doesn but when in serious telling him that its like it doesnt fase him. ill think about trying that. thanks!"</blockquote>



It really boils down to being firm and not giving up. I'm a SAHM, DS acts differently with me at times than he does with DH. When DH tells DS what to do he listens 9/10, but with me he tests me.

Also, I deepen my voice when I'm being firm. I know that sounds strange, but that's when it's the most effective it seems.

That approach was never my plan of action, but I got pissed off and I was tired of being smacked in the eye. Lol

Quoting 624582:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☠BryBry's MuM☠:</b>" see thats along the lines of ... [snip!] ... it seems. That approach was never my plan of action, but I got pissed off and I was tired of being smacked in the eye. Lol"

yes! thats how he is with us both! but im not a SAHM i work but i am the one that actually takes care of him (SO never gets dinner ready for him, bathes him, brushes teeth before bed)
ive tired deeping my voice i guess i need to go deeper clears throat : EEPER:: lol
ya im getting pissed now its not koo to hit.

It took some time for my son to stop hitting me. I just kept putting him in time out and finally the point got across. All I can say is good luck.

Quoting rpgmomma8404:" It took some time for my son to stop hitting me. I just kept putting him in time out and finally the point got across. All I can say is good luck. "

okay thanks hun!