Regretting Kids

Okay, so not exactly regretting. I feel awful, but there are times where I wish I'd only had one. I have two, so not many, but it feels like a lot to me. I think about how easy things would be if I could just take ONE kid places. Like, when setting up appointments, or classes for them, I always have to figure out how to handle them on my own. Today is my daughters first Karate class, and I'll need to entertain my youngest which means I can't watch her because he takes so much attention. I can't take them to the pool on my own because I can't handle them both.

To add to it, my youngest is a very difficult child, and I find myself so often thinking "things would be SO MUCH easier if I only had one kid."

I feel horrible saying that. I love both my kids so much! I don't wish I didn't have either of them, I just wish, maybe, I'd had them further apart?

Can anyone relate? Again, I feel so bad even saying that, because I don't really regret either of them. Maybe it's just that I regret having them so close, because I think about all the fun things I could do with just one which are so much more difficult with two. Please, someone remind me that it gets easier as they get older, lol.

Sometimes I wish I had none! Usually I feel this way when I need a break/peace. Lol

I think everyone feels this way sometimes though

Quoting Regina George ♡:" Sometimes I wish I had none! Usually I feel this way when I need a break/peace. Lol I think everyone feels this way sometimes though "

Exactly this!!!
Is there any way you can get someone to watch them for an hour or two so you can do you?

I only have one kid but I really regret having him when we did. He was not planned, I was on birth control. We both were on the same page with wanting to be married for several years and be able to go on awesome vacations together and save money, blah blah blah....yeah, we got pregnant ONE smurfing month after we got married. Sometimes it's really hard not to dwell on it, but I love my son so much and he's so amazing, I just wish I could have had him right now instead of 4 years ago. DH and I missed out on so much stuff  

I can DEFINITELY relate. My children are 19 months apart and my youngest is also an extreme handful....I think all the time about how easy life would be if I only had my 4 yr old.

I can relate, but just know that it does get easier.

My boys are 4 years apart and while I agree that's a good amount I still find difficulties in it as well. The point is that being a parent is hard, period. All you can do is the best you are able to do. There is nothing wrong with how you feel because you're human and you're allowed to get overwhelmed. And yes, it will get easier. It has to, right?  

Quoting Regina George ♡:" Sometimes I wish I had none! Usually I feel this way when I need a break/peace. Lol I think everyone feels this way sometimes though "

lol! I don't usually feel that way. I really do have fun with them, and I'm not a really social person, so I do enjoy them. I guess I just wish I could do things easier.

They are 2 and 3, and the 2 year old is a runner and a screamer. I wish I could like, just watch the other one at her Karate class, you know? But I'm all stressed because now while she does karate and then soccer I'm going to have to somehow keep him happy.

I think when they're like, 5 and 6, it will be so much better. He just, he doesn't talk at all, and he's SO difficult, lol. I feel bad that I can never focus on her. We don't have any family where we live now, so I can't just drop him off and take her to a class on her own.

Awh, mama. Recognizing that a certain way is easier doesn't mean that you regret your kids. It's just a reality. It WOULD be easier with just one. It would be WAY easier with none! Lol. Don't feel guilty.  

Quoting she nan igans:" lol! I don't usually feel that way. I really do have fun with them, and I'm not a really social person, ... [snip!] ... focus on her. We don't have any family where we live now, so I can't just drop him off and take her to a class on her own."

Girl, 2 and 3 is the hardest age ever! When they're 4 they are smart mouthed little jerks but they at least listen (for the most part)   Will the two year old sit in a stroller? My Son has always been a wild child and so he was always in a stroller cause he's a runner.

Quoting Just Ames:" My boys are 4 years apart and while I agree that's a good amount I still find difficulties in it as well. ... [snip!] ... with how you feel because you're human and you're allowed to get overwhelmed. And yes, it will get easier. It has to, right? :)"

lol. Let's hope! I'm terrified of when he turns 3. My oldest is a sweetheart and 3 is a breeze with her (so was 2). Him? He makes me want to pull my hair out before he was ever close to 2, haha.

Now, when people are like "I want my kids close," I feel like saying "are you nuts?" I wish someone had slapped me when I thought that was such a great idea, haha.

I think part of the problem is people feel oligated to have more than one kid..I get a lot of weird comments about having only one-no one's damn business in my opinion...but it is easy with one...

Quoting Just Ames:" Girl, 2 and 3 is the hardest age ever! When they're 4 they are smart mouthed little jerks but they at ... [snip!] ... the two year old sit in a stroller? My Son has always been a wild child and so he was always in a stroller cause he's a runner."

I'm bringing the tablet to let him play with that and sit in the stroller. I am HOPING that works, but we'll see. His sister is so different. Seriously, I was SUCH a bitch when I had her. Thinking I knew what I was doing because she was this perfect little baby. haha.

He has taught me some humility. He's that kid that lays on the floor screaming in the store for no reason, haha.

Quoting she nan igans:" lol. Let's hope! I'm terrified of when he turns 3. My oldest is a sweetheart and 3 is a breeze with ... [snip!] ... kids close," I feel like saying "are you nuts?" I wish someone had slapped me when I thought that was such a great idea, haha."

Yeah, I couldn't do it. I didn't even TTC for #2 until my oldest was 2. I'm too old for that smurf, lol. It's hard right now with a 4 year old and a 2 month old but I'm a "new" parent of two so I know it's just about adjusting.

But I feel you with your Son. My 4 year old is a nut! A very hyper go-go-go, defiant little butt but he is also the most incredible little person and I love him to the moon   His high energy and quirks are just part of who he is and the sooner I realized that, the easier it was to deal with him. KWIM?

Quoting Susan Schultz:" I think part of the problem is people feel oligated to have more than one kid..I get a lot of weird comments about having only one-no one's damn business in my opinion...but it is easy with one..."

I wanted two. heck, I thought I might want 3. We had 5 in my family, so I was used to big families.

Then I had my 2nd, and I got those tubes tied, haha. NO MORE.

I just thought having them close would be so great. I was delusional.