What is your take on this?

2 mutual friends had a disagreement. One is a friend and one is a best friend. We all went to a birthday party, things were going fine. After having too much too drink things started to get out of control. We all go to an afterparty at another friends house, one of the people at the house dislikes my best friend and demanded she leave. Suddenly the people we were with (who were all besties with my best friend a few minutes prior) were yelling at her to leave too. We were going to leave together and were waiting for a cab.

During this time the homeowner and my best friend talked out their differences in private and she could stay. A couple of us went to the bathroom and my best friend was still in the living room, my other friend was surrounded by friends. She took this moment to call out my best friend calling her all sorts of awful names and demanding she leave. She was twisting things (and I knew the situation since I am a mutual friend) so I got involved and called her on it. Long story short my friend left and immediately made very public and rude FB posts about me that were not true. Me and my best friend stayed at the after party and had a drama free night and a good time with everyone there. She blocked me. Now 2 days later she has unblocked me and removed the posts.

Do you think I was wrong to stand up for my best friend? How would you handle all of this? I want to point out that all of our other friends stayed out of it completely. I specifically did not like how my friend seemed to wait until my best friend was not as popular to bring all of this up. Kind of like kicking someone who is already down.

I don't see anything wrong with standing up for one of your friends. But IMO I woulda stayed out of it in the beginning. Too much drama been there done that.

I don't think it was wrong for you to stand up for your best friend but what i don't get is why would you stay? If when you guys were at the first place and you realized that it was getting out of hand, why would you proceed to go somewhere else where that girl was going to be and THEN after they disrespect her and yell names at her etc, still stay ? It kind of sounds like you all were asking for the drama.

And i don't deal with facebook bullsmurf. Save that for high school.

I'll be honest, I didn't even read the whole thing. Long story short, all ya'll need to grow up, that kind of behavior is not becoming of an adult. Drunk fighting in someone else's home, dragging personal affairs onto a public forum like facebook, etc....no. Not ok, regardless of what prompted it. This is petty, high school drama.

this was so hard to follow lol... but if a friend was talking smurf to my other friend I would get offended, and even more so if she went on fb like a child and was talking smurf about me on fb.

Honestly, y'all are way too old to be having this petty drama.Tell them both to STFU and move on. One of them should've been an adult and left. Clearly, there was gonna be drama.

To answer your question, if you're a mutual friend and you knew the problem, you should of stood neutral. It was their conflict that had nothing to do with you. If it bothered you that she was talking bad about your best friend, you should've said "hey, she just went to the bathroom, she'll be right out. You should say this stuff in front of her." She would've felt stupid, kept her mouth shut and moved on. That's just my opinion though.

Quoting Nikkie Beee:" Honestly, y'all are way too old to be having this petty drama.Tell them both to STFU and move on. One ... [snip!] ... say this stuff in front of her." She would've felt stupid, kept her mouth shut and moved on. That's just my opinion though."

It was said in front of her. Maybe I didnt word it very well. Out of everyone I had definetly had the least to drink, I dont even think I would consider myself to be drunk. The only reason I stayed when I thought it was going to get worse is because the friend who was having the birthday asked me to please stay just a little bit longer, and she is also my good friend and really jsut wanted to have a good night out since we all have small children and dont get together very often. Dont get me wrong, I was hoping there wouldnt be such stuff happening but as people were drinking I kind of figured the possibility went up.

I am pretty sure their friendship wont recover from this but I think at least the birthday girl had a good night.