Pregnancy and high school

To any of the expecting teen mothers or the mothers who have had kids in their teens, how did you cope with it and going to school?

I am 17 I am pregnant, obviously and I am not sure how to cope. I am 18 weeks along and I haven't told that many people at school yet, a few of my teachers don't know yet. I'm afraid of the looks and talking behind my back I will get when everyone finds out, I know it shouldn't matter but I can't handle anymore stress than I already have. I don't want to be bullied or looked down upon. Now that I am 18 weeks along, I am obviously showing and people have started to question me and spread gossip, and rumors! How can I deal with being maybe the only pregnant teen in my grade?

I should make time to see my school counselor, she doesn't know I am pregnant yet. I love my daughter that I am carrying more than anything and I look forward to holding her and graduating but until she is born, I'm not sure what to do.

By ignoring them. You'll definitely find out who your true friends are. You should stay in. You have what, two to three months of school left until summer?

Meeting your school counselor is actually a wonderful idea.

I wasn't pregnant in high school but it didn't make it any easier either being that i was technically still "young".
In all honesty, people will talk about you whether you're pregnant or not. All you can do is focus on your education and make SURE you graduate no matter what. Most likely they will have some things to say, but it will stop and you won't be topic of interest anymore. As for telling your teachers etc, i think if you talk to your school counselor she may be able to tell them. I'm not really sure how that works and you don't have to tell anyone else Smurf that you don't want to.

Good luck!

You're going to have to suck it up and ignore it, don't let them get to you. You're 17 and pregnant, people are going to talk, plus it being high school doesn't make things better, talk to your counselor and whatever you do please graduate. There might be an alternative school for pregnant teens? But with you already being 18 weeks your teachers should know by now IMO.

People are going to talk smurf no matter what, so don't listen to it and just ignore them. I would definitely go meet with your counselor. They should be able to help, and may even get things set up so you can graduate early. Staying in school is the best thing you can do. Getting your education is so important.
I'm in college with DS and it is hard, but so much more rewarding. And I know I will be able to do more and provide more by finishing school with him.

this will be the first of many challenges in teen parenting. you just have to live your life and dont listen to what others may say. you know the truth so eff em. people are gonna talk and there is nothing you can do about it. focus on graduating and getting ready for your baby. Definitely go see your school counselor asap. good luck honey, you will be fine!

I was 17 and pregnant, but I wasn't in highschool I was actually in cosmetology school and I never had an issue because everyone else was older than me and were mothers already themselves lol but if it really bothers you you could look into online public schooling. My sister did it, she would do so many hours of online school at home and go in twice a week to take a test to make sure she was learning.

definitely talk to your school counselor and see what your options are

Who cares about what anyone says.. They're irrelevant.. I got pregnant in the middle of my junior year, but I ended up leaving and doing online classes when I was barely 2 months pregnant because my morning sickness was that bad.. It was honestly better because I could get my sleep in and eat when I needed to and I didn't have to miss school for appointments and what not.. I could do my homework when I wanted and I tried to keep to a schedule most days.. It took me a semester long to graduate but only because when I started doing online classes, I was only taking 3 instead of six.

I had my son in junior year I did home school until graduation then i randomly showed up and graduated...it was a little awkward.

Work. Hard. Seriously, there are a few women I know who busted their asses and are more successful now than most of our classmates. I worked once with a girl who had a son at 15 and worked her butt off and sacrificed the rest of her free time and childhood and eventually founded her own company and makes a 6 figure salary now.

Some teen moms think that it is not important to succeed in life if it means that they have to sacrifice their free time or that they have to work hard at it. They are used to having things handed to them and they rationalize to themselves that it is okay to just get by because they had a baby. This is what people will probably think you will do. Prove them wrong. Work part time and provide for your daughter, even if your parents are still supporting, start saving for your baby girl and your lives together after you move out someday. If you work hard, people will be impressed with you.

People are going to talk.. if you listen to them is your choice. Just if anyone asks you say yes and walk away with your head held high. It sucks going to school with a belly, but when you really think about it you're a home to a wonderful baby you call your child. Everybody who stands there and makes rumors about you doesn't matter don't even give them the time of day. Your daughter is the one that matters, she'll be born soon and she'll love you no matter what. Trust me I know it's hard not to listen to them talk, but the more you stress about them the more that baby is going to stress and that's not good. Good luck 

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alice's Mama:</b>" Work. Hard. Seriously, there are a few women I know who busted their asses and are more successful now ... [snip!] ... for your baby girl and your lives together after you move out someday. If you work hard, people will be impressed with you."</blockquote>




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I had my daughter at 18, busted ass, and now at 21 DH and I have -careers- and will be debt free with our own house and two cars by the end of the year. In five years he'll have finished his degree with no debt and we'll have a tidy nest egg on top of that. You get your priorities straight, ditch your lameass deadbeat friends (no offense meant, we all had them in high school) and find your grownup groove.