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Having your father in the delivery room

posted 19th Mar
When I gave birth to DD my dad was with me pretty much the whole time I was in labor. When the time came to push I asked if he wanted to stay and he said yes. It was a very emotional moment for him because even though he has two other granddaughters, my DD was the first one he actually saw be born. I'm also his only daughter and his youngest child. I never thought anything of it.

Anyway, I was talking to a friend and we were talking about our labors and whatnot and I mentioned everyone that was in the room with me. She said that it was gross and "wrong" that I had my dad in there. I was kind of offended..I mean, I don't think it's weird at all. Me and my dad are close. He wanted to be there for me. I really don't see anything wrong with it.

Also, I was watching this movie about Casey Anthony and the defense were trying to say that her dad molested her when she was younger and that's why she didn't show any emotion when her daughter disappeared and blah, blah, blah. Then someone said "I mean, come on, her dad was in the room when she gave birth to Caylee, that's just weird." Or something along those lines...and implying that maybe they were "too close". Something stupid like that. It just got me thinking, I guess.

Sorry this is so long haha. Anyway, did any of you have your dads in the delivery room with you? Would you ever? Do you think it's strange at all? Also, my dad was up by my head when I was pushing if that makes a difference.
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I have 1 child & live in Michigan
posted 19th Mar
I don't think it's weird that he was in the room with you but I would never have my dad. We really are not that close though since he has always traveled for work and works a lot lol
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I'm due November 3rd, have 1 child & live in Holland, Michigan
posted 19th Mar
I wouldnt want my father in the delivery room and we are very close i had a c section anyways so it was just SO but if i had gone natural it would have been my mother also. But I dont think its weird to have him in there. It s about what you want and what makes you comfortable
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I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Waterloo, New York
posted 19th Mar
I don't think it's weird at all. It's basically implying giving birth is a sexual experience. Which IS weird. So, they are the weird ones.
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I'm due October 28th, have 3 kids & live in Texas
posted 19th Mar
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" I don't think it's weird that he was in the room with you but I would never have my dad. We really are not that close though since he has always traveled for work and works a lot lol"

Right, I mean if I wasn't close to my dad I probably wouldn't have had them in there. But we've always been close so I didn't see it as an issue haha.
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I have 1 child & live in Michigan
posted 19th Mar
I don't think it's gross or wrong- however I would not have been comfortable with it and neither would my dad. I'm very close with him but I've also been very modest when it comes to that stuff. I was even a little uncomfortable with my mom in there. *shrug*
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I have 2 kids & live in New York
posted 19th Mar
I didn't have my father in the room and I never would, however I don't think it's strange or wrong. If that's the kind of relationship you have with him that's awesome. I mean he was watching your child/his grandchild be born that's not gross or wrong.
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I have 1 child & live in New Hampshire
posted 19th Mar
Oh GOD no! Never in a million years. But that is just me. I think it is weird personally but I don't think it is wrong at all. Do what ever you are comfortable with.
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I have 3 kids & live in AMITE, Louisiana
posted 19th Mar
My dad was in the room and I don't find it weird or gross at all. He was a great labor coach and it was special having him in there along with my mom and husband.

I don't get why someone would think its gross  

ETA: he was up by my head and anytime the doc checked me he left the room.
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I have 1 child & live in Sugar Grove, West Virginia
posted 19th Mar
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. The issues are with society not with your relationship with your father. Don't let anyone make you feel weird. I feel that you have a very healthy relationship with your father if you both were comfortable.
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posted 19th Mar
I don't judge just by that.. but the few times I've seen a father in the delivery room.. it was definitely odd situation and nurses were concerned about abuse. But... the dad wouldn't even leave when I put the foley in... that gave me the creeps.

but... idk.. it's your relationship, who cares what others think. If he was by your head and not staring at your vagina the whole time I dont' see an issue with it.
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I have 4 kids & live in Georgia
posted 19th Mar
My dad was I don't see anything wrong with it.
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I'm due July 1st, have 1 child & live in Douglasville, Georgia
posted 19th Mar
I think your friend has daddy issues.
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I have 4 angel babies & live in Tallahassee, Florida
posted 19th Mar
I don't think its weird but I woudn't have either of my dads in there with me. but its wat you want anyway
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I have 2 kids & 3 angel babies & live in Michigan
posted 19th Mar
I don't see anything wrong with you having your Dad in the delivery room.

The next time you hear someone say something like that just give them the most disgusting look you possibly can, like they are the most filthy thing you have ever laid eyes and announce to them you cannot believe how perverted their mind is and they ought to be ashamed of themselves. They are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves because it really does say more about how their mind works than anyone else.
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I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Glasgow, United Kingdom
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