re: How do you cope? **LONG**

u hold ur head up when you're in those stupid situations. u did what u did bc it was what was best for you. those ppl weren't in your shoes and don't know what it was like so who cares what they think. it does suck when those feelings resurface but u have to keep telling yourself that u did the right thing and there's nothing that can be done about it now. maybe look into changing doctor offices too....?

Quoting *Whoknows*:" So my friend told me about this website, I do not get online too often so I thougth I would make a quick ... [snip!] ... that has had an abortion, how do you cope? How did you heal? I thought I had but obviously I have not. How do I forgive myself?"

I had an abortion with the "abortion pill" in January of 2013. I am not over it. I regret it everyday of my life. I have constant reminders by pregnant women at church and school. I did it because my husband has been unemployed since January and I already have 5 children, two of whom are in college. I was desperate. I could not deal and did not trust in God. Now I have to live with the guilt forever.

Your not a bad person, criminal or killer. Thats whats wrong with people who jump on people about aborting; they act as if your mind frame is that of a killer. A killer thinks about how, when, where and with what they are going to kill you. Those that have been through abortions think about why do I have to make this choice, what else can I do, where to go, I dont want to, I have to........and they say why not adoption? cause its easier to let go of something you haven't seen, touched or felt verses a baby you've felt kick, a baby you pushed out and once adopted technically is just out there somewhere.

Its like when you chose not to go out, or eat that cookie; it was a choice you had to make for you and you didnt affect anyone....not even the bundle of cells that you returned to God for the next person that is at the right time in there life to have a baby.........

Would so much like to speak w/ you but don't believe this is the correct forum. I am not a counselor. My abortion was in 1977, I was 16. I have been where you are, as a matter of fact, I go there every year. Not so much for guilt but because I accepted my responsibility, and acknowledged my child & my lose. I came to a place of regardless of the how or whys, he existed & I owe him a place in my heart.That was my child and he deserves to be remembered. It's the secrecy that's haunting you, Sweetie. I gave my baby a name & I mourned him as a mother does when she loses her child.